To think a late invite isn’t a proper invite and to decline on that basis?

Posts like this are so annoying. Why don't you just actually explain the situation if you want people to comment instead of a one word post and even more annoying updates.
Go or don't go, it's up to you.

Eh, perhaps they weren’t sure if they would absolutely want company for breakfast? And now they do. Sometimes plans change last minute, why does that have to be such an offence to you?

I would absolutely hate if my friends were like this. With us we can always cancel, rain check, or “hey, last minute but I actually now have a spare ticket” without all throwing tantrums at each other for not being considered even earlier.

You’ve now been considered, you’ve been invited. You’re being a drama queen.

If it’s less than 24 hours they probably have to pay for the empty place. I would reply, saying in so many words ‘Sorry but I can’t help you out this time.’

It’s cutting off nose to spite face if you actually will
enjoy going.

If you don’t want to go, dont go.

Would you have wanted to go if they'd invited you earlier?

If yes, and you're free, and you're purely saying no because you're offended that you weren't first choice then you're cutting your nose off to spite your face.

For all you know it was someone else who invited them and now can't make it so told them to use the reservation.

Or it was a family meet up that's been cancelled.

Or any number of other things that are nothing to do with your place in the pecking order.

You clearly have declined and feel rubbish about the late invite so YANBU, your feelings are valid.

Times I have accepted a late invite:

1. Friend texts and says hi I’m a bit bored today do you fancy going to the pictures? I was free and fancied it so I went.
2. Friend’s very small wedding, it was family only so no invite, last minute a family member pulled out, I suppose I was “on the reserve list” and got invited. I understood about their limited budget and went along.
3. i asked friend if she wanted to meet up over half term, she replied that she was sorry but she was busy then 24 hours later text back saying actually how about tomorrow afternoon…I accepted as it sounded like she had thought about it and moved things around to make space for me.

times I have not accepted

1. happened to be in the middle of a conversation with a “friend group” realised that they had all made a plan for a meal out the next day…embarrassed they said “ Rainbow are you coming too?”
2. Not invited to the wedding but invited to the hen do, spent time and effort at the hen do making arrangements, giving lifts etc. no problem, assumed the wedding was small-budget etc. Discovered at the hen do that it was a large, church hall, buffet type party with no real restriction on numbers. When the bride realised that I knew this she tried to style it out by saying “oh yes of course you’re welcome to come”

one last one, I was invited somewhere as a new mum by accident. She sent the text to me instead of somebody else by accident. I replied “ha ha this one’s not for me Sheila” and she then said (again in embarrassment) oh but you should come it would be great to see you!!
I was bored on Mat leave so I went along, I had a blast and we’re still friends almost 15 years later.

Probably but don’t base your decision on that - do what’s best for you.

Are you upset that you’re not as high up on their list as they would be on your list? Or is your pride just wounded?

Do you think someone has cancelled on them? If you don't want to go that's fair.

I don't understand the issue really?

They were meant to be going out for food with someone. For whatever reason, those plans fell through and they thought "Ooh, I know, I'll invite @whinch !"

Surely that shows that they like you and want to spend time with you? I don't understand why you'd take offence to that personally.

It depends what it is, who it's from, why you're looking for the insult, why the invitation was delayed.

If it's something I'd enjoy with people I like, I'd go. If not I wouldn't. Same as any invitation.

Are people offended by absolutely everything? of course YANBU not be available at short notice. It doesn't mean the people invited first were not invited by obligation and no one actually wanted to see them 😂

It's like the guest list on a wedding, you must invite MIL and she's obviously first when you count people, but no one wants her there 😂😂

You do you.

It is a proper invitation, but of course you can decline it. It may be verging on the childish to do so, depending on the circumstances, but there is no law against that.

Life too short to be offended by stuff like this. Actually it’s good as you can decline without guilt if you don’t fancy it and go along and have fun if you do.

I think if it upsets you that you are a late addition then there is no earthly reason to feel you need to go.

But a breakfast sounds as though it is a reasonably small number invited? If you felt like joining, I wouldn't decline simply out of pique.

But no, there is no reason you have to accept at short notice, so maybe don't if you are upset.

What's the question?

depends if you want to go or not?

Being miffed because you are not the centre of the world is a bit weird.

Would you prefer not to be invited at all?

If it’s short notice then just don’t go? It’s an invitation, not a summons, to coin a MN classic.

Don’t sweat the small stuff, it’s not worth it.

Why are you so upset?

I don’t over think it. I’m grateful for any - I either accept or decline but I never think badly of someone for inviting me late … or even if I’m second best!

You're clearly upset that you got a late invite. Decline it and forget about it.

I wouldn't apply a blanket rule tbh. Unless you are wealthy enough to have no budget, or have a very small familial and social circle, there are going to be times when you can't afford to invite everyone in the first round.

Unless I thought I was being invited to make up numbers, rather than because I was wanted, I wouldn't decline just because it was close to the event.