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Avoidable professional

143 replies

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 17:14

Im mid thirties and more or less single after a LTR through my twenties. Im childfree and happy to stay childfree.

Im happy and content in my singleness - truly- I have a nice life, good friends, amazing siblings, brilliant nieces, à career that has its ups and downs but that is rewarding. I am economically stable.

So here is the question - without justification - one evening many yonks ago - my elder sister made me promise to never date people from a certain profession. She didn't want to elaborate but just said "Don't".
My best friend of many years (Male) recently said as long as you don't choose à "same profession" you'll be happy. He didn't want to elaborate either.

Sister is an academic, best friend is a surgeon, I'm a lawyer.

AIBU to ask you to guess thé profession?

I ask because I am being quite nicely flirted with be a man who is "profession" ... He's a relative stranger - we met in real life but no mutual acquaintances.

OP posts:
TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 17:39

This is making me laugh and relieved I am married. As a full-time nhs consultant, I have just realised I am undateable ;-)

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:39

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:34

Why not ?

Why not "Dr or copper"?
Presumably similar reasons.

Mainly, because the politicians who have a conscious and are decent people, aren't very good at being politicians and the politicians who are good at being politicians aren't very nice people.

coolcahuna · 11/12/2025 17:35

Police

notatinydancer · 11/12/2025 17:34

Doctor or police.

HoppityBun · 11/12/2025 17:34

Prostitution?

How strictly are you defining “profession”?

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:34

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:30

Politician? I'd never date a politician.

Why not ?

PurpleLlama421 · 11/12/2025 17:33

Police officer

patooties · 11/12/2025 17:31

Dr or copper.

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:30

Politician? I'd never date a politician.

TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 17:30

Military?
Finance?
Estate agent?

UnNiddeRides · 11/12/2025 17:27

Chef

50notNifty · 11/12/2025 17:25

Police officer, fire fighter...don't!

swingingbytheseat · 11/12/2025 17:25

Doctor

WellyBellyBoo · 11/12/2025 17:24

Pilot?

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/12/2025 17:22

I don't think it is a related to a specific 'profession' but my advice would be to not get involved in any adult who believes in Father Christmas.

Good luck, and I hope that helps.

StrawberryJangle · 11/12/2025 17:20

I always ended up with musicians... Never again!

StrawberryJangle · 11/12/2025 17:20

I was thinking police or surgeon purely due to hours.

LawrieForShepherdsBoy · 11/12/2025 17:18

Police officer and surgeon are the ones that always come up on threads like this. Police officer cause apparently they’re always shagging. Surgeons cause (understandable) god complex.