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"We're pregnant"

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IngridBurger · 11/12/2025 20:45

I hate it so much. No he isn't pregnant. Not even a bit. Yes he's going to he a father. He's expecting a baby. His partner is pregnant. How lovely that he's excited about it. What an amazing dad he's sure to be, but he is absolutely not pregnant!

I'm as grumpy as a middle-aged woman can get but this one really pisses me off. Pregnancy is a uniquely female experience. Why the fuck do men need to lay claim to it?

Do they experience morning sickness? Worry about the effects of the pregnancy on their career and earning potential? Be judged by all and sundry if they decide to have a thimbleful of wine or a slice of smoked salmon? Go through the risks and pain of childbirth?

Is it just me? (I expect so!!)

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Scorchio84 · 12/12/2025 00:00

BeeHive909 · 11/12/2025 23:15

Actually talking about this. I don’t mind the saying as I said in my post but this reminded me of my brothers old school friend when his girlfriend was pregnant he went to his doctors to see if he could be prescribed something so he could breastfeed also . Never forgotten it and no one talks to him now .

I think that's enough internet for me tonight 😂😂

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:59

Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 11/12/2025 23:47

See also the hench hipster- man bun , sculpted beard, spiritual/ Celtic tattoos, checked shirt /turn up jeans- alpha male lumberjack/ Jason Mimoa carry on ( but works in car phone warehouse)

alongside

Poundland/Temu Louis Theroux types in duffle coats, fresh off a luxury belief protest who you just know will also be saying ‘WE’ don’t want pain relief; WE want a natural birth; WE will be breastfeeding till 6
WE will be co- sleeping like they do in Denmark (well I say ‘We’- ‘SHE’ will be lumped in with the lit’lun while I’m nice n cosy downstairs in the snug watching ‘ethical porn’ on my phone !

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"Temu Louis Theroux" finished me off!

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:57

IPM · 11/12/2025 23:50

One of my cousins wears the ankle grazers and sockless loafers.

My lovely Irish uncle took one look at him and said, "If your ankle was a slice of ham, you couldn't make a sandwich" 🤣🤣

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Love it!!

I mean its a bit iffy if you are in your twenties but can be put down to be age related knobishness. Any older than that? Sort yourself out mate!

ChiliFiend · 11/12/2025 23:52

Awful - and performative, in my opinion. "Look how close we are - we're effectively the same person, in one body." Barf.

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IngridBurger · 11/12/2025 23:50

Wanderdust · 11/12/2025 23:06

Takes two to make a pregnancy so...!

It takes two people to make one pregnancy. Exactly. You're getting it, well done!

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IPM · 11/12/2025 23:50

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:44

Had one at work this week! Love that phrase wish I had known of it then! Funniest thing about it? This guy was 60 if he was a day, the gut hanging over his drain pipes down to his sockless en-loafered feet was a sight to behold. His hair was.....being kind....Rick Astley in the 80's. Being undkind? A wig.

He wasnt old enough to have been hanging on to the 60's but struck me as a "I am not getting old, I am young and hip" type. Serving him was a lesson in self control!

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One of my cousins wears the ankle grazers and sockless loafers.

My lovely Irish uncle took one look at him and said, "If your ankle was a slice of ham, you couldn't make a sandwich" 🤣🤣

Gettingbysomehow · 11/12/2025 23:49

Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 11/12/2025 23:47

See also the hench hipster- man bun , sculpted beard, spiritual/ Celtic tattoos, checked shirt /turn up jeans- alpha male lumberjack/ Jason Mimoa carry on ( but works in car phone warehouse)

alongside

Poundland/Temu Louis Theroux types in duffle coats, fresh off a luxury belief protest who you just know will also be saying ‘WE’ don’t want pain relief; WE want a natural birth; WE will be breastfeeding till 6
WE will be co- sleeping like they do in Denmark (well I say ‘We’- ‘SHE’ will be lumped in with the lit’lun while I’m nice n cosy downstairs in the snug watching ‘ethical porn’ on my phone !

