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AIBU to think this is a breach?

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Pfpppl · 12/12/2025 15:10

A friend's son had an incident with the police that resulted in a referral to social services. They interviewed the family and said they would be contacting the child's school, but would not disclose the reason, just make the school aware there was an incident and ask if they had any concerns.

Her son has just advised her that the school have been told of the circumstances of the incident and as a result will be calling her to discuss. There will also be consequences at school now for the child.

This has come about the day after she received the report from SS confirming no further action, so she is suspicious that the full report was also shared with the school.

I've no experience of SS, but does this sound correct? Surely they can reach out to the school and ask if they have any concerns about a child without revealing details of why they are asking? Especially as this is what the social worker said they would do.

The report was also full of errors - stupid things like saying my friend advised them that her family are all up north, when they are in fact all local. Obviously she will be raising this with them, but she's more upset that the school know the details of the incident and how they will now be dealing with her child. Not to mention the fact her other child's school were also contacted and have probably been told the same details, even though said child was not involved in the incident in any way.

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LeonMccogh · 12/12/2025 15:19

GoldsolesLugs · 12/12/2025 15:18

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lol what!? 😂

GoldsolesLugs · 12/12/2025 15:18

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 12/12/2025 15:15

What's this story got in common with a baby delivered head first?

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NutButterOnToast · 12/12/2025 15:18

This kind of information sharing is for everyone's benefit OP.

There would be no reason for social services not to share full details with the school, the social worker was wrong and should not have said what they said.

pikkumyy77 · 12/12/2025 15:16

Why is this any of your business?

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 12/12/2025 15:15

What's this story got in common with a baby delivered head first?

Fulloferrors · 12/12/2025 15:13

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