To dump DP after what happened last night

@Sharptonguedwoman me too. It’s unforgivable and if it is in carpet it will soak through to the underlay and floor and will ABSOUTLEY stink and there would have been loads of it too, not a small amount as if it was a puppy or a cat having an accident. poor OP

Has he actually, at any point, apologised for being a disgusting sex pest?

Or is he still simply blaming everyone bar himself?

Well you can reassure him that unless they specifically test for weed then it wont show. It'll be highly unlikely they'd look for that in a screen for drugs typically used to spike people. Plus, even if it did show, they wouldnt be slightly interested in that.

But, he is obviously bullshitting you. He was probably on coke all day. I dont mind people who have maybe had a couple of lines (none of my business) but people who have nailed it all day have no idea how much theyve drunk and become absolute dickheads.

Hes disgusting op. I do hope you see through his very obvious lies and get rid of him. At 2 years hes barely gone beyond boyfriend status.

If anyone pissed in the corner of my sitting room I wouldn't think chucking him out was an over-reaction. And he'd be cleaning it before he left.

The lying stands out here. He lied about being spiked, lied about taking drugs.

This won’t be the first time or the last. Talk about showing you who he is (and what he really thinks of you).

What a lying bullshitter.
Wouldn't believe a word from him.
Scrambling to excuse his disgusting behaviour.

Off with you because you didn't succumb to coercive sex with a drunken slob.

I wouldn't split over one night of excess.

However this seems to be a trend and the attitude to sex would make me get rid instantly.

The lack of apology or respect this morning would be a deal braker.

Only you know whether it's worth breaking up over but you will always remember this. My husband did something very similar when I was heavily pregnant with our first son. He had the car at work so I had to get a taxi to him and back. It was just awful and so embarassing. He peed the bed that night too. I should have left.

Hilarious.

Imagine he was actually the problem in his marriage and his ex and her home is well rid of him.

The sick, drunkenness etc I could look over. Possibly even the pissing if it was a one off. Don’t get me wrong, I would be fuming and he’d definitely know about it, but I’d get over it.

However, his attitude at you not “servicing” him? That’s a binning offence then and there. No amount of alcohol or weed smoking can excuse that, and it shows exactly what your role is in this relationship as far as he’s concerned.

And of course, he's such a catch isnt he? Women lining up to ask him to move in! Tosser

He’s a loser - a liar too.

dump his ass

@Relationshipover2 you need to use the spray that breaks down urine or the smell will never leave. You can buy it at Pets at Home.

I would be more concerned about the pestering for sex. Utterly revolting and shows such disrespect to you

Ah yuk op, he’s a nasty coke head. If he had got his weapon out you’d have realised it was shriveled to the point of being unusable anyway. This man is revolting and I really hope you find your self respect and ditch him. Plenty men out there who are perfectly nice and will not coerce you for sex whilst being out their bin on cocaine and urinating in the home you’ve worked hard for. And take it from my experience the chances of him stopping taking drugs are slim and he’s doing it WAAAAAAAY more than you think. Sorry OP, this one is a dud.

10 pages in and it has only just been realised he was on coke- that was evident from the sex pestering and the locking himself in bathroom for ages which was in the OP- plus the amount of alcohol he managed to consume, cant believe anyone thought he was spiked

Sounds like ketamine.

I really hope you find your self esteem and tell this loser not to bother coming back.

So he was doing drugs as well then.

Oh well done! Don't stew! I'd be having a party! Thank god you've got rid of such a revolting man.

Ugh.

I was going to say, whilst spiked sounds unlikely, its irrelevant, a nice person doesn't turn into a sex pest when spiked, they are confused, want to lie down, feel awful and in the morning they feel really bad and are horribly upset at whats happened.

Doesn't sound like him at all, particularly given his binge drinking history and his using binge drinking as a 'coping strategy' for stressful events like meeting key friends of yours.

With the additional information though - he's been on the marching powder, knows it'd show up in a drugs test.

It won't be the first time and that will be why he's come back with the raging horn and the snarky pissy behaviour when he didn't get what he felt he was owed.

Get shot of him, this is who he really is, and he does not give a flying fuck how much it upsets you, scares you, damages your stuff, whatever. It's all about pleasing himself and it'll only get worse.

Re: Blood test

So, we can infer that this man has been abusing recreational substances in additional to alcohol.

He’s a washed up mess, and you have been minimizing his behavior.

End it now.

The drinking, peeing in living room, being covered in sick is gross, but nothing beats the demanding sex- worrying ick.

Yes, what a charmer.