Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

I would find this funny and tell him he’d better hope I don’t stop buying stuff or he’ll be out of a job. He’s only trying to have a laugh with you. My postman is a miserable git, I would love a postie like yours I can actually have a chat to.

I told our postie the reason I order so many parcels is so I can get my actual mail as they no longer prioritise letters. Have a joke with him, life’s too short he’s just thinking he’s being funny not judging your shopping.

I’m disabled and get almost everything in my life delivered. I also need specialty medical supplies and household items that are not available in brick and mortar stores. I got 6 parcels yesterday. This wasn’t even that unusual of a day.

im not that much of an outlier in my neighborhood. Online shopping is common. You can watch the delivery trucks literally stop at almost every house on the street some days.

your mail carrier has it easy if you have just been buying more clothing lately.

No where did OP say the postman said anything about her DH having her under control, she said he said ‘things were under control’. He was obviously joking about the amount of parcels, when we do a lot of something sometimes people have a problem, this case maybe a shopaholic and because there’d been no parcels he thought things were under control, could be that OP now has her shopping addiction under control, he didn’t mention anything about her DH having her under control…… so yeh if you take it for what it is it’s a joke… not the funniest but still a joke

Well, looking at the results, 77% think you're being unreasonable and I'm inclined to agree.

He's being cheeky but he's not being a cheeky fucker. There's a difference.

Ah, it was a joke and some of us just didn’t understand it. Great. Perhaps you could explain it? Which bit of it are we supposed to find funny? Was it the bit where he implied he’d thought that the OP’s husband had managed to get her ‘under control’? Was that the funny bit?

This. ^ This thread is batshit. So many posters telling the OP to 'get a grip,' to 'lighten up,' and 'unclench,' and claiming she's miserable, and she has no sense of humour, and there have been some nasty remarks too.

I refuse to believe anyone who says they would not get annoyed by this. It WOULD get annoying, every fucking time he comes to the door he makes the same inane, dull, unfunny comment. 🙄

As has been said, the odd comment now and again, is fine, but when someone keeps repeating the same shit over and over again, thinking they're hilarious, it gets tedious and annoying. In my experience, people who continually come out with the same comments about a particular thing over and over again, and keep repeating the same unfunny shit, often don't have a high I.Q.

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Saying things are under control was clearly a joke

Now THAT is an overreaction. Anyone who loses weight without the weight loss jabs SHOULD be proud of themselves.

Sounds like you're projecting.

@Sam9769 Bloody well done on your weight loss. I have lost weight this year too, not as much as you - about a stone and a half - but I have also done it WITHOUT THE WEIGHT LOSS JABS. I am proud of myself too. And why shouldn't someone be proud of losing weight without using the jabs? It's much harder to lose weight without them. As I said @HeadyLamarr it sounds like you are projecting.

@Sam9769 I have a great sense of humour but wouldn’t be amused by your postman either. He should be getting on with his job and keeping his personal comments to himself

Everything is electronically tracked, your postie can’t just take your parcels or make them “lost”

Banter innit?

He's trying to be funny, as in humourous! He's not trying to offend you or your husband! When I moved back to my parents after a relationship break-up, I opened the front door to our postman who was only a few years older than me (so probably very early 30's), and he said 'Morning sexy, you look gorgeous'!!! I was so shocked, I stood there doing goldfish impressions!! 🤷

He should be grateful that RM is busy

He needs to shut up and mind his own business. His comments are rude.

Oh bore off he is having a laugh. My postman just grunts at me.

What exactly is the OP supposed to be laughing at? I don't think it's highly offensive (although there is a tinge of misogyny in the postman's comments), but they're really not remotely funny.

Do NOT annoy your postman or make him unhappy - Apparently £millions of parcels go missing. I myself did not get over £300 worth of stuff - never arrived.

Chill - I’ve lost 7 stone since my DH died a couple of years ago. I’m having to buy clothes a lot as my weights gone down.

It’s a standing joke between my regular courier and me. 😉

That's some pretty shit 'banter'.

Why do people keep writing "humor"?

I think this might have been mildly amusing the first time, but would get old pretty fast.

What I mean by this is I’m shocked by large numbers of seemingly intelligent women who don’t see any issues with the OP’s postman making comments like this to her husband and who are telling her to calm down, or suggesting that she gets a sense of humour because ‘it’s only a bit of banter’. It’s shocking to me that these women are happy for us to regress backwards, like they think sexism isn’t a thing anymore.

Just ignore. Some 'customers' like the cheeky chappie approach from a postie, others don't. If neither you or husband engage with him, just smile and say, "Thank you", he'll pipe down.

The banter police have arrived. You must be fun. Try laughing.

My dp is a postie.... He's always chatting to his customers, they absolutely love him.

It sounds like a bit of banter, but I can also why it's getting on your nerves. And I doubt he'd say that to man. But when you do the same round day in and day out you get to know your customers, who has a lot of parcels (me!), where they like them left, and who's up for a bit of banter. Your husband has obviously responded the first time, and now it's become a thing the postie has picked up on. Just get your husband to ignore him or say something.

Alternatively, RM is busier than ever. This is my dp's 3rd Christmas as a postie, and it's the busiest ever. So your postie may be hoping that you've finished clothes shopping!!