Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

Bless him 😭 poor postie under the cosh to get Xmas out and his customer getting offended! He’s only making small talk. Stick a tenner in a Xmas card as his tip in repentance

I think you've lost your sense of humour with your weight loss 😁 it's a joke just incase you need it explaining to you.

I wouldn’t like this at all. ‘Under control’? It smacks of misogyny and if you can’t see that, and think it’s all just a bit of banter, then you need to start looking a bit closer and engaging your critical thinking skills. He might not give a shit what’s in your parcels, but he’s willing to pass comment on the little woman’s spending habits with the man of the house? Nah, fuck that.

We have a local, regular Evri courier and she’s fantastic. She’s friendly, she’s chatty, she likes having a laugh with her customers and, weirdly enough, she’s managed to be all of those things without ever once commenting on what I’ve spent, what my DH has spent or how many parcels either of us have delivered.

Gosh I bet you’re fun at parties 🫠

Well obviously you need to make a formal complaint to his employer so you can potentially get him sacked for misconduct on top of Christmas, after all it’s terrible that someone who delivers parcels for living should notice a sudden change of pattern and then harmlessly comment on it.

Honestly just lighten up. It’s hardly a big deal in the greater scheme of things.

Whilst I would be inclined to agree with your sentiment, if it’s the husband answering the door then that’s who the postman will talk to - the person in front of them. If the comments were about op spending his money then absolutely it would be misogynistic but it seems he’s just commenting on the amount of parcels, neither are there any “women and their shopping” type comments.

I get loads of parcels and it's often the same guy since he seems to work for every company, ive made occasional self depreciating remarks and he's never once passed comment. Its his job, if he had a cafe and I was going in for coffee 3 times a day he'd love me!

It is really unprofessional of your postie and if you complained I'm sure he'd get into trouble. I wouldn't go that far but
I would expect DH to have shut him up by now.

I’m a private person and would find this intrusive. Also it’s not really witty is it, if it was that would be different but it’s just rather dull and slightly unprofessional

Sweet lord he only having the crack with ya 😝my postman best in the world and goes above and beyond his job
I buy alot online too and the rare time my husband gets a parcel he makes a huge deal about it 😂not for you this time wexone this is for Mr Wexone

I had the same when I revamped my wardrobe a couple of years ago, spent a fortune! Postie remarked to DP that my better half must be very generous with his money to 'allow' me to order so much. My bloody money and no permission needed!

I’m sorry but I don’t agree with the majority of the comments here.
I would absolutely fine and ‘having a laugh’ if the postman was saying these comments to my face, but not to my husband. It’s misogynistic. I love the MN double standards.

Ours is hilarious. He goes through all the post - this one’s for Mr itbe, looks important, oh this one’s for Miss itbe ooh it’s from xx shop wonder what she purchased. This one’s for you! It’s HMRC oh dear let’s hope it’s a rebate etc etc…!

Onwards the push to a humourless, sterile world.

OP- I used to order so many parcels that I knew the home address of my Evri delivery driver and would pop in to pick them up at times as coincidentally he lived round the corner from me.

The best thing is to laugh along with it. eg "You think this is a lot?- you should see the delivery truck coming later!" or "and these are all for me, I havent even started on Christmas yet!" with a wink etc

If it's just banter he will laugh along with you and if he's being deliberately cheeky it shows that his comments havent bothered you int he slightest. Either way it's a win/win.

People cant insult you if you agree with them and make it into a joke

Grow up and have a laugh.
My mail man said similar to me but I was buying book.
He once said you must have a whole library going on indoors.
Nothing for you for a week now I'm back.
Its breaking my arms carrying all these for you.
Any good reads so far.
etc etc.
Its just small talk banter.

She should get her ducks in a row, pronto.

I’m with you OP, he shouldn’t be commenting on your post and I believe this is against their code of conduct and training he’ll have received. Your DH should be shutting down this ‘banter’

I wouldn’t care less. One of our postmen said to me “you been slagging me off?” I said “what you mean?” He said the householders were asked to do a survey and my door number moaned about him. I said “nope”. Nutter. Bollocks to him.

i love your username :D

Our local Evri delivery guy used to do this to me when I'd been ordering a lot of stuff. It was just a laugh, he was being friendly and good natured.

We have a different delivery guy now and I quite miss the old one.

It's just a joke! He doesn't really care about the parcels, just making small talk. His job is posting in all weather's, please don't complain. He's just trying to lighten his day by socialising while he can, as he works alone. Mine told me last week that I looked cosy drinking my tea in the kitchen! He must have looked in on his way to the door! I just laughed because he was making small talk. It was freezing, he looked so cold, and just wanted a chat.

I think he’s being a bit misogynistic speaking about you to your husband like this. I would probably mention that without people like you, he wouldn’t have a job.

*His job
he’s = he is

Yes the postman shouldn’t be commenting but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t really matter.

I doubt he really gives a shit. We have the same delivered driver a lot, he is always smiling, adding some light comments about my spends habits, I'll give him a tip on the last Christmas delivery.