Husband building up resentment

So you're moving back from the "wanted to get it done quickly" and "it was the only personal reccommendation" justifications? It's almost not your fault is it?
Might I suggest that if you are so inept at negotiating with tradespeople then you leave it to your husband in the future?

So you fell for the biggest con in the book, cause panic for fear of missing out. No wonder your partner is upset, I thought every adult knew if they put pressure on, you immediately back off.

Oh well, what is done is done, but now you've got try and do damage control. I don't know if anyone else has suggested this but I think you should take the first guy to small claims court to claw back from him any money you can, especially to cover paying the new guy for fixing his mess. If you do this, you can hopefully put some money back in your bank and you can show your partner you are taking your mistake seriously and trying to fix it.

OP - is this your first time using tradesman? they all tell you or make you feel like they are overly booked, it's a skill they hold so you think they are very good and you need to hire them right away

Did you miss where she said she wanted different quotes? and OP just chose the first person and whatever cost it came with?

This is not how things work and joint finances need joint decisions.

Men hating is tolerated way too much even when the men on the topic are not in the wrong

And not financial abuse towards him when you spent shared finances on your own decisions?

This was the biggest mistake as far as such things go and I hate to say it, if this was him doing what you did, responses would have been different.

Always the men in the wrong as per comments but people forget to remind you that this is a Joint decision and when one chooses to go with their own, it's never a good idea.

I dont think op is coming back.

Of course I can tell the difference. I'm not a fool. My comment stands nonetheless.

No, she has free will. Let's not start blaming the tradesman.

So he’s being a dick but you ignored his concerns, went ahead anyway and it went wrong. This site is full of outcry and fury when a man does this so you’ve caused this. You overruled him and decided your opinions are more important.

I dont think its the decorating he is seething about.

It is the fact you valued the opinion of your friend more than you valued his.

Did you get quotes from other people?

Team DH, I am afraid. Someone pressuring you to give them work without giving you time to think should have been your first red flag. You overrode you DH's sensible request to talk to other people and get some quotes in because you wanted the work done straight away and it now it has hit you hard financially. I would be furious. This was a significant sum of money, it should have been a joint decision. Having said that, shit goes wrong with contractors, even carefully selected ones, and you wouldn't be the first people who have had to spend money to over and above a quote to put bad work right, so he is wrong to punish you indefinitely over this. What's done is done. If this is part of a wider pattern of behaviour that is pissing him off, only you can say.

The op said

He has people lined up to visit and give a quote

she went battering on with her person and didn’t wait for the others to come and give quotes. I’d be raging.

She did say

"He has people lined up to visit and give a quote but the decorator made it seem like if I didn't make an immediate decision he'd start a job somewhere else."

So she seems to have been railroaded into it by a dodgy tradesman

Unless I missed it another poster, sorry if I did but I read he wanted to go with someone else and that doesn't mean he lined up other quotes.

Jesus. No wonder he is fuming.

"an error of judgement on the part of their partner, that could have happened to anyone."

It wouldn't have happened to someone who respected their partner.

Can't you understand that the issue is that she went ahead and decided behind his back?
Scenario #1 (your judgement would be acceptable):
DW: "I've got some strong opinions about the decorating - shall I sort it?"
DH: "Yep, sure - choose who you think best"
Scenario #2 (what actually happened):
DW: "I've got some strong opinions about the decorating - shall I sort it?"
DH: "No, I've got some more quotes coming in - let's wait till they're all in to make a decision."

Can you tell the difference?

If this is one off sulking because you ended expending loads of money I would left him sulk for a bit, no need to apologise further, what is done is done. Yeah, the decision you made was crap and had consequences. Don't justify it own it and learn the lesson for the future, although I'm not sure what lesson you can learn for this other than check the quotes thoroughly and the reviews.
If this is one of the many sulks you got a husband problem.
In the other hand if you always want to be the one in charge regardless and you never take advice of him you need to improve that way or impulsive making decisions.

Except that OP has clearly stated that he lined up other decorators to give quotes, and she blew that off.

Team DH