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To be worried there will be a war in Europe

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Viviennemary · 11/12/2025 19:54

I don't think there will be. But the media seem to be hell bent on
winding us up about it. I dont understand Trump's attitude at all. He's like not our problem. I thought the USA was meant to be in NATO.

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bumblingbovine49 · 12/12/2025 10:33

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 12/12/2025 08:31

I've been listening to a lot of podcasts and news recently and this is my prediction Call me nuts if you want.

Trump needs minerals.
He needs them for AI energy and winning the race of AI domination with China. This is accelerating rapidly and he knows this.

He can't get them from China so he is willing to get into bed with Russia to get them and win the race. He knows Russia are weak in this area and won't win the Ai race

Once US has screwed everyone in Europe over US will then screw Russia over too.

I do believe there will be a war but centred round Israel rather than Russia v Europe We may get dragged in. But they are fighting for religion and ideology not land so won't give in.

When the war in Europe comes it will be around ai and is more likely to be a civil war with the US and China dominating and the rest of us scrabbling around for crumbs.

If we want to be in with a chance our best chance at any survival in the economy is to get into bed with trump to and be he lapdog as painful as that would be.

Blimey this is depressing and a very believable scenario

GinAndJuice99 · 12/12/2025 10:31

Please stop with the scaremongering posts. Some people come to AIBU to get away from all that. Thanks

Dappy777 · 12/12/2025 10:30

Russia doesn't have the manpower or the resources. They can't even subdue Ukraine.

If there is a war, I won't be involved. My great grandfather was wounded in WW1 and my grandfather was in the RAF in WW2, but if there was a war tomorrow, I wouldn't lift a finger. I don't feel English/British anymore. That sense of living in a nation with a shared history and shared identity just isn't there. The left have demonised all our national heroes and taught us to hate and reject our own culture and history.

When Labour got in in 1997, a speechwriter for Blair said "the plan was to rub the right's nose in diversity and render their arguments out of date." Fine. But you can't have it both ways. You can't destroy somebody's identity, sneer at their history, impose a new identity on them and then expect them to risk their life for you. The left have got what they wanted. They've created a new Britain, and they can go and fight for it.

bumblingbovine49 · 12/12/2025 10:28

I wish I could find the post from a few years ago when I said one of the major effects of the UK leaving the EU was that it signalled to Russia that Europe was starting to really disagree and that the infighting resulting from Brexit was a gift to Putin.

I was seriously worried it would embolden Putin to start a war with one of the old 'Eastern bloc' countries. Something he has been itching to do for years. Although the EU was of course an economic union, it was nonetheless a union and made Europe stronger and a more formidable enemy for Russia.

I hadn't even thought about the effect of a US president like Trump who would want to cosy up to the Russian bully and how it would weaken NATO so much. I am really worried the war will spread too.

I worry that Russia will move on to one of the smaller Baltic States as a test to see if NATO will respond with force without the US fully on board. It this happens and NATO does not respond with decisive and aggressve force we are truly stuffed . Even if NATO were to respond decisively the, resulting fight would be awful too. Let's hope I am wrong in this , DH thinks I am

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 12/12/2025 10:24

This thread😲

I grew up in the Cold War. There will be a cyber war or a Cold War if that.

I don’t think anyone will be sent on active service. I don’t know anyone in real life who thinks like this. It’s the changing relationship with US that makes people feel threatened.

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 10:14

Teddleshon1 · 12/12/2025 09:50

@StandFirm why is a more coordinated European defence policy the responsibility of the US?

It's not, but the US have always been involved, which in many ways has prevented Europe from putting together a more coordinated defence policy, because the deal was that the US would guarantee Europe's security.

Ihatetomatoes · 12/12/2025 10:13

Vaxtable · 11/12/2025 20:46

Let’s not forget here that Donald changes with the wind. Just look at how he has behaved towards Ukraine, Putin is right, Putin is wrong, now he’s right again and will win the war!

He really should get his own house in order before meddling in other countries

Yes.

Trump behaves like an idiot, he flip flops and causes more uncertainty. He currently sides with Russia just taking Ukrainian land and the Ukrainian people should just roll over and accept it.

