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Is our postman a cheeky fucker?

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Sam9769 · 11/12/2025 11:02

I have just lost 3 stone in weight and decided to buy a new second hand wardrobe through Ebay. I will admit that I have been purchasing a lot of clothes etc.
Our postman keeps commenting to my husband about the parcels arriving on a daily basis. On one occasion he said to my husband "She must have bought the whole shop by now! The other day he said "There were no parcels for a few days, so I thought that things were under control!"
This is not even a postman we have known for many years, he's only been our postman for about 18 months.

I feel annoyed that he thinks that he has any right to comment on my parcels.
He's job is to deliver the mail and keep his opinions to himself.
Is he a cheeky fucker or AIBU?

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AyrshireTryer · 23/12/2025 10:06

Why are you giving the postie power over you?

Branleuse · 19/12/2025 16:39

I wouldn't like this at all. He's patronising you. I don't want people making bantery jokes to others that I am some sort of shopaholic or spend thrift. It might be jokey but I don't care. Two blokes rolling their eyes about you doing Xmas shopping? How much Xmas preparation has your husband done?

DoubleHardBastard · 19/12/2025 16:32

Americano75 · 18/12/2025 11:11

And can I remind you that you've used the word 'fucker' in your post title? Glass houses and all that, yeah?

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Yeah but fuck is fine. Cunt is the work of the devil.

Apparently.

Stephy1886 · 19/12/2025 12:46

I he say something directly to you just say

"Can you just deliver my mail please"

Don't think too much into it
Some folk.domt have a life.

It like the neighbours who keep track of how many just eats number 15 get

hulahooper2 · 19/12/2025 12:45

honestly you can’t have much going on in life if that’s what you complain about , he’s just bantering

FestiveFruitloop · 19/12/2025 12:43

Mumto2at · 19/12/2025 08:26

Get some humour in you, hes trying to make his job a bit fun with human interaction other than hi, nice day !
i always have banter with my Evri man!

Yes, but does he comment on your shopping habits?

Feels batshit to me that for some this falls into the category of banter. There's a line with banter, and commenting on someone's shopping habits to their partner (as if to say 'Man, you need to get your woman under control') is too personal to be banter, imo anyway.

Mumto2at · 19/12/2025 08:26

Get some humour in you, hes trying to make his job a bit fun with human interaction other than hi, nice day !
i always have banter with my Evri man!

Americano75 · 18/12/2025 11:11

Sam9769 · 18/12/2025 01:25

You sound like a very crude person!

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And can I remind you that you've used the word 'fucker' in your post title? Glass houses and all that, yeah?

Americano75 · 18/12/2025 07:35

Yamahahaha · 18/12/2025 01:50

You needn't be crude, but, "Surely you've made enough comments about my mail by now!" would be a very suitable riposte imo.

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I mean, this is my meaning. I just made the mistake of trying to be funny.

Americano75 · 18/12/2025 07:32

Sam9769 · 18/12/2025 01:25

You sound like a very crude person!

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It was meant to be a light hearted suggestion, made because I was actually on your side.

bleakmidwintering · 18/12/2025 03:43

Try chatting and having a laugh. We’ve got to know our postman through doing that and he has diverted letters to us that had the wrong address on, been thoughtful with parcel deliveries etc. it can pay off just being nice.

Yamahahaha · 18/12/2025 01:50

Sam9769 · 18/12/2025 01:25

You sound like a very crude person!

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You needn't be crude, but, "Surely you've made enough comments about my mail by now!" would be a very suitable riposte imo.

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Sam9769 · 18/12/2025 01:25

Americano75 · 17/12/2025 15:29

'Surely you've made enough cunty comments by now?'

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You sound like a very crude person!

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Americano75 · 17/12/2025 15:29

Sam9769 · 17/12/2025 13:34

Postman's been at it again. One parcel containing a pair of jeggings required another comment from the postman to DH namely "Surely, she's bought enough stuff for Christmas by now!" On and on they go, judgemental, intrusive comments!
Even DH who really doesn't care what people think or say thinks it's time for him to button it and just deliver the parcels!

'Surely you've made enough cunty comments by now?'

FestiveFruitloop · 17/12/2025 13:37

Sam9769 · 17/12/2025 13:34

Postman's been at it again. One parcel containing a pair of jeggings required another comment from the postman to DH namely "Surely, she's bought enough stuff for Christmas by now!" On and on they go, judgemental, intrusive comments!
Even DH who really doesn't care what people think or say thinks it's time for him to button it and just deliver the parcels!

Bloody hell, he's a piece of work. I wouldn't be able to keep quiet about this.

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Sam9769 · 17/12/2025 13:34

Postman's been at it again. One parcel containing a pair of jeggings required another comment from the postman to DH namely "Surely, she's bought enough stuff for Christmas by now!" On and on they go, judgemental, intrusive comments!
Even DH who really doesn't care what people think or say thinks it's time for him to button it and just deliver the parcels!

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LemaxObsessive · 15/12/2025 09:44

*his. He’s means he is

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/12/2025 01:40

Sam9769 · 14/12/2025 19:20

Does he say to another that he thinks your shopping is out of control?

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No

but if he did , I would remind him that he gets paid to deliver to me

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Sam9769 · 14/12/2025 23:43

TrippingOverMyAssets · 14/12/2025 19:33

Open the door yourself.

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Then he can tell me.

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Americano75 · 14/12/2025 21:20

Somethingneedstochange78 · 14/12/2025 21:16

No just things like one time I got some of the thin crumpets oh I like my crumpets thick. Or oh maltloaf I've not had that for years will have to get some. Another time it was some marble painting sets ooh look Jane you've been waiting for them to be reduced. She did comment once you must really like me to keep coming back to my checkout. Nobody forgets DD😂😂😂She looks like she's in her 50's or 60's and by the way she speaks I think she has false teeth.

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That's mental. 😆

Somethingneedstochange78 · 14/12/2025 21:16

Americano75 · 14/12/2025 19:32

Like this you mean? 😆

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No just things like one time I got some of the thin crumpets oh I like my crumpets thick. Or oh maltloaf I've not had that for years will have to get some. Another time it was some marble painting sets ooh look Jane you've been waiting for them to be reduced. She did comment once you must really like me to keep coming back to my checkout. Nobody forgets DD😂😂😂She looks like she's in her 50's or 60's and by the way she speaks I think she has false teeth.

TrippingOverMyAssets · 14/12/2025 19:33

Sam9769 · 14/12/2025 19:20

Does he say to another that he thinks your shopping is out of control?

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Open the door yourself.

Americano75 · 14/12/2025 19:32

Somethingneedstochange78 · 13/12/2025 23:57

This reminds me of a woman on the checkouts at our local Tesco.😂😂😂Though her comments aren’t as extreme as in this clip. She comments on most of my shopping. If she’s there then DD pulls me over to her checkout even if it means waiting longer in the queue.

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Like this you mean? 😆

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Sam9769 · 14/12/2025 19:20

Blondeshavemorefun · 12/12/2025 00:43

Poor postie. He’s only making conversation

my delivery man says I keep him in business

am I offended

course not

Does he say to another that he thinks your shopping is out of control?

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Somethingneedstochange78 · 13/12/2025 23:57

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 11/12/2025 11:18

What a bit like this?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=uah8kol05Q4&pp=0gcJCR4Bo7VqN5tD

This reminds me of a woman on the checkouts at our local Tesco.😂😂😂Though her comments aren’t as extreme as in this clip. She comments on most of my shopping. If she’s there then DD pulls me over to her checkout even if it means waiting longer in the queue.

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