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To ask do you think people always look their best when a healthy weight

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Xoxoxxo · 12/12/2025 16:58

Not fat shaming I’m very overweight myself and not been a healthy weight for a long time so can’t even imagine what I would look like at a healthy weight

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Anotherdayattheforum · 12/12/2025 18:15

Healthy weight doesn’t automatically equate with healthy body and mind.

Shittyyear2025 · 12/12/2025 18:15

Hmmm.

I think you can wear great quality fancy clothes, get a fab hairdo and makeup and still, if you're any more than a little overweight your size still tells of an unhealthy diet and/or lifestyle.

I'm about 1.5 stone heavier than I've been for the last 40 years due to crap eating and inactivity due to a chronic health condition. I feel like shit because I've eaten convenience food and barely moved for a year - now my health condition is improving I'm gonna bust a gut to get back to my usual, healthy weight. Also my clothes will fit better and I can wear structured clothes rather than scratty joggers.

I'm not a fan of anything promoting 'fat being fabulous' because it really isn't - being overweight can lead to so many health issues. Likewise with the likes of so many celebs in the press becoming dangerously underweight my first thought is MH struggles and health issues.

We've become blind to what a healthy shaped body actually looks like.

sprigatito · 12/12/2025 18:14

ThrowAwayAccountName · 12/12/2025 18:08

I think I look better at a healthy weight after being obese since primary school this is my first experience being a healthy weight though. Can’t really comment for everyone else as it’s difficult to know whether someone is ‘healthy’ BMI or underweight by appearance alone

You look absolutely beautiful

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 18:13

ThrowAwayAccountName · 12/12/2025 18:08

I think I look better at a healthy weight after being obese since primary school this is my first experience being a healthy weight though. Can’t really comment for everyone else as it’s difficult to know whether someone is ‘healthy’ BMI or underweight by appearance alone

Wow. You look fab. Well done. ☺️

OvertiredandConfused · 12/12/2025 18:10

Toddlerteaplease · 12/12/2025 17:08

I looked awful at my ‘healthy weight’ I was far too thin.

Me too. Even my doctor told me I looked too thin and then looked embarrassed when she realised I was more than halfway into the overweight category of the BMI measurement.

UnhappyHobbit · 12/12/2025 18:09

Yes. I think also those who go too skinny look so much better with more weight on them.

LaurieFairyCake · 12/12/2025 18:08

thats not true for the short people. If I was a stone more I’d be overweight, a stone less = underweight. My bmi is 22 at 7stone 7pounds.

ThrowAwayAccountName · 12/12/2025 18:08

I think I look better at a healthy weight after being obese since primary school this is my first experience being a healthy weight though. Can’t really comment for everyone else as it’s difficult to know whether someone is ‘healthy’ BMI or underweight by appearance alone

To ask do you think people always look their best when a healthy weight
FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 18:06

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:59

That’s not what I said. I said someone putting on or losing 2/3 stone doesn’t necessarily make any impact on the way they look.

Ok, but of course it would make a difference to how they look. For my height, a healthy weight is between 8 and 11 stone. If I was 8 stone and went up to 11, I would look drastically different, the same in reverse. I may be healthy if I was eating well and exercising at any weight between 8 stone and 11 stone, but I’d definitely look different. I look my best at around 9 stone. If I was 11 stone, I definitely wouldn’t be looking my best either.

Naws · 12/12/2025 18:05

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 18:02

People who use WLi have rapid weight loss and it results in a similar look.

the poster was taking about both WLI and rapid weight loss (7 stone in 15 months)

People who use WLi have rapid weight loss and it results in a similar look.

They don't all have rapid weight loss.

For some, the progress is slow and steady.

Happyjoe · 12/12/2025 18:05

Quite often I see overweight people with lovely skin and thick hair, even older women look better for plumper cheeks! Too thin when getting older isn't very forgiving on the face either.

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 18:02

Naws · 12/12/2025 18:00

The poster I was replying to didn't mention rapid weight loss.

People who use WLi have rapid weight loss and it results in a similar look.

the poster was taking about both WLI and rapid weight loss (7 stone in 15 months)

MeganM3 · 12/12/2025 18:00

People on the slimming medication often look haggard and unwell. I think healthy eating with plenty of vitamins, exercise and being generally fit and well make a person look the best they can look. Rather than just being slim/medium.

