to withdraw my daughter from nursery

You won't be allowed in for stay n play etc. she broke the rules
... How is that hard to understand. So she either takes down the picture because anyone mum has complained and promises next time to not bring in her phone.... Jesus why is it so hard to follow nursery social media policy and the rules

They tell the parent direct that they've broken the rules and consequences will happen

Consequences? Like what? Seriously.

Lying in wait for her? Don’t be so ridiculous!

They can ask but they can’t make them.
They’ve broken a nursery rule, not a law.
Yes, the parents in question are dicks but the nursery can only do so much.

My dc primary school has a rule that you can take photos and videos at school events but don't share anything online. Secondary school we are not allowed to take photos or videos at all. One of my dc has a friend who is adopted and can't have any photos of him shared online. Everyone at school knows this but there are still some idiots who think the rule doesn't apply to them.

And that's for a future time.

I also don't mind photos being shared, I don't understand the no photo people

I think you need a little perspective on this OP. It's perfectly understandable that you don't want to post photos of your child online in general, but expecting 100% compliance is probably not realistic as she moves through school. You can control your own permissions and actions, ie never post yourself, ask the same of friends and family, and don't give photograph consent at school.

That will minimise it, but it really isn't possible to have zero presence in other people's photos unless you are extremely protective and present. This is particularly true if she ends up playing competitive sports.

This. 100%.

It's not a difficult rule to follow.

Yes they can.
They broke the rules of the nursery and as a result then images have been shared. They will have policies. If they don't take them down than they won't be allowed at any future events.

The parent broke the rules in the first instance.

OP, we also have a total ban on anybody posting photos or videos of our daughter. Until she is old enough to make her own choices about her own privacy and what she wants to be on the Internet, she relies on us to protect it on her behalf.

We've been in your position, and had content taken down by speaking to the other parent. Since it's now the holiday and they haven't read your message, you could try reporting the video on the platform as most have policies around children and parental consent.

We'd be really angry at the entitlement and thoughtlessness of the other parent, but if it's an isolated incident then I think we'd be wary of taking her out of a place she thrives, in your words, when the horse has bolted and there may not be another. It's a rubbish position you've been put in.

The group I volunteer with has a family in it where there are safeguarding issues if the children's photos appear online. One of the team spoke to the mum to double check the situation (I had picked it up on the consent form) and she would prefer that they appear in the photos with an emoji rather than being completely excluded as the school excludes them from all photos.

We invited the parents come and see them getting their presents from Santa and one of the other mums started filming her child who was beside one of the children from this family. We weren't sure how to deal with it at the time as this mum is a bit unpredictable and we didn't want to cause a scene. In the end I put a general message in the group chat acknowledging that some parents had taken photos and requesting that they only share photos of their own children as there are families in the group who don't want their children to appear online. This mum immediately replied that she had only taken photos of her own child. In future we will post a reminder before events.

But no nursery can compel someone to take down a photo. They can't do anything so it's not their fault this happened. It could've happened in the park, at soft play, at a kid's party.

Just ask her to put an emoji over your child's image in the pic as she may really like it of her kid so be reluctant to take it down fully.

No they don't have a queit word. They tell the parent direct that they've broken the rules and consequences will happen. They will also delete the picture they've posted on SM as it contains other children and their parents have complained.

OK so the nursery has a quiet word on Monday and says "Excuse me, Ms Brown, we've had a complaint that you have posted photos/videos online and as you know that's against our policy, would you mind taking them down?" and Ms Brown refuses. So then what?

It's a polite request. Policy, not law. The nursery have much better things to be doing than policing people's personal social media.

and they’ve said they’ll address it the next time they see the parent. What else would you expect them to do?

You are neurotic for this point of view. Actual child abuse and photos of your child who no one gives a crap about is not even slightly comparable. Get over yourself. Ask them to remove it but removing your child is so unhinged.

Becomes the nursery issue when they've broken the rules on site... And when pictures are online from the nursery,?

Yes they did. But that’s not the nursery’s fault.

OP you will need to make some kind of peace with this before your child starts school. Unless there are specific safeguarding concerns, most schools will allow filming but ask parents not to share online. There’s nothing that can be done to enforce it though.

It’s also worth thinking about so that you know what you do and do not want to consent to. Don’t end up as one of those parents who refuses all types of photo consent but then complains because their child is never in the newsletter or was left out of the local newspaper’s ‘first class’ photos.

You're also being highly offensive too as this undermines actual, real abuse.

Not one single person on this thread agrees with you. That should set off alarm bells for you. Your children are recorded and photographed in public. Do you not take your child out to the beach or the park?

pedophiles do not need to rely on other mums and dads posting their clothes children ffs. They can photograph your child walking in the street. Your child will be in the background of someone you don't even know exists photos and videos. Not everyone is interested in your kid.

yes of course don't upload images of them in swimwear but that's basic common sense.

you need to get help for this level of anxiety bordering on stupidity.

you cannot police what other people do.

They broke nursery rules?

Errr we aren't allowed phones past the entrance

It’s not abuse. Saying it is, undermines actual abuse.