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We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

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bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 18:07

Just that - he’s doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere . We did go out for a bit today and he had a face like thunder. Im walking on eggshells the whole time - he’s so snappy. Whatever I suggest doing its a no. I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend - we planned it together. He’s just more and more like this with everything these days . We are in the hotel room now - have been back here since 3 pm (didn’t go out til nearly midday) and he’s asleep . I could go out to eat on my own later but tbh I’d feel a bit awkward sat somewhere eating on my own. It wasn’t what I had in mind ! I’m seriously thinking of just going home - I could bloody cry though. The fall out will be awful if I leave early 😢

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CherrieTomaties · 14/12/2025 14:15

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 23:13

I’ve had a lovely evening- got chatting to some really lovely interesting people. Got some angry texts from DP asking wtf I was playing at. Back at the hotel now and guess what he’s fast asleep. So glad I went out - thanks again for all your support 🥰

Im so glad you had a nice evening with nice people! This is what life’s about.

Don’t let this selfish piece of shit hold you back in life. Don’t tread on eggshells any longer.

Once you get back home - end the relationship! This man doesn’t care about you.

silverwrath · 14/12/2025 14:09

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 18:28

We’ve been together for 8 years . No he has no way always been like this. It’s crept up really, I guess. He has no friends- no desire to make any . He’s so unsociable it’s almost embarrassing

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You don't live together? After 8 years?

That said given the state of your relationship it's a plus. Much easier to walk away. Why would you continue to be with someone who makes you this unhappy?

Do yourself a massive favour. Go home. And seriously consider your next steps. Life is so short. Is this really how you want to live it?

mummytrex · 14/12/2025 14:02

Hope you're ok this morning OP. Honestly life is too short for this sort of thing.

MyAmusedPearlSquid · 14/12/2025 14:00

Op why on earth do you stay with this man go home and also pack his bags while your their

Notmyreality · 14/12/2025 13:54

FinallyHere · 14/12/2025 13:30

Nope, you really don’t need to get to the bottom of it. He could use his words but you really don’t owe him anything.

you are not a human support appliance who needs to be endlessly supportive regardless of how he acts.

this actions tell you all you need to know. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated. Don’t pour out all your support on a partner who does not have your back.

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Imagine this was a reverse and the poster’s wife was grumpy and non communicative.
Yeah she should use her words, dump the bitch!
Honestly the level of vitriol against men on here is next level, and has been said on many a thread recently, balanced and level headed advice is now almost impossible to come by.

19lottie82 · 14/12/2025 13:36

Oh god, I wasted my thirties on one of these moody fun sponges!

just be glad you don’t have any commitments with this guy and get rid of him now. Life is too short.

you’ll feel like you have had a weight lifted from your shoulders, trust me!

FinallyHere · 14/12/2025 13:30

Notmyreality · 14/12/2025 13:00

You havent really told us anything OP other than he’s grumpy. Have you tried to get to the bottom of it? Pushed for a reason why? There might actually be something serious going on with him. You need to have it out with him.

Nope, you really don’t need to get to the bottom of it. He could use his words but you really don’t owe him anything.

you are not a human support appliance who needs to be endlessly supportive regardless of how he acts.

this actions tell you all you need to know. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated. Don’t pour out all your support on a partner who does not have your back.

MrsJeanLuc · 14/12/2025 13:26

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 18:17

We don’t live together

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Well there you go, problem solved. Ditch him and join a dating site.

ElevensesKing · 14/12/2025 13:15

Get rid of him, he's not going to improve as he's shown you what kind of a person he is which isn't a good one. Think of how different and joyous Christmas 2026 could be if you get rid of him now. Think of the freedom and joy you could have next year without him.

Swiftie1878 · 14/12/2025 13:14

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 18:19

No mental health issues

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You say this a little flippantly for me.
Definitely sounds like he’s depressed or worse.

I’m not saying that means you should put up with his ‘grumpiness’ or, God forbid, try to ‘fix’ him, but you should at least check he’s OK before you walk away.

Pedallleur · 14/12/2025 13:08

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 18:28

We’ve been together for 8 years . No he has no way always been like this. It’s crept up really, I guess. He has no friends- no desire to make any . He’s so unsociable it’s almost embarrassing

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And it's not going to get better. You are on your own anyway since he is making your life miserable. If you leave, will you be worse off? He will not change so you have to make the change

Notmyreality · 14/12/2025 13:00

You havent really told us anything OP other than he’s grumpy. Have you tried to get to the bottom of it? Pushed for a reason why? There might actually be something serious going on with him. You need to have it out with him.

ChristieMcVie · 14/12/2025 12:56

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 23:13

I’ve had a lovely evening- got chatting to some really lovely interesting people. Got some angry texts from DP asking wtf I was playing at. Back at the hotel now and guess what he’s fast asleep. So glad I went out - thanks again for all your support 🥰

This is what the rest of your life looks like without the moody man child. Please get rid of him. You sound like a lovely, interesting person and he does not deserve you.

Shedmistress · 14/12/2025 12:54

What is the point in a relationship where you can't even have a weekend away together?

CloudyYellow · 14/12/2025 12:50

Not excusing his behaviour but could he be depressed or having an affair?

Billybagpuss · 14/12/2025 12:50

How was he this morning @bagpuss90 hope apologetic, or is he now an ex

pinkyredrose · 14/12/2025 12:45

Dump this arsehole life's too short to spend it with a miserable bastard.

CautiousLurker2 · 14/12/2025 12:45

Leopardsandcheetahsarefast · 13/12/2025 18:19

Because I’d say this and either

  1. wait for him to storm off and enjoy mysrlf
  2. book another room
  3. drive or call an Uber

I would not put up with it and tell him why not

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I’d call him and uber and tell him to FO to his home.

He’d be my ex DP by the time before the door closed behind him.

themerchentofvenus · 14/12/2025 12:43

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 23:13

I’ve had a lovely evening- got chatting to some really lovely interesting people. Got some angry texts from DP asking wtf I was playing at. Back at the hotel now and guess what he’s fast asleep. So glad I went out - thanks again for all your support 🥰

Well done for going out and having fun! Make the most of being away and if he doesn't want to go out then just go and do something you want to!

MrsPerfect12 · 14/12/2025 12:39

Glad you went out. Please dump this guy. My dad was like him and he made us all miserable. Don’t be my mum. You deserve so much better.

CraftyPlayer · 14/12/2025 12:37

Hope you’re ok op

BountifulPantry · 14/12/2025 12:25

Literally get home then change your locks. Get anything important from his house. Then end it. One conversation. You don’t need to provide him an explanation except « it’s not working for me » then block him on everything.

RememberBeKindWithKaren · 14/12/2025 12:18

Hope you manage to get him to sort himself out I hope you can ditch him ,Op. Good luck !

TheBerry · 14/12/2025 12:12

bagpuss90 · 13/12/2025 23:13

I’ve had a lovely evening- got chatting to some really lovely interesting people. Got some angry texts from DP asking wtf I was playing at. Back at the hotel now and guess what he’s fast asleep. So glad I went out - thanks again for all your support 🥰

So glad you went out and had a good time! Keep doing that. Ask DP if he wants to do such and such and if he just wants to stay in the room say you’re going out by yourself.

Bamfram · 14/12/2025 11:49

What an utterly toxic relationship.
Why would you tolerate this?
Please end it. No relationship is worth being abused for.
Get rid of him.