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Been scammed by a cake maker?

84 replies

Samelly · 11/12/2025 22:07

Have used this lady multiple times no problem, really great cake maker, reliable etc. Our youngest kids are friends from school, sometime socialise outside of school

Ordered a cake for December 10th, sent money via bank transfer, messaged the day before to arrange a collection time, no reply. Messaged again the morning of, received a reply at 1pm saying she got her dates mixed up she thought it was for the 12th and offered a refund straight away. I was annoyed but messaged saying these things happen.
Asked if she needed bank details, no reply, messaged her again today twice, no reply.
Shes since removed me as a friend on Facebook (not blocked)
Have I lost this money? Im tempted to write it off as bad experience but didn’t want to leave it on a sour note as our kids are friends.

AIBU: let it go
AINBU: message her again tomorrow, leave a bad review on her Facebook page

OP posts:
Londonrach1 · 11/12/2025 22:26

Strange tomun friend you on Facebook. Can you ask for charge back from your back. Keep asking for your money back.

Poms · 11/12/2025 22:24

If you have used multiple times it seems unlikely that she has set out to scam you

Okiedokie123 · 11/12/2025 22:24

She’s taken your money, failed to fulfill the order and has now binned you on fb. Of course you should confront her.

swingingbytheseat · 11/12/2025 22:21

I think something has happened to her, I doubt cake makers are the scamming type, wouldn’t you have to love it?
I’d use bank to get a refund

Newname09 · 11/12/2025 22:18

The fact she’s deleted you off when it was her who messed up would boil my pee, and she can’t blame it on the fact you had a go at her because you say you were quite understanding.
go to her door!!

SimplyBudgie · 11/12/2025 22:11

Have used this lady multiple times no problem, really great cake maker, reliable etc. Our youngest kids are friends from school, sometime socialise outside of school

It's shit but I think it's more likely something bad has happened - she's ill or somebody died or she's really struggling.

Given your history i'd give at least a couple of days grace before announcing her as a scammer and leaving bad reviews.

Original poster
Samelly · 11/12/2025 22:11

MissingCanine · 11/12/2025 22:09

Ask her when you see her?

Our paths don’t cross (senior school run) unless I just go to her door? (feels a bit confrontational)

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HappyKatieA · 11/12/2025 22:09

can you ask the bank to look into it for a chargeback?

MissingCanine · 11/12/2025 22:09

Ask her when you see her?