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Yes indeed please fuck right off.

Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 11/12/2025 23:49

DramaAlpaca · 11/12/2025 23:33

I overheard a male friend announced to someone he'd just met the other day, 'I've had four children.' I decided not to say anything in front of the other person but inwardly rolled my eyes and thought 'mate, you mean you've got four children, give your wife some credit, you're not a medical miracle.' He's normally fairly sound, but I thought that was a daft comment.

Nah that I get
turn of phrase I think x

Cautionsharpblade · 11/12/2025 23:47

I once heard ‘we had an episiotomy’. Oh did we now?!

Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 11/12/2025 23:47

FoxLoxInSox · 11/12/2025 23:31

It’s always a slightly wet-looking younger millenial man-boy who can be found at a Christmas gathering telling people “we’re pregnant?”.

See also the hench hipster- man bun , sculpted beard, spiritual/ Celtic tattoos, checked shirt /turn up jeans- alpha male lumberjack/ Jason Mimoa carry on ( but works in car phone warehouse)

alongside

Poundland/Temu Louis Theroux types in duffle coats, fresh off a luxury belief protest who you just know will also be saying ‘WE’ don’t want pain relief; WE want a natural birth; WE will be breastfeeding till 6
WE will be co- sleeping like they do in Denmark (well I say ‘We’- ‘SHE’ will be lumped in with the lit’lun while I’m nice n cosy downstairs in the snug watching ‘ethical porn’ on my phone !

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:44

IPM · 11/12/2025 23:41

I've only ever experienced a couple of wet lettuce late 30s hipster types saying it.

You know the type of bloke who looks like the bottom of his trousers has gone no contact with the tops of his loafers?

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Had one at work this week! Love that phrase wish I had known of it then! Funniest thing about it? This guy was 60 if he was a day, the gut hanging over his drain pipes down to his sockless en-loafered feet was a sight to behold. His hair was.....being kind....Rick Astley in the 80's. Being undkind? A wig.

He wasnt old enough to have been hanging on to the 60's but struck me as a "I am not getting old, I am young and hip" type. Serving him was a lesson in self control!

MsCactus · 11/12/2025 23:44

My pregnancies were literal hell on earth (bedbound in pain, unable to even shower or stand) so absolutely 100% loathe this phrase!

IPM · 11/12/2025 23:41

FoxLoxInSox · 11/12/2025 23:31

It’s always a slightly wet-looking younger millenial man-boy who can be found at a Christmas gathering telling people “we’re pregnant?”.

I've only ever experienced a couple of wet lettuce late 30s hipster types saying it.

You know the type of bloke who looks like the bottom of his trousers has gone no contact with the tops of his loafers?

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:40

IdaGlossop · 11/12/2025 23:34

Well if some men think they can hack being a cow for the first few weeks of the baby life, good luck to them.

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Having BF once myself, if I thought my useless ex could have done at least that ONE thing instead of me I would bitten his bloody hand off! Dont get me wrong BF was great but the night wakings.....not so much!

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IngridBurger · 11/12/2025 23:36

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:29

I sort of get it.

"I am pregnant" implies its her baby alone and that he has no involvement.

"We are having a baby" is the correct way to show that they are doing this together and he is involved, but I "We're pregnant" is a sort of shorthand for that, despite being BEYOND annoying to hear!

And I agree that more women than men seem to say it, in fact thinking about it I dont recall a man ever saying it.

However, rather more telling, I have often heard men saying "My wife is having a baby" which I feel is him distancing himself from the whole thing.

Surely "we're having a baby" is the limit of the middle ground? "We're pregnant" is a definite overstep and I agree "my wife is having a baby" is a move in the opposite direction. What a minefield!

