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To buy this gift for 3.5 year old?

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andanotherproblem · 12/12/2025 17:30

I went shopping today, I bought a Christmas present for a 3.5 year old and just thought it was cute as I don’t know her too well or what she has. Now I’ve got home I’m thinking is it acceptable to buy a 3.5 year old pretend make up? I personally wouldn’t be bothered if someone bought for my DD but I don’t know what others may think.

To buy this gift for 3.5 year old?
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Thedogscollar · 12/12/2025 23:51

Solentsolo · 12/12/2025 20:44

No way would I give that to any child, no matter what age. It’s so grim the way we treat kids as mini adults as opposed to kids.

100% agree with this. There are so many other interesting toys out there.

Topjoe19 · 12/12/2025 21:00

Bit young at 3, but perhaps ok to play with on Barbie dolls or one of those make up heads? One of those sticker dolly dressing books would have been great or something similar.

bridgetreilly · 12/12/2025 20:48

At 3, they still sometimes randomly stick things in their mouths, so no, it’s really not a great gift. Sorry.

WanderlustMom · 12/12/2025 20:47

It’s a nice gift if that’s what the 3 year old likes, but it’s pretty random to be a general gift for a toddler you don’t know very well.. I would have gone with something else personally

Growlybear83 · 12/12/2025 20:45

I would have been absolutely horrified if anyone had bought something like that for my daughter at that age and it would have gone straight into the charity bag. I think it’s dreadful to give makeup to a tiny child.

Ambridgefan · 12/12/2025 20:45

I wouldn't buy that for a three year old.
But I wouldn't buy it for my seven year old GD either.

Solentsolo · 12/12/2025 20:44

No way would I give that to any child, no matter what age. It’s so grim the way we treat kids as mini adults as opposed to kids.

JudgeBread · 12/12/2025 20:43

It's listed as ages 5+ on tkmaxx website so based on that alone I probably wouldn't buy it for a 3.5yo

A bit older and I think this sort of thing is fine though, with a nod from the parents.

I do think people are a bit hysterical about "indoctrination" with play makeup. I definitely had some like this from Claire's when I was a kid and haven't worn a lick of makeup since I was about 23, so I don't think it will automatically create a pledge with the devil to wear a full face of makeup 24/7. But it's one of those things. Get the parents 'ok' first.

MrsT84 · 12/12/2025 20:42

My mum has got something similar for my 3.5 year old and it doesn't bother me. We paint her toe nails for her (don't use it on fingers as don't want it in her mouth) and she will have a little play with the make up. I trust my daughter to play with it when I am nearby and not to use it to paint the walls or rug! Its just a bit of fun!

Flowerpower63 · 12/12/2025 20:42

Seen as you asked…! I would definitely not buy or recommend giving this to a 3 year old. There are hundreds of other presents that would be more suitable, fun, less plastic tat etc. You know the parents and maybe they’ve love it for their child but most would not. Tbh I’ve not even bought my 6 year old any pretend make up let along my 3 year old.

Zanatdy · 12/12/2025 20:42

I wouldn’t use it for mine that young. I’d return it

TootsMaHoots · 12/12/2025 20:41

Mine had wooden make up when they were little. It was great because I could sit on a cushion and get a make over but I didn’t look like a pantomime dame at the end. They didn’t get real make up until they were much older and I wouldn’t like anyone giving them make up.

WheresBillGrundyNow · 12/12/2025 20:37

I think it’s nice. I just bought something similar for DD’s friends bday. She’s six and specifically asked for real makeup though.
If the parents don’t like the idea of her putting it on herself, she could make up her dolls.
That’s what I did with dd when she went through the short lived “interested in makeup stage” at about 4yo.
Only thing about three and half yo is they’d have to be supervised with it because they’re still quite liable to poke themselves in the eye or eat it or something crazy. That might cause tantrums and be a bit of a pita.
Personally I probably wouldn’t have bought it for someone else’s kid unless I knew they wanted it and that it wouldn’t irritate the parents to be completely honest but it’s bought now and it’s the thought that counts after all.

Imicola · 12/12/2025 18:28

My DD is 7 and I'd be swearing under my breath if she got this. Many parents are fine with it, but many aren't... and once it's been opened it puts parents in a rather difficult position if they don't approve.

hattie43 · 12/12/2025 18:24

It is cute but not for a 3yrs old .

CurlewKate · 12/12/2025 18:23

I wouldn’t have wanted anyone to give it to mine-sorry!

Clefable · 12/12/2025 18:22

lilyboleyn · 12/12/2025 17:35

I wouldn’t give it to mine, but I’d say thank you and pretend to love it.

Yep, same here!

Imenti · 12/12/2025 18:21

No I wouldn't like this for my 3.5 year old, I'm happy for her to have that kind of thing when she s a lot older (around 7-8 probably). If she got gifted that I'd say thank you, put it away and hope she forgot about it!

Bearbookagainandagain · 12/12/2025 18:21

I wouldn't give it to mine, but I wouldn't give it to her if she was 5 or 7 either. So it's probably me.

Bundleflower · 12/12/2025 18:16

It wouldn’t bother me (assuming child doesn’t have sensitive skin) but would only be used on a hard, easy to clean floor.

BeansAndNoodles · 12/12/2025 18:06

I wouldn't have let my 3 yr old keep that, sorry.

I've just google lens searched it and for starters it says age 5+ on the packet. It also appears to be real nail polish.

It wouldn't be touching the skin on one of my DC!

pimplebum · 12/12/2025 17:57

a three year old will spill and smear it so not suitable from that point of view

id not buy for friends because of the girly connotations

Lookingforthejoy · 12/12/2025 17:57

Looks like real make up to me.

Luxio · 12/12/2025 17:57

Stade197 · 12/12/2025 17:46

I wouldn't buy it for someone else's child just because you don't know if they approve of make up or if the child has sensitive skin (I could never buy my niece anything like this when she was small as it would cause eczema)

Agreed. I'm sure the recipient will be polite when receiving it but I don't know anyone who would actually allow their 3 year old to use it either due to not approving of make up or because it's likely to be full of stuff that's not good for children's skin.

TeenToTwenties · 12/12/2025 17:56

I wouldn't like it from the pov of: sensitive skin, mess, indoctrination into makeup.
I'd thank you politely and then charity shop as I wouldn't regift for same reasons.