Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

Good for your MIL!

idk why you find it amusing as that’s how people ‘should’ eat. Have you seen what the ingredients are in supermarket cakes? They’re taste oversweet and artificial.

They’re good cooks and they’re making food from scratch. If they were forcing you to eat their gross offerings that would be different.

i advise you educate yourself re ultra-processed food although not all readymade food is upf it’s still often too high in salt and sugar.

I wouldn’t make my own croissants but if I were to eat them I’d be buying from a decent bakery or making sure there were minimal additives.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, and yet I am extremely snobby when it comes to home-made food. I wouldn't touch a cake mix cake. We never eat takeaways. I'd shrivel up with shame if one of my children had a shop-bought birthday cake.

You are over analysing. Why does everything have to be a problem. They like cooking their own food and its obviously their passion. I would enjoy it if I were you. It's got to be better for you.
You need to live and let live!

Another one who doesn’t get why this is “snobby”.

And as for your sil who has armchair-analysed them and things it’s due to insecurity… 😹

It seems you and sil married into a family who enjoys cooking / baking. And you find that makes YOU feel insecure.

The family aren't snobby but I am.

Everything we will be having this year will be home-made. It's part of the fun.

How on earth is it 'snobby' to prefer homemade/grown food over what are usually bloody awful, over processed expensive crap?

Having seen the adverts for supermarket 'party foods' they generally look absolutely revolting.

Yes, please stick to your microwave meals!! 🤣

To be fair though, in a lot of cases, homemade is better......

Plus with things like birthday cakes, half the point of it for me is making whatever it is the kids wanted - I enjoy doing it.

I'm not saying that there aren't times I head into the supermarket and buy all the pre-prepared sides, but I do regret it when I eat them - I wouldn't do it if I had the time.

Homemade food tastes much better. I make homemade for most meals. Can’t bake though, so cakes and biscuits are shop bought.

You can see why people with such limited available time with their kids might choose to do something else with their time? If I could afford to work less I'd love to have that luxury and I would spend it in the kitchen. Hell today is my only day off this week and I'm baking for charity and about to prep lunches for the coming week, any time left will be spent sorting something for dinner for a couple of nights. I'd have rather spent this time exercising, going for a long walk would have done wonders for my mh.

I’d only eat home made cake. I just don’t like the flavour of a shop bought with the expectation of maybe an M and S chocolate mini roll. If someone serves a shop bought pudding I’d rather have just the ice cream

Where's this snobbery? They enjoy cooking, so what? I'm a socially-housed chav & I wouldn't touch a Tesco cake, they're overpriced garbage.

I like my own home made stuff, but other people's eurgh, gives me the boak, I imagine hairs and stuff in it 😂. Much more likely that the hairs are in mine, due to large hairy lab, and hair shedding mounjaro taking adult but hey.
If I go to someone's house and it's a plethora of beige from Iceland yum, lovely 'homemade' nibbles no thanks.

I know have known people like this; and I know people who don't make anything except Christmas dinner ( turkey, fresh veg, mashed potatoes, boxed stuffing mix) are the ones who verge on actual dislike/disdain towards anyone who prefers to make their meals entirely from scratch.

The person I have in mind is jealous of this, knows how much her DH and family would love home made anything, so it figures than anyone who doesn't cook/bake/ create in the kitchen is looked upon as 'thinking they are better' when it's just as much a life-style to them, as it is to those who choose to use 'ready-made' or meal kits.

I don’t think snobby is right word. They like homemade food and it’s what they enjoy making and eating. They aren’t forcing anyone to cook. I think people do what’s norm for them and their family. Also your tastebuds adapt and if you are used to homemade food then ship bought can be too sweet or salty. If you are a cook and have a well set up kitchen and larder it’s often easier than buying. So SIL can probably make a nice vegetarian wellington (perhaps pastry is for something else too like mince pies) rather than drive to m & s and fight her way around a mad busy food hall.
So making croissants for a nice weekend breakfast is relaxing in same way some people crochet or knit as a hobby.

What's snobby about it? Homemade food is generally much nicer than the manufactured alternative. I wouldn't eat a factory made cake. There is very little actual "food" in them.

It's a luxury for people who don't have time to cook from scratch.

That isn’t snobby. It’s really special. How wonderful.

This is a mixed picture-Plenty do live on shop bought and don’t work at all or a bit of part time but choose not to cook or can’t be arsed ( and to be frank it ‘often’ can cost more if you use good quality ingredients ) - not all ‘less rich’ people are out there both working full time -

Some of my very moist, high wet fruit content cakes like apple or peach cobbler sometimes go in the fridge but are warmed up to eat. They can mould quite quickly on the worktop. I wouldn't put a Victoria in the fridge though!

They sound dreamy. Any chance they would adopt/feed me?

It’s not snobby to enjoy cooking from scratch

What type of cake goes in the fridge? Surely that makes the sponge hard and horrible?

Homemade where ever possible here, the list of ingredients on the packaging of something as simple as a Victoria sandwich is crazy in comparison to homemade.

Homemade croissants? Thats dedication!! But yes i do eat a lot of homemade stuff and my family does too. My DP’s family is very mich a ready meal, get your own snack whenever you want type of family.
i do take your point, it sounds fastidious and it can be but you know, some people spend tbeir time and money in cars, others in art, some in food… whatever works for them! We are all different and there is no harm done.

Oh and if anyone thinks homemade cake has to be time consuming - Mug cake! This is the modern version of my nannas titian lap... Welsh plate cake. You mix up a bit of melted butter, sugar, flour and an egg along with some vanilla essence or a few chocolate chips or currants and 2 mins later you have a portion of cake. Even my daughter can make these in the microwave and does most nights!