Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

We would eat everything, but then again, we are not fussy! I will say that homemade food usually tastes much better, though, and- thankfully- has more recognisable ingredients. Now that I live away, I keep asking my grandmother to send me her recipes, and my mother kindly brings carrier bags of shop-bought Lancashire/Yorkshire items (which I am yet to find anywhere else!) over the border into Wales for me.

I think that's lovely ,if you can afford to and have the time is live to make it and eat it .
I think of that's what they are used to they can probably taste the difference in processed foods .
It's often cheaper and less time consuming to buy store bought tho .
Croissants ,,,could definitely not be arsed 🤣🤣🤣 would love to eat theirs tho 😉🤣

And you've been rubbish at arguing your POV throughout the thread.

Rube also means a silly or naive person BTW. I had to look it up too as had no idea that it meant a 'bumpkin' in American.

I haven't been rude to you, so don't know why you think it's OK to call people names just because they have an opposing opinioon to you?

It means unsophisticated, uncultured, socially gauche and backwards. Its origin is an early American term for yokels, but it has evolved a bit over the 300 years.

I just looked it up and it's a word that equates coming from the countryside with all sorts of negative things. Proves very well that you're snobs.

It's really not. If someone (like me!) has special dietary needs and it's not possible to do the same for everyone, of course it's OK to get them something ready made.

Thanks, @Mothership4two . It's not often I get to use the word rube, so that's a bonus 😉

What you don't do, unless you're a total rube, is have a hierarchy of guests, some of whom get decent food and some who get supermarket ready meals.

That's a really good way to put it @HeadyLamarr

Any half decent person will provide the same quality food for all of the people they have chosen to invite.
Because that's being a host.

It doesn't matter if the dietary requirements are vegetarian, vegan, kosher, halal, nut free, or Uncle Neville with his irrational loathing of garlic.

If your version of hosting is a ready meal, fine. Everyone gets a ready meal.

If your version of hosting is a homemade meal, you give everyone a homemade meal.

What you don't do, unless you're a total rube, is have a hierarchy of guests, some of whom get decent food and some who get supermarket ready meals.

You really do appear determined that the OP’s in laws are in the wrong despite. It doesn’t say the SIL sneered at the suggestion, she baulked at it…..because she had already planned to make a veggie wellington. The only person sneering is the OP.

I was just making a point about sitting (at a BBQ) eating something very different to the rest of the guests.

Repeating as you seem to have missed that. I didn't actually want veggie sausages, but I would have been OK with that (as I said) rather than a grim bog standard micromeal. I would have prepared something for a guest. We don't really eat UPF, but that wasn't what I was bothered about. It was more the taste, eating something completely different to everyone else and being a bit of a lazy afterthought at this particular BBQ. BTW we often host the barbequer (who also doesn't eat very much UPF).

I am very far from a snob, but I do like decent tasty healthy(ish) food and am happy to provide it.

It s not generally snobby - just appreciative.
However, at the school fair - if a person donated a shop cake v a homemade cake - then in our old school - this would be judged and therefore snobby against the person who bought the shop baked cake . ( say like a time poor full time mum v one who had time to make one !)
I found this c judgemental- but this does not sound like your relative s who seem to just enjoy food creatively.
i always cook from scratch daily and did so when at work with little children.. but it wasnt always that nice as time was of the essence!

"I have made veggie sausages (without a sausage machine), although I wouldn't expect that at a family BBQ"

I just think it's hypocritical to reject a ready meal while you actually wanted veggy sausages that are also UPF. It's one of the reasons I really suspect there's a lot of snobbery going on here and it's not really about all ready-made food being 'awful or 'god-awful' as one person put it.

Yes, us too. We've got a gluten-free friend (life style choice not a health one) and I keep in gluten-free plain and SR flour especially. One friend hates strong spices especially curries, so mildish meals for them. My cousin brought his meat only GF round for dinner once - so we did three roasts. I assumed she ate a lot of meat but would have a few roasties and a little bit of veg. Nope, just a huge plate of meat.

