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Boss being intimate in his office

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 11:54

A colleague recently told me that my boss and his wife are actually not having lunch in his office everyday but getting it on. I’m fairly new to the medium sized business.

I don’t know why but I feel that this is highly inappropriate. I rarely go in the office. And neither do other colleagues it’s where boss does his paperwork mostly as the owner. I just think it’s highly unprofessional. AIBU? It’s a place of work. I told dh and he didn’t see why I was bothered

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Powerto · 11/12/2025 12:28

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/12/2025 11:55

Workplaces aren’t sexy.

I expect they really are just eating lunch.

🤣🤣

or just you personally not any at work?

I assure you I have known numerous people have sex at work. There was a disabled toikey in my old workplace that had no camera outside so I know loads of people that used that.

I was more classy and we went out on our lunch break.

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:28

MartinAynuss · 11/12/2025 12:27

As long as he wipes the spunk off the walls and desk, I don't think I'd be too bothered

that is vile.

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MartinAynuss · 11/12/2025 12:27

As long as he wipes the spunk off the walls and desk, I don't think I'd be too bothered

Powerto · 11/12/2025 12:26

Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:07

I don’t know. The workplace is supposed to be a professional environment. It just feels inappropriate to me

🤣🤣 who cares? Unless I had to hear it or see it through a glass wall/panel I really couldn’t give a shit.

Dollymylove · 11/12/2025 12:26

Assuming his office door is locked and his blinds are drawn, you admitted you have never heard any rumpy pumpy sounds, the wife doesnt look flushed when she leaves his office, I would say someone his having you on 🤣🤣🤣

surreygirly · 11/12/2025 12:25

Sound wonderful I wish I had the time

BauhausOfEliott · 11/12/2025 12:25

Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:21

No one hears or sees anything. But like I said we come to work to work. Not be involved in each others sex lives

How are you 'involved in each other's sex lives'? The boss isn't inviting you in for a threesome. He isn't even the one who's telling people about it.

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:25

BauhausOfEliott · 11/12/2025 12:23

How does 'everyone know it'? Are they all standing around to watch?

Sounds more like one of those unfounded rumours that becomes an office joke to me. My guess is that either the wife's cousin is making shit up, or the wife confessed that it had happened once or twice and the cousin just loves gossip and drama and is exaggerating.

Either way, if the guy owns the company he's perfectly entitled to use his office in any way he wishes. It doesn't affect you what he is/isn't doing in his office at lunchtime.

Nobody would even know it ever happened if the cousin wasn't an attention-seeking blabbermouth, so in fact I'd say it was the cousin who is responsible for making you feel uncomfortable, not the shagger.

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If it were one of his staff it would be seen as massively inappropriate and possibly a sacking offence. But just cause he’s the owner it’s acceptable? If I had my own business I wouldn’t have double standards. We should all maintain professionalism.

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BauhausOfEliott · 11/12/2025 12:23

Ksassi · 11/12/2025 11:57

The wife’s cousin (works here) is the one who told me. Everyone knows it and just ignores it. Act like it’s perfectly normal.

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How does 'everyone know it'? Are they all standing around to watch?

Sounds more like one of those unfounded rumours that becomes an office joke to me. My guess is that either the wife's cousin is making shit up, or the wife confessed that it had happened once or twice and the cousin just loves gossip and drama and is exaggerating.

Either way, if the guy owns the company he's perfectly entitled to use his office in any way he wishes. It doesn't affect you what he is/isn't doing in his office at lunchtime.

Nobody would even know it ever happened if the cousin wasn't an attention-seeking blabbermouth, so in fact I'd say it was the cousin who is responsible for making you feel uncomfortable, not the shagger.

Spartak · 11/12/2025 12:23

Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:21

No one hears or sees anything. But like I said we come to work to work. Not be involved in each others sex lives

Well perhaps stop involving yourself by gossiping on the Internet with randomers then!

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:22

BobbyBrewstersMagicTorch · 11/12/2025 12:21

YABU to use the phrase "being intimate".

Well I didn’t want to be accused of being a sex troll

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BobbyBrewstersMagicTorch · 11/12/2025 12:21

YABU to use the phrase "being intimate".

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:21

No one hears or sees anything. But like I said we come to work to work. Not be involved in each others sex lives

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Jollyjoy · 11/12/2025 12:19

Wtf I can’t believe these answers! If anyone has to hear them having sex or be exposed to it in any way - totally grim. If it’s not true that’s another matter.

Spartak · 11/12/2025 12:17

I most work from home, as do lots of other people. Just so we're all fully informed of the acceptable workplace etiquette, is it just sex that is inappropriate, or is a blowie OK as long as it's in another room? 🤔

Randomlygeneratedname · 11/12/2025 12:17

This just sounds like a total wind up to me honestly, or a rumour which goes all round the houses. I don't think the fact it is her cousin makes any difference, she is probably just a gossip.

Overtheatlantic · 11/12/2025 12:17

I think it’s gross and not at all “good for them”. It’s obviously their kink, to get off in the office unbeknownst to the people working. They have no right to include others in that scenario.

schoolfriend · 11/12/2025 12:13

I wouldn’t get wound up about this, good for them I guess 🤷‍♀️

MyAmusedPearlSquid · 11/12/2025 12:12

Why are you getting this bother you move on and forget about it

Justlostmybagel · 11/12/2025 12:09

Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:07

I don’t know. The workplace is supposed to be a professional environment. It just feels inappropriate to me

You wouldn't even have known, if you hadn't been told. They're not shagging in front of you so keep your nose out.

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Ksassi · 11/12/2025 12:07

I don’t know. The workplace is supposed to be a professional environment. It just feels inappropriate to me

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Justlostmybagel · 11/12/2025 12:04

Good for them.

Bikergran · 11/12/2025 12:04

His office, his company, his wife. None of your business what he does in his lunch hour at work!

CrossChecking · 11/12/2025 12:03

If they are having sex in his office then they are clearly being discreet about it given you had no idea prior to your colleague telling you.

What choices do you really have here? Excuse me boss but rumour has it you are shagging your wife in your office and I don't like it? Just stop imagining them having sex and go back to imagining them having sandwiches and it'll be fine.

InLoveWithAI · 11/12/2025 12:01

Can't say I'd be bothered more than an eye roll.

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