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To ask do you think people always look their best when a healthy weight

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Xoxoxxo · 12/12/2025 16:58

Not fat shaming I’m very overweight myself and not been a healthy weight for a long time so can’t even imagine what I would look like at a healthy weight

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Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 14:04

bizkittt · 13/12/2025 13:50

She’s so average looking now

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I think Adele is really attractive, and I perceive her to look much better than she did when obese. If anything being obese overweight is the average, not being a healthy weight. Irrelevant as Adele is famous for her singing ability, and song writing, it isn’t about her appearance.

bizkittt · 13/12/2025 14:04

itsthetea · 13/12/2025 14:00

Oh my the horror of looking average

for a singer and musician !

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She an average/boring musician too

itsthetea · 13/12/2025 14:00

bizkittt · 13/12/2025 13:50

She’s so average looking now

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Oh my the horror of looking average

for a singer and musician !

Gingernaut · 13/12/2025 14:00

People look their best when they are healthy

Beauty standards are so skewed towards 'skinny' or 'thin', that anyone who is a weight healthy for their size is derided as a "heifer", "thunder thighs" or just "fat"

Even if someone is a healthy size for their height and build, there's no telling what kind of eating disorder lurks underneath

I understand OP, I am morbidly overweight and binge eat myself

It's easy to look at people through the lens of an eating disorder, but weight is not someone's personality - there really is more to someone than the numbers on the scales

bizkittt · 13/12/2025 13:53

It depends on your height, fitness level and frame etc. I look best when my bmi is 23-24. Most people aren’t much to write home about whenever their size

bizkittt · 13/12/2025 13:50

Frequency · 12/12/2025 17:08

Mostly. Although I think some people suit being heavier. Adele, imo, looked better, bigger. Her smaller frame is, of course, healthier for her, but to me, she looked more attractive when she was bigger.

She’s so average looking now

Flingotheflamingo · 13/12/2025 13:48

My healthy weight range is between 99 - 121 lbs.

I’ll tell you now.. I’d look awful at 121lbs.

Currently at 104lbs and don’t like it.

paradisecircus · 13/12/2025 13:37

Personally I look better at a healthy weight, feel better too

Disturbia81 · 13/12/2025 13:35

TheMotherSide · 13/12/2025 08:22

I think so. I'm about 2 stone lighter than I was last year and I still double-take at my own reflection as my body in particular looks so much more youthful and lithe, both in terms of posture and bulk. Because my clothes now slip on effortlessly and hang nicely, and the exercising I've been doing means I move better, I definitely feel like I look better.
My face is obviously slimmer too, and I hit a sweet spot where the double chin which had begun to develop had stubbornly stayed put despite the weightloss one day seemed to have evaporated over the course of a week when the scales showed a small loss of .5kg. When I crept up again just before my period, the double chin was noticeable again. So I now try to stay below the "chin window" so that a bit of hormonal creep doesn't matter.

Chin window! Love it 😂

BringBackCatsEyes · 13/12/2025 12:56

WithIcePlease · 13/12/2025 11:17

Studies show that over 65's do better with an overweight BMI - lower mortality and better health outcomes
@Daisywhatsyouranswer

There are plenty of studies from what I recall but I'm up a hill at the moment and can't look to quote

For me, I’d need to put on about 3 stone to be overweight. I don’t believe that would improve my long term health outcomes.

seanconneryseyebrow · 13/12/2025 12:41

Well then you get into the subjective what weight people look their ‘best’ in. I mean who decides that? I have people in my life - men and women - who probably think I looked best at BMI 20, my exDH defo thinks my best is 25 probably 27 actually. Current boyfriend probably 25 and I expect most boyfriends I’ve had tbf. I lose my tits the lower my BMI goes.
I like me at about 21 but it’s super super hard to keep me there now I’m 51.
although if I got there I may hate my face. I have chubby cheeks that help me look younger.

HelpMySocksAreTouchingMe · 13/12/2025 12:28

Healthy weight is such a large range that I would think almost everyone would look their best somewhere along that scale.

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 12:23

bleakmidwintering · 13/12/2025 11:33

@Daisywhatsyouranswerare you actually insane. Who on this planet would want to look like them? I would say only people with body dysmorphia!

I wasn’t suggesting you were envious of Sharon or kelly the former an elderly lady who had cancer and the latter someone who has just lost her father.

i was clearly refering to this first part of your envious little statement

I love all these posts where women are saying ‘ yeah I look great now I’m thin’. That’s probably what Sharron osbourne and her ghoul daughter are saying too

at least own it.

DailyEnergyCrisis · 13/12/2025 11:54

I’m bmi 21 and my face/neck look better at bmi 23 but my body looks better currently. Can’t have it all!

bleakmidwintering · 13/12/2025 11:33

@Daisywhatsyouranswerare you actually insane. Who on this planet would want to look like them? I would say only people with body dysmorphia!

WithIcePlease · 13/12/2025 11:17

Studies show that over 65's do better with an overweight BMI - lower mortality and better health outcomes
@Daisywhatsyouranswer

There are plenty of studies from what I recall but I'm up a hill at the moment and can't look to quote

330ml · 13/12/2025 10:16

ForeverScout · 13/12/2025 02:27

I also suspect BMI is based on white bodies. Just a hunch, though a quick Google tells me there is something to that hunch.

I have noticed that in Asian countries that the healthy range is smaller. Over 22.9 is classed as overweight in Singapore, for example.

To ask do you think people always look their best when a healthy weight
Bambamhoohoo · 13/12/2025 10:15

GaIadriel · 13/12/2025 10:12

There was a time though when a lot of women wanted to look like Kate Moss.

I know. Our generation have such a fucked up attitude to weight (as evidenced in this thread). The pop culture really was poisonous.

GaIadriel · 13/12/2025 10:12

There was a time though when a lot of women wanted to look like Kate Moss.

cramptramp · 13/12/2025 09:54

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 08:32

wow. Could you be any more jealous.

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I don’t think anyone is jealous of Sharon or her daughter.

PurpleCoo · 13/12/2025 09:51

I think people look better with a healthy BMI yes. I have lost just shy of 30kg this year and always said I would look too thin at a healthy BMI, and it a wasn't accurate/helpful tool. I was wrong and deluding myself. My BMI is 25.1, so still overweight by a smidgeon and I don't look too thin. I have great muscle tone as I exercise a lot, but I still have excess fat on my belly and upper arms. So my slightly overweight status seems accurate. I need to lose more weight to look my best, but only a small amount so I don't look too thin

NorthXNorthWest · 13/12/2025 09:01

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 08:39

And a healthy weight looks better than either.

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My comment was support to mean

Yes as in A healthy weight does look miles better. Also slightly over looks better than slightly under.

Unless you have a medical condition being very underweight or being very over weight should not be celebrated.

Health should always be prioritised. It is possible to be slim with a lot of fat around your vital organs. So there is that as well.

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 08:39

NorthXNorthWest · 13/12/2025 08:36

Yes, slightly over looks better than slightly under.

Unless you have a medical condition being very underweight or being very over weight should not be celebrated.

And a healthy weight looks better than either.

NorthXNorthWest · 13/12/2025 08:36

Yes, slightly over looks better than slightly under.

Unless you have a medical condition being very underweight or being very over weight should not be celebrated.

Daisywhatsyouranswer · 13/12/2025 08:32

bleakmidwintering · 13/12/2025 08:30

I love all these posts where women are saying ‘ yeah I look great now I’m thin’. That’s probably what Sharron osbourne and her ghoul daughter are saying too.

wow. Could you be any more jealous.