Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

“Compulsive desire”?!?!?!?!!!!!!

just because they have a different perspective to you doesn’t make them freaks!

home cooked food is cheaper, healthier, fun, engaging and tasty.

yes, I buy the odd ready meal from a farm shop, yes I buy bread from the bakers because I don’t have the time to make it every week.

am I criticising you for enjoying a Tesco meal deal? No, that’s your choice. No snobbery involved just a different decision on many levels.

I do think there is a lot of truth in this- in theory I love home made-in practice i can honestly say via various in laws and friends the quality can be ‘mixed’ - my fILs partner (RIP) used to comment on her home made famous xyz- All bloody horrible in my opinion - not a patch on M&S or Waitrose - so I really don’t think we should fetishise ‘home made’ - I’ve also seen people bringing in to work stuff that’s no doubt from home made leftovers and looks and smells exceedingly unappeatising .

And actually all taste very similar , it’s only when I properly cooked again that I realised this -

Insecurity? Snobby? The two of you are putting an awful lot of thought and prejudice into this. Have you ever considered that homemade food is are just, you know, more delicious?

Anything that I do right as a hostess I learned from my mil.
I miss her.

Homemade has the potential to be a million times better than shop bought- if your relatives are good cooks I don't blame them preferring it- the only stumbling block is if you can't cook worth a damn.

It's funny, in my family we make everything from scratch and it's not because we're snobby, it's just because we're poor and we can make meals stretch a lot further when we are frugal and cautious home cooks. Whereas purchasing pre-made / store made / ready made food is a lot more expensive. I wouldn't say that we would be preferring something that was store made but to us it would be a bit of a novelty and we would enjoy it, although we enjoy our homemade food as well, we are grateful regardless of where or who made it

Wow. Insecurity? We also always do homemade because it tastes better and is healthier. I like cooking. Shop bought cakes are grim. Even nice ready meals don’t actually taste of much besides salt if you really taste them.

My mams house was like greggs on a saurday she loved cooking and baking

To be honest op, I think you sound insecure...

If you have the time and skill homemade is definitely better. When I worked part time we didn’t have a lot of shop bought meals. Now I’m full time I do use some shop bought stuff for convenience.

My Mum used to make lots herself when we were small as she was a SAHM so had the time to do it.

Appreciating good ingredients isn’t snobby - being able to make good food from scratch is very cost effective and cheaper - hardly something a snob would care about!

I wouldn’t say it’s snobby. I think they probably enjoy cooking and probably realise all the additives and emulsifiers and unhealthy things that go into mass produced food. An example is bread. If you look at the ingredients list of a typical white sandwich loaf, say Warburtons toastie, the ingredients list is as long as your arm and no clue what some of them are. On the other hand I make a lovely rustic cob loaf with just four ingredients - flour, yeast, salt and water. And don’t get me started on the amount of food that now contains palm oil. Would you believe that most supermarket baguettes now contain this. Absolutely disgusting. Cheap ingredient that maximises profits

Sounds normal to me. I grew up in a homemade wholemeal kinda house and carry this on with my own household. I mean I don't make my own bread but I would never buy a birthday cake. That seems weird to me. I cook every meal from scratch pretty much, and so do my sons, now young adults and very good cooks. It's just horses for courses I guess. If you grew yo with freezer food and TV dinners that's normal. If you grew up with homemade chutney and apple crumble then that's normal.

Do you read the labels on processed food OP?

Homemade as much as possible with wiggle room for the least processed convenience food available. Not snobby at all imo

This- totally agree home made food is definitely healthier.

I don’t think they’re snobby. I’m not snobby, it just wouldn’t occur to me to buy ready made stuff and my husband is the same.

Sounds amazing! My mum has a tendency to bug all those ready made snacks and basic supermarket bakery bread, I wish she would let me bring homemade, I don’t eat (most) processed food at home, it tastes inferior and worse for you. And yes I’d make a wellington too

Sorry but I think most processed food is just horrible. In an emergency when there's a real rush for time or something maybe. I guess there's exceptions, I don't cook everything from scratch like bread or biscuits (or croissants!) because I don't have time, but I would appreciate that homemade would definitely be better. I would bake cookies if I'm off work and not busy. Those main dishes people buy, like the Indian ones you mentioned, just have no merit to me. They contain hardly any meat/chicken, what little they do have is usually grisly or rubbery, they cost more than cooking fresh and the portion sizes wouldn't fill you up. A lot of those supermarket cakes just aren't nice and not worth the calories. Processed food just isn't real food to me, I don't want to eat something that's made in a factory.
My in-laws are the opposite and i dont get it. Eg my SIL has never cooked fresh carrots, only tinned ones, I don't get that. Far more expensive and not at all nice. I now understand why my husband thought he hated christmas dinner before he got married and tried my family's. He thought all ham was rubbery! I guess i probably am a food snob!

My mother will serve me up one of these and I can never finish one. Last week's "steak pie" was inedible. Even my younger dog who will eat anything wouldn't touch it.

I'd be perfectly happy with just the vegetables she does for everyone.

They’re not snobby, they just like home made which to be fair is much nicer

I was bought up helping mom in the kitchen. I also became a chef. My adult children were bought up knowing how to cook, bake etc.

They now do the same with their children. I also bake and cook with my grandchildren.

There's nothing snobby about it. The food tastes nicer. It's much fresher and not full of additives. It also works out cheaper. It's also fun cooking with them.

Ready made food costs so much more. Quite frankly a single mom or anyone struggling with money is better making it from scratch as it's so much cheaper

Where on earth do you get the idea it's snobby to make your own food, makes no sense to me

Perhaps your in-laws have a diet which suits them. We have rarely bought supermarket pre-made meals as they are ultra processed and full of non-food ingredients. Plus we both have dietary requirements which makes it difficult with shop bought meals.
Not everyone has learnt to cook or grow their own, so they have the choice of a variety of preprepared meals from the shops.
Both DH and I learnt to cook at a young age so we are fortunate to have the choice. We have a small garden but have squeezed in some raised beds to grow some fruit and veg.
We stay occasionally with a dear friend who is no longer able to cook so she buys some really nice pre-made meals for us as well as a good choice of fresh vegetables to accompany the meals. She won't let us cook when we stay as she insists we are there for a rest!
Much as we love her, we are pleased to get home though to eat our own home cooked food.
If you are hosting then you should do as you wish regarding catering but don't turn down any offers from anyone to contribute to the meal, homemade or otherwise. Whatever you do, it will be wonderful.
By the way, I give homemade mincemeat, cranberry sauce and jams for Christmas presents. 🤣

It sounds like it comes from a place of appreciation of the effort that someone puts into making homemade. I certainly love my friends homemade sourdough when she drops a loaf off, over the best one I’ve ever purchased - it’s the thought, time and care put into something

I wouldn't say snobby they just enjoy cooking from scratch they obviously have the time or they put that cooking time into their day.
I don't do home cooking that often anymore but wish I could make time to do it more.
Look home cooked food and fres bread and cakes .. shop cakes are horrible if we admit it.

I haven't RTFT but when you say "tescos birthday cake" OP which one do you mean because if it was the basic party one with stars on theres no way that could be left uneaten in my house and I make a mean Victoria Sp.