Newborn circumcision

Also don’t leave your baby alone AT ALL with your husband or in-laws because they WILL override your wishes and get the circumcision done without you there

I think problematically you are asking on a forum where everyone is going to agree with you in a very aggressive manner of how wrong it is and stand your ground and he is horrible for considering it.

I am not religious but respect those who are. For him this is a serious and deeply important thing to have done. It needs to be discussed with sensitivity as it will cause resentment on one side and may lead to deeper problems in the marriage. I'd advise to proceed with caution on gow you manage this situation. I am not saying I agree with your husband. I am just saying for him, his culture, religious belief and the way he was raised will warp his view on the matter and it just needs to be discussed delicately and respectfully.

Good Luck OP.

It’s mutilation. Let’s just be utterly honest and call it what it is! Child abuse in my eyes and definitely mutilation in most people’s. The law says anyone who does this to a girl baby is charged. The law WILL catch up at some point but until then the mothers have to advocate for their babies.

watch some videos on this horrible abuse practise happening and then you will see what they actually do to a baby and how much pain they leave them in and it’s not done in hospital or anything it’s an unhygienic unsanitary thing to do in your home!!

yanbu of course, OP.
I have a serious question for those on the thread saying they are “pro circumscision” or any Muslim posters who could also shed any light. I am not baiting, I am genuinely interested. If it is not specified as a religious requirement then what is the actual thinking behind it?

YANBU. It’s an abhorrent practice that should die out.

I think this - explain how it is
not necessary and you dont want it

I'm not any religion, and I would respectfully ask the same question. What on earth is there to be pro about?

Tell them your son’s penis is none of their concern.

Your baby doesn't need this procedure for medical purposes, therefore it's unnecessary. Putting a baby through such a procedure simply due to religious beliefs, isn't a good enough reason.

i don’t think you read the verse. What you’ve said isn’t connected to what I said.

Your husband married a Christian woman, and therefore he probably should have considered that you would be prone to backing out of the agreement to mutilate your baby.

You are absolutely in the right. Stick to your guns.

I mean you can literally google and find multiple cases of babies dying following circumcision but you do you!

I hate circumcision, I think it’s barbaric.

however, you both have an equal say as his parents.

if it went to court they would side with you on the side of non-intervention.

Circumcision is not compulsory in Islam. It’s recommended but not a must.

DH and I decided not to circumcise our boys because I couldn’t bear the thought of putting them through the procedure. Every now and then our families will mention it but they know where we stand and have never challenged us when we say no.

And this nonsense about an Arabic name - they are being silly.

Easier said than done but just ignore them.

Circumcision is horrific. And totally unecessary in modern times, even if you hold to an ancient reason of hygiene.

this post nails it, married a Muslim his family never pressured us, and also no one renamed my child. Stand up to them harder that’s dodgy

Also, I thought it was illegal to deliberately inflict injury on another person. Especially if that person can't consent to or understand what is being done to them.

It's all very strange. How are there still surgeons who agree to carry out this practice?

It’s totally ridiculous and unfair.
Tell him to tell his family it’s been done and also to stop disrespecting you and the name you’ve chosen.

I find it bizarre how we are obsessed with keeping children safe from abuse. But quite a lot of people agree with literally cutting off parts of their children's genitals.

We have a name for this practice don't we . . .

You are absolutely not being unreasonable.

The only body anyone should have bits chopped off of (excluding medical need) is their own.

My husband was ritually circumcised at 14 as was the norm in his culture at the time. His idea of compromise was to have any sons we had circumcised at birth. I told him you even try it and I'll divorce you. He said they won't be accepted as men in his tribe and I said I don't care if they are or not.

We eventually agreed that it would be their choice as adults.

They are in their 20s now and their choice remains leave my penis alone. Funnily enough not one of their relatives has asked them to drop their underpants for inspection.

There is no good reason to chop skin off a baby when it is not a medical need. It's barbaric and the sooner people stop thinking its an acceptable thing to do to an infant the better.

Pouring some water on a baby's head isn't quite the same as removing their foreskin, is it?

I don't care that I was christened, it's meaningless to me and I can just forget about it as a non-religious adult. I would care if I'd had part of my body removed though because I couldn't just grow it back when I moved away from religion.

YANBU. There’s no way I’d agree to this unnecessary medical procedure to my baby. Be firm, consistent and polite. It cannot be done without your consent. Hugs

Circumcision on children without medical necessity is abhorrent and I don’t care what religion it offends but if you mutilate your children because said religion tells you to then you should be ashamed. So, yes, revisit it at a later date, like when your son is an adult and can make his own mind up about his own penis.

CofE folk also perform a ceremony on children without their consent ie baptism/Christening. Admittedly only a few tears, all done and no body parts removed! - but it’s still without their consent. Adult/believers baptism is a conscious decision, a choice.

Just because you chose a muslim doesn’t mean you have to submit to his rule. How absurd.

He knew what he was choosing when he moved to the West and married you. Why should You change for him? You are not the second parent, and you are not Less Than.

You are also allowed to change your mind about things! having babies changes all of us. You will need space to evolve.