Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

Doesn’t sound snobby to me, sounds like us and most of my friends and family. Though I do draw the line at croissants - but DD makes excellent ones. I can’t imagine ever choosing a Tesco cake over a homemade one.

I'm a bit like your family; if I have people over I make as much as I can from scratch and always over cater! I enjoy cooking and hosting so it's not snobbiness. I'm also trying to reduce some UPFs for myself so I've taken to making my own mayonnaise, pesto and roasting a gammon for sandwiches.

I don't have much else to do these days so I've taken to filling my days off with cooking. If my children were amenable I would make them so much stuff like egg muffins, flapjacks, banana bread because it has to be more filling and cheaper than the shop bought snacks!

If we are bandying psychoanalytic terms around I'd suggest you and SIL are projecting your own feelings of insecurity and inferiority onto your ILs.

As a whole I prefer homemade foods because I'm a good cook and I can tailor them to my family's taste but it's not snobby, it's just wanting to get maximum pleasure, health and value from my food.

You don’t sound amused. You sound insecure. They prioritise their health and sound like they enjoy socialising over food. Fewer Highly Processed Foods. Maybe they are from a higher economic background so have the time to do this. Maybe another reason you feel insecure about it.

Once you are used to eating homemade non-UP foods, you can taste the difference in shop bought food. It’s like it tastes bland but also of plastic.

No judgement, my mother was a terrible cook so I grew up on the stuff. But I married into a family of home cooks and despite not being able to cook myself, I can’t eat ready-made stuff now. I just starve until DH comes home and cooks us all a meal!

It obviously depends on how exactly they talk about the shop bought food. From what I get from your post its you OP who is weirdly judgemental. Home made food is normal.

I’ve always made my children’s birthday cakes and do prefer home made food but I wouldn’t judge others for not.

I find shop bought better, in general. The quality is more reliable.
Obviously, I can also appreciate a cake someone has made 'with love'.
Where I live, you'd generally buy a cake from a patisserie anyway rather than a supermarket and they're usually better than what a random person can make.

It's not just that they like home made, it's that they look down on pre-prepared.

Just when I thought I’d read all the things that in laws could be criticised for along comes something new!

Because it will be full of emulsifiers.

I pretty much cook everything from scratch. It's better for me and tastes better. When you stop eating ultra processed food your palate changes and you appreciate real food more.

"I always cook from scratch because it is tastier"

Ha ha ha! You haven't tasted my cooking.
It's not always less expensive either. Manufacturers can buy ingredients in bulk so they have the economies of scale. There's a YouTuber who compares the prices of home made v shop bought and home made definitely doesn't always win, even without taking the time into account.

Your in laws are normal not snobby. They're normal. Processed shelf food is not normal. It's not how humans have eaten until recently. It sounds like you are not familiar with enjoying and preparing food. That's not wrong but it's not healthy and not fun.

It’s not at all snobbish to generally prefer homemade food, that isn’t full of additives.

It’s a question of what they prefer. I cook most things from scratch. I wouldn’t buy a lasagne from a supermarket nor would I eat McDonalds. This isn’t snobbery it’s just being prepared to cook because that’s what you prefer.

Yes, they're always better well soused and left for a year to mature. I prefer mine with some sharper fruits in so always add sour cherries and cranberries etc. Not too much of a faff especially if you're making more than 1.

Not snobby, but my husband enjoys cooking and making things from scratch. Our kids too.

We never gave them processed stuff as a rule, it’s just the way we eat.

Ooh can you please point me to the recipe?

You are very correct! i have relatives who are this way. They couldn't understand why i made homemade pureed food for DDs when they were weaning, as i could get the proper stuff from the supermarket!!! i gave up explaining. Shopping at the supermarket was aspirational, of course many couldn't afford the prices and had to 'make do', with home-made stuff, a bit like making your own clothes too as opposed to waltzing into the stores to buy a ready made gown. It all goes round in circles. Bet the people who had to make do with 'roaring fires' back then, would've given anything to have gas heating, but we now covet their old fires.

Some people like good food while others are willing to eat any old crap.

So not wanting a chronic disease makes me insecure then? Sounds like they are not judging you half as much as you’re judging them

Funny how times change. Many of my parent's generation from working class roots who became more middle class turned their backs on homemade food and it was aspirational to be able to buy ready-made food from M&S. It cost more and involved less labour so was seen as better. The opposite kind of snobby to what the OP is describing.

OTOH, my yule log, ready-made from Sainsburys, lasts 2 weeks before the manufacturer thinks it might start tasting less good. God knows when it was made, but that's a hell of lot of UPFs in there to keep all those ingredients from going mouldy/going off! A home-made version would definitely be superior (if I CBA).

I’m guessing this thread didn’t go the way the op hoped.

and what a mad thought they like home cooked food as they are insecure. I can’t beleive you and your sil sit and bitch about this. It appears to me the two of you are who is insecure.

and why on earth would a good cook not want to make something for a loved family member on Xmas day, and just buy them something from Markies. If someone brings something home made to my home I’d immediatly say how lovely it was ask about the recipe etc and be enthusiastic, whay do you want them to do, bung it in a cupboard with a grudging thanks.

what a really odd thing to judge people on. I can only assume insecurity on your part or a deep dislike for them all and you’re struggling to find a reason to be horrible.

Snobby about food is when they say 'red caviar' is not real caviar, but salmon roe and only call black caviar caviar, that sort of thing. Or when they are wanky about 'only eating seasonable produce' and showing off with their shit like Clarissa Dickson Wright used to do. These people clearly have too much time on their hands (or they are very well organised) and they can afford it. They are not snobby.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea.

I am totally with her on this, btw, I think it's awful to invite people round for a lovely luxury home-made meal and then do a ready meal for one person because of their dietary preferences.

Everyone who comes to my house, whatever their dietary preferences or allergies, gets the same quality of food. That's just good hospitality