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Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

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Calgator · 12/12/2025 11:31

My in laws are very snobby when it comes to homemade food.

When I say snobby they wouldn’t judge a single mum relying on something pre made for example but when it comes to the stuff they eat they massively favour homemade stuff. I just find it amusing tbh! They all get VERY excited when someone brings over homemade bread and desserts. Wanting to know what recipe/method you chose. All birthday cakes are homemade. I swear a cake from Tesco would sit completely unopened in the fridge.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea. Tbf everyone is a good cook.

It definitely stems from MIL. Who grows her own food, makes chutneys etc. They would never dream of shoving in an Indian selection from Waitrose as starters like my family doesx

I just find it fascinating tbh.

Anyone else have family like this? Even croissants are homemade!

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Whatifitallgoesright · 12/12/2025 11:40

It's mainly an issue of time isn't it? Are these home-cooking people also doing full-time jobs, most of the housework, shopping and childcare? I think it's a bit nasty to be judging someone for bringing something shop-bought.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 12/12/2025 11:40

I don’t see it as snobby at all. Homemade is definitely better

TheAlcott · 12/12/2025 11:39

If someone is a good cook, homemade food generally is nicer than shop-bought - there's nothing snobby about appreciating that, surely?

I'd much rather eat (for example) a slice of home-baked cake or bread than something made in a factory.

Homemade croissants certainly demonstrate commitment to the 'cooking from scratch' cause!

crackofdoom · 12/12/2025 11:39

But home made cakes and bread are just nicer!

I find a few choice shop bought things are better/ no worse than home made (Christmas pudding, houmous and chip shop chips spring to mind), but that's fairly rare.

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Calgator · 12/12/2025 11:39

I just think there are some things where shop bought is just as nice - spinach and artichoke dip as an example. I have no idea why my ILs would bother!

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ItWasntMyFault · 12/12/2025 11:38

Homemade is generally much nicer so I don’t blame them. I do eat pre-packaged food but definitely prefer homemade.

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Calgator · 12/12/2025 11:37

My other sil who also married in thinks it comes from a place of insecurity. I wouldn’t necessarily say that. But it’s amusing that she’s psychoanalysed this compulsive desire for homemade food.

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Meadowfinch · 12/12/2025 11:36

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'll happily eat food at other people's houses but I always cook from scratch because it is tastier, less expensive and has less sugar, additives etc.

Most of my family does the same and we are all interested to share recipes. We all enjoy food.

I don't like most shop bought cakes - too sickly - so I'd probably give them to the local youth club. I wouldn't throw them away.

fluffiphlox · 12/12/2025 11:36

What’s snobby about giving your food some love and attention?

CheeseIsMyIdol · 12/12/2025 11:36

I wouldn’t call it “snobby.”

kezzykate · 12/12/2025 11:35

My family were like this growing up and tbh I much prefer homemade. If there is a stall at a fair or something like that I would always choose the homemade cake over the shop bought, I feel it tastes so much better and just feels more wholesome. I feel like there’s a big move towards this now due to the heightened awareness of upfs. I am impressed they make their own croissants though, not sure I would have the patience for that!

BarnacleBeasley · 12/12/2025 11:35

They don't sound snobby from your description, they just sound like they enjoy cooking and appreciate home-made food.