Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

Ooh I must have missed the page in the single mum handbook that says I'm allowed to rely on shop bought food! Such a lot of home made baking and cooking for nothing! Except for better quality, nutrition, and flavour that is.

Are you my sister in law? 🤣

This is my family and also my own family now. I don’t eat pre-made/ultra processed stuff and a shop bought cake probably would sit there…it just doesn’t taste as good and I usually find most things too sweet or too salty.

They just sound like they like good food (Tesco cakes are undeniably crap), and enjoy cooking as a family - however it is annoying when people bang on recipes if you aren't into it

It's snobbish BTW, not snobby, though don't think that's the issue in this case.

It’s not snobbery to prefer food that generally tastes better than shop bought. One of the best things about home cooked food is you can adjust what you use so it matches exactly what you like, so more garlic or less pepper or changing the vegetables used etc. If they love to cook, eat, and swap recipes then it’s just a hobby with a delicious and useful outcome!

I wonder if thinking this is snobbery is a little bit of insecurity around your own cooking and food choices? Because you shouldn’t feel like that. I love to cook and prefer home made but am realistic about how much time I have and that I’d prefer spending more time time with DC than cooking, so we eat lots of prepared things too. I think that is pretty normal.

Also, all of the examples in the OP (apart from the MIL who grows her own food and makes chutney) are of special occasion food: birthday cakes, dinner parties where people are bringing bread and desserts round, a veggie wellington probably for Christmas dinner - these are all occasions where even people who do habitually use convenience foods might make a special effort.

Shop bought cakes are grim… I love baking and home made are miles tastier. I’m a single mum so obviously allowed to have no standards according to you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not snobby.

See no problem at all - Many of the ready made options are easily home made ( minus additives / E numbers / colours enhancers etc ) and coming from a background where much of our food was home grown and mum made croissants from scratch every Sunday If I had the time I woudl totally do the same. Supermarkets give us the same options of fruit and Veg all year round - its hard for people to know what the seasonal fruit and veg are now .

Nowt snobby about steering clear of supermarket ultraprocessed food.

It would be a short convesation about the provenance and process of buying a tesco loaf

“Compulsive desire for home made food”.

But they’re the insecure ones, of course.

I would say snobby is about judging the choices of others and looking down on them.

Home made food is normally much more healthy and usually tastes so much better. I buy shop bought cakes for kids birthday parties but even though I have a sweet tooth I wouldn’t eat a slice as they just don’t taste nice to me.

Snobby or… preferring unprocessed food

From your first post, it isn't your SIL who looks down on them for preferring home-made food, it's you. I've never heard of anyone putting people down for making their own food tbh. It should be them looking down on you for preferring mass-produced crap.

This doesn't sound like snobbery to me, it's people who can cook and enjoy food. PIL are coming for Christmas they are vegetarian everyone eldest isn't, I will make them a roasted veg blue cheese filo Wellington thing I have made before and they love. Everyone else gets a home cooked meal, I wouldn't treat them differently. Dips and things are often so easy to make and do taste better, they're also not full of preservatives/sugar

But nothing in the OP suggests that her relatives do judge people for bringing something shop-bought, she just says that they are enthusiastic when people bring home-made food over, and that she thinks they wouldn't want to eat a Tesco cake. Both of which seem fair enough to be honest.

Nothing sounds compulsive or snobby about them. They are more interested in homemade food and enjoy it. It's just a preference. And an entirely unremarkable one.

I’m like this. I just generally prefer things I’ve made myself. Or that are homemade. A cake from Tesco etc isn’t nearly as nice.

My family definitely infinitely prefer home made food, for us, it's aroha (love) and care. It's the fun of swapping recipes, talking about the whole process (had to go to three, yes, three bloody supermarkets to get the right ginger, can you BELIEVE it?!).

On the other hand I unfortunately found out that the shop bought baked goods and desserts in this country are bloody gorgeous, and I love the sodding ready meals too. . .

Nothing sounds snobby, or insecure. They just sound like people who enjoy food and cooking and have an interesting in it.

The judgy one here is you.

Homemade baking just is nicer, though. That’s not snobbery.

Homemade is much nicer. A really nice loaf of homemade bread is an amazing thing. My nicest food memories involve butter slowly melting into homemade bread still warm from the oven.

I love to cook and experiment and know what we are eating, and did as a single mum struggling. I’d be really upset if I thought my in laws thought I was somehow a snob for it.

I think the term you might be looking for is “foodie” not snobby 🤦🏽‍♀️

Op, it isn't a compulsive desire for homemade food.

I love my ds and want him to eat healthily. I've already had cancer once and am advised by the NHS to eat 30 different fruit & veg a week to optimise my immune system.

So I cook from scratch but I'm equally happy to go to a decent restaurant that does the same.

I recognise this family. I think I married into it!

I'll always remember meeting DH's family for the first time for a buffet and offered to bring desserts.

I rocked up with 2 Sainsbury's taste the difference puddings, and they remained firmly untouched!

Makes me chuckle but at the time I couldn't work out what I'd done wrong.