Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

I'm vegetarian and when eating in a group my preference would be a meal where the meat can be separated from the rest of it. If that's not possible, I definitely would NOT expect my host to cook something separate for me and would be very happy with a microwave lasagne, something that is obviously NOT necessarily revolting!

I've been that solo vegetarian where everyone else is tucking into a homemade meal and I get a revolting microwave lasagne plonked in front of me. It made me feel pretty crap. I'd never do that to a guest.

they rejected the ready meal proposal because they are good cooks and enjoy cooking. That doesn’t make them snobs.

Op is laughing and sneering at her in laws for cooking from scratch. That is snobbish, nasty behaviour.

No they choose to cook a meal for a vegetarian guest in their house. I'm not looking down on ready made meals everything I choose to cook home-made food.

They rejected the vegetarian ready meal when everyone else would be eating a good home cooked meal. Which is what anyone with an ounce of manners, pride, or hosting skills would do.

"it’s OP looking down on her in laws for cooking from scratch, not vice versa. "

No, they rejected the ides of a ready meal for the vegetarian.

But surely it was always quite a normal thing. It’s you who has succumbed to modern life of ready made items.

I think all the team homemade people are missing the point. I should say I do prefer homemade, homemake birthday cakes and bread etc. and my in laws are the absolute homemade people.

But it can feel very judgemental if you don’t have the time/confidence to lovingly homemake a birthday cake if you have the sort of people who raise their eyebrows at something shop bought.

Especially around Christmas my Mum would spend hours in the kitchen whilst generally seeming on a short fuse and very stressed and fed up. If you genuinely enjoy it great but it is amazing how much judgement there can be over choosing a bit of peace and an M&S pre-made thing.

My default is homemade for near everything! Tastes better, often costs less, you know what's in it, I have the time and I enjoy the process so why wouldn't I? I'm not obsessive about it where shop bought is good.
Are you sure you don't feel a bit inadequate for not having the same interest, or perhaps skill, yourself? and that's why you're criticising them (while saying you find it all very "amusing").

I'm team homemade all the way. Snobby? No. Healthier? Cheaper? less packaging...? yes. And what's with the comment about single mums? I was a single mum for a while after my divorce. I still made good wholesome food from scratch. Birthday cakes for a family member I will always make... It's a love language.

My post said making your own croissants is impressive though a faff. That I had made my own crumpets once but never again and that I make bread. That poster deduced from that I’m a food snob looking down on people and that I must never buy pre-made bread products??🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Defensiveness?

I have been a vegetarian for nearly 40 years and have occasionally come across this kind of combativeness as though my dietary choices are somehow a judgement on theirs

What are you on about?

It wasn’t, but thank you. Of course if it had been I should immediately attempt to report myself now you’ve educated me.

You’re completely missing the point that it’s OP looking down on her in laws for cooking from scratch, not vice versa. The OP even specifically said her in laws wouldn’t look down on others who use pre made.
Why do you think it’s ok for the OP to laugh at and look down on her in laws for doing things differently to her?

"I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea."

because heavily processed stuff isn’t as nice?

@Gwenhwyfar told her what though? Surely them being “snobby” is an inference drawn by OP unless they’ve told her they are better than her because they knit their own lentils (I may have missed this in the OP!).

"That may be all in your own head"

It's not in her head. They told her!

Right. So you also eat UPF sometimes so you can agree with OP that there's no need to look down on people who don't cook everything from scratch.

90% of the time I make my own bread. I live alone now so don’t need to have it available every day. I eat shop bought sandwiches if I’m hungry and need to eat on the go (not sure why you thought I didn’t 😁).

Having a different opinion and priorities is not snobbery. Unless what you mean is you believe you’re being judged for having a different approach or turning up with a Turkey Twizzler banquet as a contribution to a family occasion!? That may be all in your own head @Calgator. I married into a foodie family who bang on about food and cooking all the time and I’m not the slightest bit interested but that’s OK, we are all different. My late MiL would have treated a “shop bought” cake like radio active waste but that’s not superiority, it’s just a different approach and opinion (and more Battenberg E number filled cake for me if they don’t want it).

Every time though? You never eat shop bought? You never get a sandwich when out and about?

"for the vegetarian at Christmas I made a homemade pumpkin Gorgonzola and pine nut tart, froze it and took it to Europe with me for family Christmas at sils"

When was this? Because if it was after Brexit you were breaking the law taking home made food with dairy in it to the EU.

I agree.
I remember home made cakes from relatives and while I will always remember those things fondly because they were made with love - they weren't better than shop bought!