"We're pregnant"

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Always been one of my biggest pet peeves. HATED hearing my feminist friends using those terms. Yes, we are expecting a baby. But I was pregnant, thankyouverymuch.

Yup, agree! Makes me laugh, it’s so awful! I appreciate the sentiment behind it, but he’s not even a little bit pregnant!!

I suppose you could say the pregnancy is his baby too and that the pregnancy affects his life too, but saying “we” are pregnant takes it A STEP TOO FAR!!!! 🤣

It doesn’t irritate me as much as the baby world leaving out “the” before “baby”. As in, “Make sure baby is fed before sleep.” THAT one absolutely makes my teeth itch. It’s so fucking twee and so fucking grammatically incorrect, I want to make anyone who partakes write a hundred lines saying “It’s THE baby”.

How remarkably defensive.

It sounds like your son is doing a wonderful job being the solo parent after what was a very traumatic experience for your whole family.

He still wasn't pregnant.

I'd lose respect for my husband if he announced, 'we're pregnant'.

I'd not have noticed it before having children. My first pregnancy was blighted by miscarriage fears as it was my first after 8 years of infertility.

My second the fatigue was so bad I couldn't leave the house for the first trimester. I could barely stand up.

As good as my husband was, only I experienced that. Only me feeling the real lows when I was completely housebound, and the wonderful, beautiful highs of falling in love with my babies, our first night together. It was all worth it.

But I was pregnant. Just me.

See, I don't like the "new" in that. If someone told you they were going to have a baby you wouldn't assume it was anything other than new, would you?

I even think it's silly when parents say "were having a little girl/boy". I should hope so, for the mother's sake!

One of the Ben Stiller Meet the Parent films has something like that! His father in law feeds his grandson with it.

Mila Kunis has it right…

I'm guessing that surely some producer out there has created some kind of man boob strap-on nipple bottle that can hold formula/breast milk that he can slip on like a bra, that looks like a pair of boobs, that can be refilled, that he can use to nurse the child. Dear Lord if this has not been created yet, nobody grab my idea and I'll make it myself!!

I agree with you I have never liked this phrase ever...
"We are going to be parents" , sure
But "we are pregnant"?. No WE are not!

I suppose it sounds less possessive than "my wife is going to be pregnant" "My partner is going to be pregnant", "my girlfriend is going to be pregnant." because that makes her sound more like a possession than a shared responsibility or shared experience but no I agree with you.

I hate it too, so smugly cringeworthy! I used to know a man through work whose wife was pregnant and he talked about the pregnancy as if it was him pregnant. The best was after the baby was born and he said they shared the pain. Yes, sure you did. She was probably screaming her head off while he was standing looking queasy.

I think you are misunderstanding.

The OP isnt suggesting that men cannot be good fathers [ETA] or indeed that women are automatically good mothers, its clear that your son is a good father and birth mother wasnt good at all.

But that, whatever some would like to imply, they simply cannot grow and birth another human. They just can't and it is somewhat insulting to suggest that they are sharing and helping to bear the physical and emotional pain and stress of being pregnant and giving birth. That they can understand how it feels to not just be aware of the pregnancy but of having it overtake every single moment of your waking (and sleeping) hours when they can't.

We have so little that is just ours, and now we cant even be pregnant without some men trying to muscle in.

That has nothing to do with your son being a single father to his child.

Nothing to do with good and bad.

Everything to do with biology. Your son wasn’t pregnant.

I had one of these in my prenatal class. But worse because ‘we’ didn’t even want G&A. Poor wife had cascading interventions and a CS eventually.

‘We’ also decided on all natural clothes and toys, elimination communication (FFS) and all manner of bollocks. She looked so utterly miserable. Poor lamb. I hope she left him and they eat McDonalds now.

Vomit inducing

My son has full custody of his child. ( I know custody isn’t thr right term before you come at me!?)
he doesn’t have a biological mother because of the abuse so you have no idea what you are talking about,
this makes me so angry that you assume all women are good and men are not

It's an appalling phrase. Really makes me see red.

Only the woman can be pregnant, unless her male partner is a seahorse.

When our children were on the way it was me who was the pregnant one and the one giving birth. DH wasn't, much to his everlasting relief. It would thankfully never have occurred to him to utter such idiotic nonsense.

Absolutely. Bleurg. The sort of thing Miranda's cringey coupley friends say.

Yes it does you are correct.

But only 1 has the scan.
Only 1 goes into labour.
Only 1 gives birth.
Only 1 BFs.
And only 1 is pregnant.

You wouldn’t say our water broke, our cervix’s are dilated - so why would you say we’re pregnant referring to 2 people.

Just say we’re having a baby.

I love how the mum is trying to include him but just fucking say we’re having a baby.

Its like if I stood next to my sister and said we’re pregnant - it would mean we’re both pregnant.

He is not pregnant so why say you’re both pregnant.

Makes me nauseous

Which undoubtedly many of them will do down the line without the grit and values of the much maligned’ Darren’s , Dans,and Alfie’s’ mentioned upthread.

You already responded to my comment and I replied. No facts don’t go out the window. But I don’t think it’s worth correcting every couple that might converse this way.