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IdaGlossop · 11/12/2025 23:34

BeeHive909 · 11/12/2025 23:29

Oh he probably would but she dumped him not long after birth because he was controlling her. Wouldn’t surprise me if other men have asked it.

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Well if some men think they can hack being a cow for the first few weeks of the baby life, good luck to them.

DramaAlpaca · 11/12/2025 23:33

I overheard a male friend announced to someone he'd just met the other day, 'I've had four children.' I decided not to say anything in front of the other person but inwardly rolled my eyes and thought 'mate, you mean you've got four children, give your wife some credit, you're not a medical miracle.' He's normally fairly sound, but I thought that was a daft comment.

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:32

OverlyFragrant · 11/12/2025 23:25

When I was working on a postnatal ward I complimented a new dad on his son, and said how much he looked like him. Dad curtly replied they'd used a sperm donor and I shut my big mouth up.

Thing is, baby really did look like him.

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Possibly the donor they used was chosen due to his resemblance to the father, so I dont think its that daft a comment. His reaction however would suggest some insecurity or anger about it being a donor child, otherwise why say anything? Its no ones business but theirs. I dont think that this was about your comment in and of itself.

FoxLoxInSox · 11/12/2025 23:31

It’s always a slightly wet-looking younger millenial man-boy who can be found at a Christmas gathering telling people “we’re pregnant?”.

Ellie56 · 11/12/2025 23:30

IngridBurger · 11/12/2025 20:45

I hate it so much. No he isn't pregnant. Not even a bit. Yes he's going to he a father. He's expecting a baby. His partner is pregnant. How lovely that he's excited about it. What an amazing dad he's sure to be, but he is absolutely not pregnant!

I'm as grumpy as a middle-aged woman can get but this one really pisses me off. Pregnancy is a uniquely female experience. Why the fuck do men need to lay claim to it?

Do they experience morning sickness? Worry about the effects of the pregnancy on their career and earning potential? Be judged by all and sundry if they decide to have a thimbleful of wine or a slice of smoked salmon? Go through the risks and pain of childbirth?

Is it just me? (I expect so!!)

No I hate it too. It is ridiculous.

BeeHive909 · 11/12/2025 23:29

IdaGlossop · 11/12/2025 23:28

If that silly boyfriend asked his NHS doctor that question now, the answer would be yes! Marvellous 😜

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Oh he probably would but she dumped him not long after birth because he was controlling her. Wouldn’t surprise me if other men have asked it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 11/12/2025 23:29

I sort of get it.

"I am pregnant" implies its her baby alone and that he has no involvement.

"We are having a baby" is the correct way to show that they are doing this together and he is involved, but I "We're pregnant" is a sort of shorthand for that, despite being BEYOND annoying to hear!

And I agree that more women than men seem to say it, in fact thinking about it I dont recall a man ever saying it.

However, rather more telling, I have often heard men saying "My wife is having a baby" which I feel is him distancing himself from the whole thing.

IdaGlossop · 11/12/2025 23:28

BeeHive909 · 11/12/2025 23:15

Actually talking about this. I don’t mind the saying as I said in my post but this reminded me of my brothers old school friend when his girlfriend was pregnant he went to his doctors to see if he could be prescribed something so he could breastfeed also . Never forgotten it and no one talks to him now .

If that silly boyfriend asked his NHS doctor that question now, the answer would be yes! Marvellous 😜

OverlyFragrant · 11/12/2025 23:25

IdaGlossop · 11/12/2025 23:14

I am told that newborns actually do resemble the father so he wants to look after them. Not sure I believe it though as data also suggests plenty of babies are raised by a father not their biological father.

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When I was working on a postnatal ward I complimented a new dad on his son, and said how much he looked like him. Dad curtly replied they'd used a sperm donor and I shut my big mouth up.

Thing is, baby really did look like him.

Sunshine1500 · 11/12/2025 23:24

I hate it. There’s always a certain type that say this! Sorry 😆