to withdraw my daughter from nursery

It is an ofsted issue as schools aren’t allowed to post pictures without consent and do need to have safeguarding policies in place.

BUT I would say here the nursery do seem to have safeguarding policies relating to this and it wasn’t them who posted it and who videoed it without them knowing.

barring handing phones in (which isn’t common) what could they have done

If they still inspect nurseries make the complaint and let them decide.

It's not an issue for Ofsted.

I wouldn’t remove her because it isn’t their fault. I’d imagine they made their policy clear at the beginning, as schools always do before any performance (they will say feel free to record but please don’t share on social media). This woman disregarded the rules, feeling like her own narcissism was more important.

I can’t believe anyone wouldn’t understand the reasons some children cannot be on SM, it’s rare but there are of course children who have fled DV for example. It’s just so selfish.

Complain to OFSTED or whoever licences the nurseries now.

I totally agree with you. I think its nuts that society seems to think that its normal for kids to be all over social media. Get your husband to report the post and it will be removed by facebook as their is a child involved

Just to say @MethodHandbag that I totally agree with you and we have the same rules. However, noone can completely control the world around them, other people, or anythin really. You can only do your best.

You will get people filming at all sorts of places and your DD may well be included accidentally and then posted online, mostly you will never know! I think you will have the same problem at every nursery and school with people taking pictures and videos of their children, all you can do is ask them to take it down or blur out your DD.

YANBU to be upset but not something I'd remove her from for.
even at school you will sign for no photos shared via school but parents at performances will video etc school ask not to be shared online but that's obv
not guaranteed

You not being unreasonable to be upset, but to remove the child over just this is probably not the best idea of your otherwise happy with the nursery. If you have safety concerns for your child, I would suggest you contact the police.

removing her won’t stop this. I see this at my daughters school where despite emails, posters and the head standing up to ask for no photographs due to safeguarding around some children, people still do. Selfish

This. It’s getting completely overblown. 🤷‍♀️

I am torn. Is your daughter in immediate danger? So fleeing from DV, dangerous family dynamics or someone may attempt tk collect without permission? Is the nursery named/identified in the video?

If not then no I wouldn’t pull her.

As gentle as possible, you need to get help with your overprotectiveness. My mother was very overprotective when I was younger (found out later it was from abuse). It put a significant strain on our relationship as a child and young adult. I was pretty wild and reckless as a child and young adult and a lot of it was from trying to break out from her. We didn't have much of a relationship for a while. Eventually we reconciled but it took her opening up to me about her reasons and me establishing boundaries. We had a great relationship until her death but it wasn't good for a while

Good Lord 🙈

Schools do not try to stop filming as it’s just too impractical.

Any child who absolutely cannot be on social media will not be able to take part in performances. It’s sad but that’s the way it is now.

Yet they share the details of her birth family with school mums.

She's not overreacting. A child in my kid-s class is adopted. Her birth family are violent and potentially dangerous to her. I know because her adoptive mum told me. Photos or videos shared online of this child are a major risk, and could help her burth family locate her. There are reasons why we should protect children like her from exposure, and preserve their anonymity.

Get a grip

I think posting images of your children online is the new smoking. Initially both were promoted as good, then research showed both are potentially very harmful. Some people listened to the research and changed their behaviour, some listened to the research and never even began to engage in the behaviour. Some listened to the research but continued with or started the behaviour anyway. Unfortunately, innocent people are caught up, either through second hand smoke or their own children's images being shared on social media by others. If you want to take the risk for yourself or your family then that's your choice, but it is incredibly selfish to endanger others and should be called out when it's happening.

We are the same in that we don’t share any of our child’s details or photos on social media. I also always say no to their photos being shared by nurseries. However, the reality of today’s world is that it will inadvertently happen no matter the safeguards or policies that the nursery put in place. Simply, many people like the other parent are ignorant to the dangers and don’t think about anyone but their own.
sorry this has happened OP but I do think it’s important to brace yourself that this will likely happen again as your daughter goes through the school system.

Why did you contact your friend on instagram? If you’re so concerned about her posting the video, why didn’t you pick up the phone and ring her?

Advise OP about what actions she could take.

Massive over reaction because of your own trauma ! If there's no safeguarding concerns like an abusive ex or she's a foster child I dont see the huge issue you can't wrap your kids in cotton wool are you going to pull her from every school this happens in because believe me there is always parents that thinks the rule doesn't apply to them and will film at events !

Which aspect of GDPR has been breached by the nursery?

It would be helpful if you can quote it - because many familiar with the regulations will struggle to follow how a private individual doing something with their own videos breaches GDPR which are regulations primarily aimed at businesses and public services.