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To dump DP after what happened last night

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Relationshipover2 · 13/12/2025 15:26

NC’d for this. There have been some minor flags around my DP’s drinking in the past but nothing like what happened last night.

DP was on his work do in town and I was expecting him home late. I got a call about 10pm as I was getting ready for bed and it was from his phone - but when I answered it wasn’t him. It was a colleague who told me I’d need to come and pick him up because taxi’s were refusing to take him because he was covered in sick.

I went to get him, he had to be helped into my car by two colleagues propping him up. He was smashed, had been drinking since 2 on an empty stomach and was an absolute mess with sick all down his jeans.

On the drive back he was barely making sense, he kept saying he wanted to have sex and was turned on. I got him in the house after telling him to take his clothes off in the porch and set up bedding on the sofa (I’ve got a spare room but it’s an office and no bed) and left him to go to sleep.

I heard a load of crashing two hours later, he had fallen over into my coffee table (it collapsed) when walking in the dark. He then told me he had not made it to the bathroom in time and had pissed in the corner of the living room. Bullshit because the bathroom is in the other direction.

This morning he still seemed drunk and got funny with me for not ‘seeing to him’ sexually and then said he’d sort himself out and locked himself in the bathroom for ages.

He has finally sobered up this afternoon and claims he was spiked and is going to make a report to the police.

I am 99% sure that didn’t happen but does anyone think there’s any chance that’s true? I’ve never known him to get that drunk.

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GCAcademic · 13/12/2025 15:33

muggart · 13/12/2025 15:30

no, no way would i end an otherwise happy marriage because my DH had too much to drink as a one off. what an overreaction.

She's not married to him, and she doesn't say it's a happy relationship. The only contextual information we have is that there have been red flags around his drinking previously.

Thatsalineallright · 13/12/2025 15:32

He is revolting and doesn't even have the decency to take responsibility and properly apologise. Don't put up with this.

ETA: who cleaned up the piss and fixed the broken table? If it wasn't him, then LTB x1000

WhatASmashingBlouseYouHaveOn · 13/12/2025 15:31

Drinking from 2pm onwards on an empty stomach was never going to end well was it? Guess you'll never know if his drink was spiked or not, but it sounds like it was a mega drinking session. You say he's raised a few red flags with his drinking before. What were those?

I'd not be happy at all with any of that behaviour 😕. Get rid, I'd say.

muggart · 13/12/2025 15:30

no, no way would i end an otherwise happy marriage because my DH had too much to drink as a one off. what an overreaction.

RhaenysRocks · 13/12/2025 15:30

It happened to an ex of mine. Really good guy and it was totally out of character. He rang me at 2am, with no idea where he was, no coat, no wallet. Very disoriented. I managed to persuade a taxi firm to bring him home and I paid them. However none of that excuses his behaviour this morning.

LiftAndLetLift · 13/12/2025 15:30

Of course he's lying about being spiked.

If he's usually a wonderful, caring, fantastic partner and never given you a moment of hurt then I'd forgive.

If it's the latest in a string of selfish behaviours, I'd dump.

TheatricalLife · 13/12/2025 15:29

I'm usually quite understanding about someone having a few too many and being a bit silly, but his revolting behaviour about sex this morning would be an immediate binning offence. Absolutely no way back for me after that.

Whereismyfleeceblanket · 13/12/2025 15:29

Ltb and don't look back.. My ex used to get into a state most Sundays and piss in my wardrobe..
He used to makee ring in sick for him regularly on a Monday..
Thankfully you haven't married him op. Easier to get rid.

Largestlegocollectionever · 13/12/2025 15:28

Urghhhh no way would I put up with this or get past it, yes I’d finish with someone for this behaviour as guaranteed this isn’t the first or last time!!!