One dog too many…AIBU!?

I really think we should pass some kind of test before we are allowed to keep pets. Not neutering your dogs, allowing your poor bitch to go through the trauma of pregnancy without you having any knowledge of how to breed properly, cashing in on this trauma and then dumping a puppy because she's being a puppy. You're all kind of levels of irresponsible. I hope you are appropriately ashamed of yourself.

Its a bit shit to decide you want to keep a cute, fluffy pup but then give it away when it is suddenly not a cute, fluffy puppy, as they don't stay like that, but now causing destruction and decide, instead of managing the difficult behaviour, you can't actually be bothered with the puppy anymore

It’s hard to be gentle with someone who has a male and female unneutered dog and thinks they needed to catch them at it to stop puppies. Irresponsible and totally on you. What do you want people to say?!

God. Why do posters bother lecturing about what has already happened? Lame and pointless.

we have three dogs (having been told dog 1 was seriously ill and would imminently die, we got dog 3 as we feared dog2 would be bereft on her own.dog 1 thankfully did not die, the vet having seriously misdiagnosed!). My new motto for life will be ‘never have more dogs than you have hands’. Dog 3 has been a very tough puppy to train and drove me to distraction. However to give some light at the end of the tunnel, we have recently had him neutered and he is like a different dog! The relief is immense! So that might work for you too?

I think it would be sensible seeing as you already have a home in mind for her. Your poor other dogs must be going mad.

Ignore the posters having a go at you - what's done is done. Imagine if you were talking about a baby the same way. Plenty of women have unplanned pregnancies - it happens.

Im ignoring all the other stuff and giving advice re the puppy. Puppies are a FLIPPING NIGHTMARE. My old girl died in April, and I had a 7 year old, who TBH seemed old when she was born. We now have a 6 month old and the last 3 weeks have been the worst because he is in teen mode. I regularly think I want to send him back, but then he does something adorable (he completely loves me) and I soldier on. Your DH needs to step up the most as it was his idea to keep. Mine only gets tired out when i take him to puppy socialisation. So while its a bit pricey, doing that helps alot. Ultimately if you are going to re home the sooner the better. But all puppies are twats.

I think the question is where your thoughts really lie. I think people know deep down what they’re going to do. The puppy stage is absolute hell on earth and I regularly thought about how much easier life would be without him but simultaneously I more often thought ‘my god I can’t imagine anyone else having him and he’s a member of the family’. Christmas is the worst time of the year to do it but at the same time no dog should live where they’re unwanted. I think they’re better at a shelter where they have a chance of finding love

eta just saw you said you’d have a family member to take the puppy. Definitely do that

So you wanted her when she was a lovely, sweet, cute puppy but now she is a difficult teenage dog you want to palm her off on someone else?

No amount of training, walking, playing, puppy classes, crate time, time out etc seems to be doing anything. She ignores her name. She ignores commands that she has previously learnt and done excellent with.

She's 6 months old FFS! One of ours was a nightmare until he was about 18 months old.

I find this difficult to believe, having lived with two bitches and an entire dog in the house at the same time. You can't possibly not know your bitch is in season when you have a dog in the house. He won't have just suddenly, silently mounted her during the receptive stage, with absolutely no signs of interest before that point. They cry and whine and try to sniff or lick and the bitch would have been fed up with him long before she was ready for mating.

Belly bands and nappies wouldn't have prevented a pregnancy. You should have spay aborted. This wasn't an accidental litter.

Go for it OP. Especially if a family member will take the puppy. Just call them. Tell your DP you can't manage three and the decision is made. Good luck.

Puppy’s at 6 months old are always hard work, don’t rehome a dog you haven’t trained yourself, chances are the next person will ditch the dog too. You have been really irresponsible here, do the work to fix it.

Has to be a wind up.

Why is mum not spayed? Accident waiting to happen.

I think you should send her to your family member. That’s not quite what your partner wants but he would still get to see the dog.

Off on a tangent….

I don’t know much about dogs so this might be stupid. I was wondering if puppies who are living with their parents are more difficult to train because their parents are teaching them things too. Would they ignore the humans?

Leaving aside the origins of this issue op, I would say that YANBU to want to re-home given your dp’s working hours and your other commitments.

However, Christmas is not a good time to do this. Also, every dog goes through a teen phase where they are a bit difficult, and test the training, and it is usually around 6 months to 2 years depending on the breed and the individual dog.

I think you need to be really honest with yourself and assess whether the puppy’s behaviour now is because enough training has not been invested because of other commitments, or whether this is down to adolescence?

If it’s the former then definitely re-home before it gets worse and the pup is young enough to benefit from new boundaries. Six months is a bit too late and rehoming would have been far better earlier but never mind!

If it’s the latter, then I would advise hanging in there a while, going for some training, involving your dp more at weekends and when he can during the week, and see if there is any significant improvement. If not, only then, after four months of really trying, would I consider rehoming.

If you go for option 2, you have to get your dp involved during the Christmas holidays so he can see the issues at first hand.

But there was always the chance you'd miss the warning signs of her heat, how old are the dogs?

I call absolute BS on missing your female dog being in season. I don’t know one person with a bitch who has missed it, especially with an un-neutered male dog in the house!!!

Sounds like you've hit the teenager stage with your puppy. I have 1 dog, now 2. She wrecked my house at this age. Still im her crate when I go out. If you need to rehome do it. Tell your partner to step up if he refuses. Ut if keeping, dog will get better
. Good luck

Why on earth isn't your bitch spayed? I'm sorry but you've been completely irresponsible.