I was just making a point about sitting (at a BBQ) eating something very different to the rest of the guests. But I have made veggie sausages (without a sausage machine), although I wouldn't expect that at a family BBQ! BIL actually does own a sausage machine! And, again, we offered to bring something and were turned down - a nice salad would have been great.

Yes your 'ideal' would have been OK (as I said) but we're the guests and it's up to the hosts and they may not want to do that. And a side dish is a perfect solution. Usually, in our family, a veggie (main) option is provided - other than that one party.

"I've cooked a second vegetarian option on many occasions. That's what you do if you... host vegetarians?"

Well, no, you can cook something where the meat is not in with the other stuff and you can add a few more side things. You can also cook vegetarian for everyone because omnivores don't have to have meat for every meal. You can also have meat as an optional side rather than the main focus. You don't have to cook two main meals and I would be very embarrassed if someone did that for me.

Not selfish. I've cooked a second vegetarian option on many occasions. That's what you do if you... host vegetarians? Why invite someone if you're going to scrape something out of a plastic tub for them? How dreadful. I'm cringing thinking about it.

"I've been to BBQ's (where I would have been OK with a couple of veggie sausages) sitting with my micro meal while everyone else is eating their BBQ. "

But veggie sausages are UPF, or do you expect them to have a sausage machine and make them from scratch. I would have brought my own sausages anyway.

Your point about a side dish is irrelevant because as I said earlier, the ideal is a meal where the meat and veg are not mixed, but it was clear in this case that the main meal would be different for the omnivores and the vegetarians.

Fine if you are happy with that - I find microwave ready meals grim TBH. And it doesn't show much thought or care for a guest. I'd be quite happy with the same meal as everyone if that would be possible, but the hosts maybe feel that's a bit of a faff? I've been to BBQ's (where I would have been OK with a couple of veggie sausages) sitting with my micro meal while everyone else is eating their BBQ. I make sure I cater for all guests equally to make them all feel welcome no matter how fiddly or time consuming that might be.

I don't selfishly 'demand' anything, but I have felt disappointed. I am not expecting a separate main meal, but a little side dish which isn't too much trouble. Like I have said, I would do the same. I have even offered to take my own food before and been told 'don't worry we are happy to cater for you' and thengot the micro meal. I do have to say most of my friends and family are lovely and do put themselves out, it's mainly one repeat offender.

"It's a god-awful suggestion, as many solo vegetarians on this thread have said."

Selfish people if they're expecting the host to cook two main meals!

It's a god-awful suggestion, as many solo vegetarians on this thread have said. They were rejecting her cheap mass-produced suggestion because they already have a plan to cook something they were happy with.

OP sticking her oar in about a meal she is neither helping prepare nor host isn't being helpful.

It's fair enough that you don't expect it. But as a host, I'd expect it of myself. I'd die of shame serving someone a microwave lasagne when everyone else had a home-cooked meal.

The judgmental bit is coming from the OP, who sneers at her in-laws for making proper food rather than relying on a convenience food at Christmas. Making a mushroom wellington for the sole vegetarian is a thoughtful and kind thing to do, but the OP thinks it's insane.

There are often times where a convenience food is just the job. A family meal for Christmas hosted by people who are excellent cooks (according to the OP) isn't that occasion.

" because they didn’t go with her idea of a ready meal over their already planned homemade meal."

They were sneering at the perfectly reasonable suggestion of a ready meal.

You’re missing the point again. This isn’t about a guest expecting anything, it is about a family, who Op states enjoy homemade food and are good cooks, hosting a vegetarian and planning an appropriate meal (homemade vegetarian wellington) and the OP suggesting they instead buy a ready meal. The OP goes on to laugh and sneer at her in laws because they didn’t go with her idea of a ready meal over their already planned homemade meal.