Caterpillar1 · 12/12/2025 10:10

It looks like the plan is to get rid of Zelensky (with Trump's hands) in the hope that Ukraine will roll over without him. Next are the Baltics - very small, so easily defeated. Poland will be the next formidable adversary, 20 mln people ready to fight (all Poles have learnt how to use a rifle at secondary state schools in the last 30-20 years), so they could get stuck there for years. I just read now 14-year olds are learning at schools there how to assemble their rifles.
In the UK there have not been any discussions at all about this, people will have no idea until the Russian submarines cut off our power/Internet/gas cables under the sea. However, in order to resist a land attack, we would need a very resilient civilian population and I don't think we have that (just look at everybody's claiming anxiety/poor mental health, blah, blah, blah). Sometimes I feel like the Russians would enter and promise 'no more immigration, lower bills, free food and gas', and the people here would be like... 'whatever, just let me go back to my phone'. Education would have to start at schools now.

NotrialNodeal · 12/12/2025 09:56

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 12/12/2025 09:53

Grant Schapps isn’t defence secretary.

Sorry you're right he served as secretary of state for defence.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 12/12/2025 09:53

NotrialNodeal · 12/12/2025 09:42

Leaders like the UK's Defence Secretary Grant Shapps suggest we have moved from a "post-war" to a "pre-war" world, facing threats from multiple actors like Russia, China, Iran, and North Korea. Polls in Europe and the US show that most people think there will be another world war within the next 5 to 10 years.

Grant Schapps isn’t defence secretary.

Teddleshon1 · 12/12/2025 09:50

@StandFirm why is a more coordinated European defence policy the responsibility of the US?

NotrialNodeal · 12/12/2025 09:42

scorpiogirly · 12/12/2025 09:34

There won't be a war. Scaremongering again. Don't believe the MSM.

Leaders like the UK's Defence Secretary Grant Shapps suggest we have moved from a "post-war" to a "pre-war" world, facing threats from multiple actors like Russia, China, Iran, and North Korea. Polls in Europe and the US show that most people think there will be another world war within the next 5 to 10 years.

Bluefloor · 12/12/2025 09:42

scorpiogirly · 12/12/2025 09:34

There won't be a war. Scaremongering again. Don't believe the MSM.

I’m concerned that is also the attitude of leaders in Europe including the UK. It makes us weak.

scorpiogirly · 12/12/2025 09:34

There won't be a war. Scaremongering again. Don't believe the MSM.

surreygirly · 12/12/2025 09:33

Lemonfrost · 11/12/2025 22:23

Blimey OP, Trump is very much “our problem”. In fact, he is a colossal problem for all of us in Europe. As for the Ukraine situation, we should be worried about escalation. We are years in now, with an emboldened Putin who has the backing of the US president. We have decided to ignore this for several months but it’s fast reaching the point where that’s not an option anymore. These are unprecedented times, and not in a good way.

So what do you think Ukraine can do
Russia is making ground every day
Ukraine gives in or gets totally overtaken by Russia
The only way that will not happen is if Europe gets involved
Do you want your kids going to fight for Ukraine then is that ok with you

EasternStandard · 12/12/2025 09:31

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 09:23

Well, this is all a bit of a kick up the backside, but what annoys me with the US policy right now is the cakeism. For decades, they've done nothing to encourage a more coordinated European defence strategy, instead wanting to be the ultimate arbiters and suppliers. Today, they still want that, just with us paying through the nose for the privilege. The new doctrine is not really about the US disengaging from Europe, on the contrary, it's in fact about getting more money from us. It's a mistake to think we are encouraged to be more independent. That's not what's happening, depressingly enough.

I don’t see it that way tbf. If we want to pay more for defence then we just need to put the money in. The US has said pay up in a way that actually works, not much else does. We don’t want war, we don’t want to pay for it either really, all rational and understandable.

I’d prefer not to have the media / headline anxiety but as pp said this is just NATO realising it needs more money from the EU.

notimagain · 12/12/2025 09:31

@Standfirm.

