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What age did you have your kids?

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Lacatrina · 12/12/2025 14:04

What age did you have your kids and would you say it was before, bang on or over average age wise?

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Kim82 · 12/12/2025 15:01

19, 22, 25 and 32. I was in young for the first 2 or 3 and I’d say average for number 4.

First 2 were with my ex, second 2 with dh.

DisappointedD · 12/12/2025 14:58

I was 23 and 29. I think the first was younger then average, second one very average. I do wish I had them closer together in either direction.

Prelim · 12/12/2025 14:57

All were between 35-45 where I live, so similar ages and experiences.

NannyOgg1341 · 12/12/2025 14:57

23 and 27. I'd already bought a house with (my now) DH and we were both right at the start of our careers. Even though I didn't feel young at the time, I look back and can't believe how skint and shattered we both were for our first baby. However, now they're all older, it's nice that we're finally established in our work but still young enough to really go out and enjoy things.

smallsilvercloud · 12/12/2025 14:56

22, 28 and 30 between 2002 and 2011, younger than average for first but for the other two about average

Seasidegrandma · 12/12/2025 14:55

24 and 25, they were 16 months apart. I had planned on 18 months between them, so only a couple of months out

FreeOnFriday · 12/12/2025 14:53

First at 24 and second at 29. Probably on the young side for our first but it was the right time for us. We are now mid 40s with a 22 year old and 17 year old which is lovely. I wouldn’t have liked to be doing the primary school run now.

FluffyBox · 12/12/2025 14:49

27 (almost 28) and 31. Right time for me
and best of both worlds I felt for me.

Felt like I’d enjoyed most of my 20’s so wasn’t missing out and equally I’d still have my own time and life back when they were older as I would still be relatively ‘young’.

neleh87 · 12/12/2025 14:43

35 and 37. Older than average but perfect for me. No issues and I don't feel particularly tired. Noone mentioned the word geriatric.

QuiltPlantCandle · 12/12/2025 14:42

I was 27 and 29 when my kids were born around the turn of the century. This was on the young side. The majority of parents of my children's friends were older than me.

ResusciAnnie · 12/12/2025 14:42

25, 27, 32.

32 is bang on average for first DC around here.

25 I was too old to be a ‘young mum’ and too young to be an average mum - none of the ‘average’ mums wanted anything to do with me either it seemed! Was living in a less friendly area though too.

Having said 32 is average, actually in my group about half of my school friends don’t have kids yet and we’re 36 now. So 32 may be still on the young side!

Chipmusk · 12/12/2025 14:37

37, on the old side, but fairly normal in my social circle. Very few had children before 35.

Beeloux · 12/12/2025 14:35

Just turned 24 with first, second at 26.

TomatoSandwiches · 12/12/2025 14:33

DS1 - 22
DD1 - 27
DS2 - 31

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 12/12/2025 14:32

26 for my first. Think that’s about average. Then 28 and 33 for my next kids.

MsGrumpytrousers · 12/12/2025 14:24

Forty-one. It was great and worked well for me – plain sailing all through: I was so lucky. I didn't count as really old ("geriatric promagravida", is that it?). Friend had her first at 48 and she did.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 12/12/2025 14:24

19 - 2014
26 - 2020
29 - 2024

Earlier than average for my first and slightly earlier with my second. Pretty average for my third.

Mum2Fergus · 12/12/2025 14:22
mindutopia · 12/12/2025 14:22

32 and 37. I’d say it was pretty average, maybe a little on the younger end for the first.

Tiedbutchorestodo · 12/12/2025 14:21

30 and 36, IMO pretty average for first and a bit later than wanted for second. In an ideal world I’d have been settled and ready for children at maybe 27 and 30. Ideally I’d have liked to have been done with pregnancy by 30.

Youngest is year 5 now and I feel fine but I think ahead and am a bit sad I might be an old grandmother and might not have enough energy if she has children at a similar age.

Bearbookagainandagain · 12/12/2025 14:19

3 between 35-39. I would consider this late (they all would have been considered "geriatric" in my home country), but in the UK I think it's close to average.

Snoopsyz · 12/12/2025 14:17

16 and 24.

Im 25 now and have to say I still feel like a teen mum with my second, I think it’s because I’m a midget

Tillow4ever · 12/12/2025 14:16

25, 28 and 32. I think I was younger than average based on all the other mums at the school!

earlgreyismyjam · 12/12/2025 14:15

32 and 34 less than 10 years ago, was a good age. Crazily felt slightly on the young side but that's living in London for you. Lot of my friends have waited and are now having kids in their late 30s / early 40s and definitely benefiting from good mat leave packages as they're lot further along in their careers now and earning more ££

Tammygirl12 · 12/12/2025 14:11

29
32
34

i think it was the right time for me in life. Abstractly I think the best time to have kids would be first one at 26-27 if you have met your partner. I think later is worse and more tiring etc