Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

Someone made an honest mistake and you reported them? I understand you were bereaved, but how was the courier to know that? People are just trying to make a little human conversation and they're treated like criminals.

He's just making a bit of light-hearted conversation, and he doesn't seem to be slandering you or saying anything that isn't true.

You’ve already lightened up - WELL DONE! Now you need to LIGHTEN UP !

When Ebay was great back in the day, I kept buying things, so much so that my postman rang the bell and on hearing me coming to the door to answer it, said 'it's only me' 😂That's when I thought I had better throttle back on the spending! Your postie's joking wouldn't bother me TBH.

I guarantee he would not be making jokes to a man about his purchases

^ This....

... is just ridiculous

Since I've witnessed this I'm guessing your guarantee is not worth anything

Are you saying men can't have internalised misogyny?

Sounds a bit sexist

/joke

Your parties must be quite the riot of the level of conversation is 'she must have bought the whole shop by now'. A wild gathering of the vacuous and witless.

OP I had some flowers delivered once by a courier who said 'Ooh someone's got an admirer' to which my reply was 'no, my father died a few days ago'. I posted on hear and was told to lighten up, he's just being friendly etc etc.
Seems as long as it's called 'bants' people can say whatever the fuck they like, and anyone who prefers not to discuss the contents of their delivery with a complete stranger is a weirdo.

Perhaps, but Postmen/women are not necessarily groomed in social niceties and can make crap jokes that land wrong - just like the rest of us. And I do think that was what this was, a bad joke. Yes, probably under-pinned by a bit of sexism but it’s still nothing I’d personally get a bit rankled by at the time and then forget about 5mins later.

lol, very good!

He sounds fun!

Oh dear - so now a bit of fun banter is under scrutiny. What a boring po-faced country we've become. Lighten up!

But that’s a lovely thing from what sounds like a very nice and friendly postman! It’s not the same thing at all!

It's funny until your partner weaponises it.

He’s just being friendly why do some people have to take things so literally these days?🙄

He sounds like an absolute dick, and I'm surprised at the response you are getting on here.

It is none of his business what you are ordering. I guarantee he would not be making jokes to a man about his purchases.

Tell him you’re spite-buying purely to give him a heavy workload and a bad back. Only kidding. Just shrug and say, Not this again. It doesn’t really matter what I buy, does it?

Im on first name terms now with a local delivery driver due to the number of times he has delivered to our house. He always makes a comment.. no biggie.. we laugh, i say thanks, he thanks me for keeping him in a job and we part ways.

As i see it, it pays to keep these people on side

He’s got a really tough job and he’s having a joke. Don’t take it so seriously. I have some very funny convos with our amazing postman about my Vinted habit. Life is too short to be annoyed by this.

Bit of a leap, don't you think?

It's the fact that he said it to OP's husband that jumps out at me, as though the man is automatically in control of the finances. If he'd said it to OP directly, still mildly cheeky but I'd grit my teeth and laugh along.

You do wonder how some people actually get through life being so uptight without having something to be offended by. I notice OP doesn’t actually say what her husband thinks of it. Which suggests he probably isn’t the slightest bit offended either and is probably more irritated at having to keep answering the door for her parcels every day. Why is he having to keep doing it anyway? Isn’t that a bit sexist? Or just lazy?

These kinds of threads have got to be the pre Christmas MN madness. My postman talks to me, my neighbours write too many names in cards...

I definitely wouldn’t say it’s sexist or misogynistic.
It would almost be offensive to say it was because then that’s implying he is correct and that OP is being a shopaholic and reinforcing the stereotype.

The parcels all have a woman’s name on and he sees DH to make conversation with.

If I was going in the same shop every day with the same shop keeper and they didn’t see me for a couple of days, then it wouldn’t be offensive for them to joke about not seeing me.

I would be more surprised at the comment if anything because it’s Xmas and surely there are loads of parcels being delivered.

LOL you’d hate my postman then. Yesterday he knocked on the door and asked if I had a few spare dog biscuits as he was wearing a new coat and forgot to put some in his pocket - it his supply that he carries to befriend dogs on his round. I gave him an entire new packet. Now wondering whether I should have put a complaint in to the RM. CF! [Joking]

Good god!!! Some people will moan about anything. Try and find so joy/fun/anything in your life to cheer you up!