Yep, European defence spending needs to increase but POTUS very much wants the money going to Lockheed-Martin, Boeing etc, not Dassault, Airbus, BAe or Thales etc..

surreygirly · 12/12/2025 09:31

Trump is not the issue
Stop believing the BBC which has been shown to lie and the Guardian
Putin is intent on a war Trump is the only us president since Roosevelt who has not committed USA to a war
USA does not want to get involved in other people's wars - that includes Europe
The issue is Nato which is weak
Russia committed an act of sabotage in Poland that is an attack on a Nato county
Noto response was zero

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 09:29

EasternStandard · 12/12/2025 09:15

I meant to say I can see why US voters don’t want to be overly relied upon to send their dc in pp.

Although that probably applies to EU too.

No one ever wants that unless there's a true existential threat to the nation.

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 09:23

EasternStandard · 12/12/2025 09:08

Tbf the only thing that has got the EU to put in what was it 600bn was the threat of US saying no more. The electorates just won’t have gone for we need to spend more on defence, because it always takes a war like justification.

I don’t want it, I’m sure most fear sending young people more than cables / other things mentioned here.

Fine as said below an organisation wants more money, we get anxiety inducing headlines to justify it.

The whole thing is unconscionable anyway, that people are being sent from any country rn. I can see why EU voters also don’t want to send their dc.

Well, this is all a bit of a kick up the backside, but what annoys me with the US policy right now is the cakeism. For decades, they've done nothing to encourage a more coordinated European defence strategy, instead wanting to be the ultimate arbiters and suppliers. Today, they still want that, just with us paying through the nose for the privilege. The new doctrine is not really about the US disengaging from Europe, on the contrary, it's in fact about getting more money from us. It's a mistake to think we are encouraged to be more independent. That's not what's happening, depressingly enough.

EasternStandard · 12/12/2025 09:15

I meant to say I can see why US voters don’t want to be overly relied upon to send their dc in pp.

Although that probably applies to EU too.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 12/12/2025 09:15

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 08:54

I also think there is a sense of panic among leaders because of the looming climate crisis. I don't want to sound like a doom monger (ok, I admit I do...) but we will all have to adapt and I think government leaders have no real clue. So what we're seeing now is a desperate scramble for tech dominance in the hope tech will provide solutions, and natural resources. Mass migration will absolutely explode in the next ten years and what we now have is very much a 'pull up the drawbridge now!' kind of mentality. Revolutions usually happen when three factors converge: a political/social crisis, a financial crisis and an environmental crisis.

I'll take a deep breath now, get myself a very strong coffee and try and focus on mundane tasks for the rest of the day...

Edited

Revolutions usually happen when people are hungry. That is the driving force.

Teddleshon1 · 12/12/2025 09:12

@Alexandra2001 but no European country was meeting their defence spending commitments as required under NATO. Trump is the only President who managed to get this moving in the right direction.

Alexandra2001 · 12/12/2025 09:10

ScorchingEgg · 12/12/2025 09:03

This. I’m a bit bemused by some of the comments around Trump when he’s not the one causing our issues - it’s the stupidity of our own governments. He rightly is warning them, but whether they will listen is another thing.

What do you mean "Stupidity of our own Governments"

We voted for lower defence spend.

On Trump, of course he is the one causing the issues, the US is in NATO, we all based our defence requirements on the USA being part of our defence, they very suddenly pulled the rug out from us.

I wonder how many who criticise Labour over tax rises, are now also calling for higher military spend?

In a war & in preparing for one, we will also need far greater capacity in the NHS, in roads, in transport and in industrial regeneration... all requiring huge tax increases.

EasternStandard · 12/12/2025 09:08

StandFirm · 12/12/2025 08:34

China will definitely try and win that particular race (who knows, they might even be ahead right now) and China only cares about China. I would have wanted Europe and the US to stand strong together but that's not the reality we're facing. I also don't think it'll make the US stronger but I suspect US tech corps are gunning for the EU because of the attempts to regulate.

Tbf the only thing that has got the EU to put in what was it 600bn was the threat of US saying no more. The electorates just won’t have gone for we need to spend more on defence, because it always takes a war like justification.

I don’t want it, I’m sure most fear sending young people more than cables / other things mentioned here.

Fine as said below an organisation wants more money, we get anxiety inducing headlines to justify it.

The whole thing is unconscionable anyway, that people are being sent from any country rn. I can see why EU voters also don’t want to send their dc.