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To be annoyed at more school requests to buy things?

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Barbarama124 · 12/12/2025 16:18

When I collected my DD from school this afternoon she gave me a letter.

School have asked parents to provide white leggings and a white vest on Monday morning, no later. It's the costume for the class performance. They are angels.

We don't own white leggings or white vests.

It was something else last week and something else the month before.

The school are supposedly big on environmentalism and against over consumption etc, and to be honest
I'm wall to wall busy and can do without more added on to my list.

I wouldn't have minded as much if we had more notice but there was no mention of providing costume until just now.

AIBU to be annoyed?

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calminggreen · 12/12/2025 16:43

I have twins - I don’t adhere to the dress code whatsoever for nativity’s or wear it green day or something really as silly.
just send them in usual clothes with a note why

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 12/12/2025 16:43

I wouldn't buy anything - just do the closest you can - I'd find a way to put it on the parents WhatsApp (I haven't got white leggings - does anyone have spare?! - otherwise I have to send her in black ones!), so other people feel OK about not buying either.

It's absolutely bonkers that people have to buy things they don't otherwise need, it's such a waste and so bad for the planet. I would also write a polite note to the head about this and lack of notice in the NY

and, some sheep are black..

Octavia64 · 12/12/2025 16:42

I mean it’s not unreasonable to be annoyed but they do it every year.

do you have a plain white t shirt?

Upsetbetty · 12/12/2025 16:41

I’m finding this hard to believe tbh. Even in the non COL times schools would say please don’t buy anything especially. They would suggest borrowing, buying at a charity at most or anything white at all, for the T-shirts they said to turn them inside out if you don’t have a plain one.

FuzzyWolf · 12/12/2025 16:41

This is a very predictable time of year for schools to ask for children to bring costumes in. Usually there are WhatsApp groups or Facebook groups around the country where people can ask or offer various items for free or a minimal amount.

Withdraw your child from the class performance if you can’t or won’t sort out the costume.

dinkybella77 · 12/12/2025 16:40

Just ask the teacher or put a request on a parents group for someone to lend you white clothes/ outfit. There are loads of angel costumes around. It is the easiest thing to put together. Very last minute from the school I agree. We had ours in November

zipadeedodah · 12/12/2025 16:39

Can you get thick white tights intead?

Never heard of white leggings.

Sartre · 12/12/2025 16:37

It’s always the same. I’m the same with sustainability and so as cute as the shop bought nativity costumes may be, I sent my DS in with a brown tracksuit he already owned and a brown tea towel and elastic headband thing- both of which I can reuse.

I hate the random requests for money at this time of year, it gets too much.

Tutorpuzzle · 12/12/2025 16:35

I’m quite naive, but even I’m getting suspicious at the quantity of anti school threads today. (Not troll hunting, just questioning.)

As to your ‘problem’, pull her out of the nativity if it bothers you that much. There’ll be plenty of other angels.