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Avoidable professional

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mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 17:14

Im mid thirties and more or less single after a LTR through my twenties. Im childfree and happy to stay childfree.

Im happy and content in my singleness - truly- I have a nice life, good friends, amazing siblings, brilliant nieces, à career that has its ups and downs but that is rewarding. I am economically stable.

So here is the question - without justification - one evening many yonks ago - my elder sister made me promise to never date people from a certain profession. She didn't want to elaborate but just said "Don't".
My best friend of many years (Male) recently said as long as you don't choose à "same profession" you'll be happy. He didn't want to elaborate either.

Sister is an academic, best friend is a surgeon, I'm a lawyer.

AIBU to ask you to guess thé profession?

I ask because I am being quite nicely flirted with be a man who is "profession" ... He's a relative stranger - we met in real life but no mutual acquaintances.

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JLou08 · 11/12/2025 18:38

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:30

Why social worker? Because of the hours? The implication and involvement needed? Thé stress?

I'm a social worker, previously child protection but now adults with disabilities. I wasn't a good partner when I was in child protection, I was too emotionally drained to give anything to my relationship.

Bunnylover1961 · 11/12/2025 18:38

Firefighter?

Donotgogentle · 11/12/2025 18:36

Barrister?

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:34

Shinyandnew1 · 11/12/2025 18:32

What does 'règlemented' mean?

Ahhh hum let me look up a translation… English not my mother tongue!

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SophiaLaBe · 11/12/2025 18:34

Psychiatrist

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:33

I don’t need external input to know to avoid finance bros - I just couldn’t! I hear the word blockchain and my knickers weld to my body and even copious amounts or alcohol won’t detach them.

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georgiaw · 11/12/2025 18:33

Journalist?

Shinyandnew1 · 11/12/2025 18:32

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:24

Im reading - no one has got it yet.

As regards with how strictly - its à règlemented profession.

As for surgeons - I know a few utter arses - but also (best friend included) some of them are the loveliest people I know.
I interact with law enforcement (or I used to - rare now) and I have met some I wouldn’t date and some I would.

What does 'règlemented' mean?

Pavementworrier · 11/12/2025 18:32

Btw most of these jobs are jobs, not professions

Wait, has anyone guessed vicar yet?

ScarletWitchM · 11/12/2025 18:31

Finance Bro or Estate Agent?

Apparentlystillchilled · 11/12/2025 18:30

Engineer- detail orientated and always right (though prob not as not regulated).

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:30

RaininSummer · 11/12/2025 17:43

Social worker or teacher.

Why social worker? Because of the hours? The implication and involvement needed? Thé stress?

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Pavementworrier · 11/12/2025 18:29

My guess is accountant

I hate male accountants

Pavementworrier · 11/12/2025 18:28

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:30

Politician? I'd never date a politician.

The madness can be fun tbf

mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:26

TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 17:39

This is making me laugh and relieved I am married. As a full-time nhs consultant, I have just realised I am undateable ;-)

Don’t worry. If you weren’t married I would date you ;-)! Doctors are not vetoed by my sister and best friend.

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mauditsoitils · 11/12/2025 18:24

Im reading - no one has got it yet.

As regards with how strictly - its à règlemented profession.

As for surgeons - I know a few utter arses - but also (best friend included) some of them are the loveliest people I know.
I interact with law enforcement (or I used to - rare now) and I have met some I wouldn’t date and some I would.

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Dgll · 11/12/2025 18:17

Porn star

Scrowy · 11/12/2025 18:14

Farmer.

I extend that advice to everyone.

Sadsadthings · 11/12/2025 18:11

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 11/12/2025 17:39

Why not "Dr or copper"?
Presumably similar reasons.

Mainly, because the politicians who have a conscious and are decent people, aren't very good at being politicians and the politicians who are good at being politicians aren't very nice people.

I can absolutely attest to this.

MadTurkey · 11/12/2025 17:47

Well, regardless of what the Undateable Job is, I don’t think I’d take the slightest notice of this kind of advice. I’ve gone out with doctors of various stripes, a lawyer, a paparazzo, a farmer, several academics, a chef, a search and rescue helicopter pilot. Theur jobs weren’t the reason I’m not still with any of them.

purpleygrey · 11/12/2025 17:46

police or pilot.

Panicmode1 · 11/12/2025 17:45

Surgeon is usually the answer...but my brother is one and he's lovely 😊 (and single...!)

JLou08 · 11/12/2025 17:45

Police or Army. So much misogyny and abuse. Not all of them, I know 1 man who was in the Navy and is lovely but for that 1 I know 5 that were abusive men.

TotHappy · 11/12/2025 17:44

Squaddie?

RaininSummer · 11/12/2025 17:43

Social worker or teacher.