Naws · 12/12/2025 18:00

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:56

I don’t quite agree because I do think there is a certain look caused by rapid weight loss.

it’s not necessarily about people who were overweight becoming thin looking better, it’s about whether people who are a healthy weight look better anyway.

personally I’d suggest someone who is 1 stone overweight might look better in terms of general appearance than someone who has lost 8 stone rapidly.

Edited

The poster I was replying to didn't mention rapid weight loss.

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:59

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 17:58

The top or bottom end of healthy is still healthy. We’re presuming the pp means 3 stone above or below the healthy weight category, which definitely would have an impact on both how you look and your health.

That’s not what I said. I said someone putting on or losing 2/3 stone doesn’t necessarily make any impact on the way they look.

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 17:58

NancyMitfordsLeftGlove · 12/12/2025 17:55

To be fair there is a margin of around 3 stone between the bottom and top ends of the healthy weight range.

ETA no sorry there isn't, it's more like 2 stone

Edited

The top or bottom end of healthy is still healthy. We’re presuming the pp means 3 stone above or below the healthy weight category, which definitely would have an impact on both how you look and your health.

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:57

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 17:56

Being 3 stone under or overweight would have an impact. It’s a lot.

2/3 stone heavier. Not 2/3 stone overweight.

Naws · 12/12/2025 17:57

NancyMitfordsLeftGlove · 12/12/2025 17:55

To be fair there is a margin of around 3 stone between the bottom and top ends of the healthy weight range.

ETA no sorry there isn't, it's more like 2 stone

Edited

Yes and as I said, according to the BMI calculator I could gain an extra stone and still be in the healthy range.

But at 5ft 3" and 10st I'd look and feel awful.

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:56

Naws · 12/12/2025 17:53

It's because they're used to seeing them overweight.

If they went to a different town where they didn't know anyone, people would probably still think they looked overweight because they can see them objectively if you see what I mean.

I don’t quite agree because I do think there is a certain look caused by rapid weight loss.

it’s not necessarily about people who were overweight becoming thin looking better, it’s about whether people who are a healthy weight look better anyway.

personally I’d suggest someone who is 1 stone overweight might look better in terms of general appearance than someone who has lost 8 stone rapidly.

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 17:56

Naws · 12/12/2025 17:55

My point is- on most people, it doesn’t matter. As I said, 2/3 stone either way, no real impact.

I don't understand that at all.

Carrying 3 stone of extra weight definitely has an impact on both looks and eventually health.

Being 3 stone under or overweight would have an impact. It’s a lot.

NancyMitfordsLeftGlove · 12/12/2025 17:55

Naws · 12/12/2025 17:55

My point is- on most people, it doesn’t matter. As I said, 2/3 stone either way, no real impact.

I don't understand that at all.

Carrying 3 stone of extra weight definitely has an impact on both looks and eventually health.

To be fair there is a margin of around 3 stone between the bottom and top ends of the healthy weight range.

ETA no sorry there isn't, it's more like 2 stone

BMW6 · 12/12/2025 17:55

Well - Yes, of course!

Naws · 12/12/2025 17:55

Bambamhoohoo · 12/12/2025 17:51

Who knows the answer to either, the point is the skinniest can be isn’t always your best look.

some people in this thread seem to be only considering the extremes. My point is- on most people, it doesn’t matter. As I said, 2/3 stone either way, no real impact.

My point is- on most people, it doesn’t matter. As I said, 2/3 stone either way, no real impact.

I don't understand that at all.

Carrying 3 stone of extra weight definitely has an impact on both looks and eventually health.

5128gap · 12/12/2025 17:54

I know many OW women who are absolutely gorgeous. Weight isn't the definer of good looks. We should consider it only in terms of health really, as when you bring looks into it, you're basically saying that a woman's appearance is the reason she needs to eat healthily, excercise and have a healthy BMI, when the reason for doing those things is to live well and avoid nasty diseases.

Clefable · 12/12/2025 17:53

I think most do generally but it can be the case that someone who has been obese for a long time can end up with a lot of loose skin around face and neck which can make them look facially a bit older, although they generally look better everywhere else. But you can’t put a value on feeling better and being healthier.