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Tree fairy

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MsGinaLinetti · 11/12/2025 07:33

Every year I float the idea of a Christmas fairy to top the tree. DH and DCs all claim that a star is the ornament that should be used. We have both. AIBU to think that a fairy is THE CORRECT tree topper?

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MagdaLenor · 11/12/2025 10:36

A fairy is good!
It's Yuletide, as pp have said, Christianity came after and the midwinter festival got co-opted.
There's a reason that Cromwell banned Christmas!

DramaAlpaca · 11/12/2025 10:35

We have a star with an angel attached to it, so both.

Our childhood Christmas tree had a fairy at the top.

DuchessDandelion · 11/12/2025 10:33

A star or an angel are both correct:
Star of bethlehem
Angel Gabriel

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 10:31

Fairies are not messengers of God.

PollyBell · 11/12/2025 10:30

Never heard of a tree fairy, angel yes but we have an ornament but star in the past

JaninaDuszejko · 11/12/2025 10:26

Could someone explain what's the difference between fairies and angels apart from size? Both magical humanoid creatures with wings surely.

Anyway, you can put whatever you want on top of your tree. We have a star but my parents had a fairy in the 70s, 80s, and 90s.

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 10:25

Wish44 · 11/12/2025 08:06

yes but Christianity tacked its major date onto an already major date ( time of year) that already had the traditions of bringing in foliage.

so the traditions have fused over the years, but foliage is older than Christianity

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I don't dispute that, but if fairies etc are your important things, celebrate solstice, not Christmas.

Mochudubh · 11/12/2025 10:24

LowlyThisChristmas · 11/12/2025 08:54

Lowly Worm has topped my tree for the last 30 years.

You win! I love Richard Scarry.

Dearg · 11/12/2025 10:22

Christmas fairy here. Although to be honest she is with us all year. I just move her from the mantelpiece to the tree and back again

Theresalittlebitofwitchinyou · 11/12/2025 10:17

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 11/12/2025 08:03

We have an angel. A star is good too. Never, ever a fairy. You might as well have a hobbit or unicorn or some other fictional creature that is nothing to do with Christmas.

We do we have had a raven, the Green Man, 2 Bears with hearts and for the last few years a large Jack Skellington head (wearing a Santa hat)

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MsGinaLinetti · 11/12/2025 10:17

Shocked at the ratio though.

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NoMoreHotHols · 11/12/2025 08:03

None of those. I have something similar to this as it reminds me of the toppers we used back home (not UK). (Photo may be pending)

This year we’ve chosen Santa on top. It’s a hollow felt one we had since my kids were little.

We have one similar to this. I used to have my Dmil Topper so really old. I had it for about 20 years and was devastated when it broke.
The one we have now is nice but not got the same feeling.
I really don't like angels of any kind, they're creepy.

HeyThereDelila · 11/12/2025 10:10

It’s not a fairy, it’s an angel!

Oldandgreyer · 11/12/2025 10:10

Ours was a peg doll angel that I made when I was about 7 .. from a Christmas gift of a peg doll kit.
Mind you we also had a bit of wood that had plaster of paris put on it, with holly and a fake robin.
And dozens of those baubels we made from cutting circles out of Christmas cards.

Hoppinggreen · 11/12/2025 10:08

DisplayPurposesOnly · 11/12/2025 07:39

My old Sindy in her wedding dress doubled as the Christmas tree fairy for many years.

OMG we used to do that
We now have a winnie the pooh dressed as an angel that MIL bought DD around 15 years ago. its not tasteful but our whole tree is quite un SM worthy anyway as its full of things the DC made (now 20 and 16) and things we bought on our travels such as a Mexican santa

mondaytosunday · 11/12/2025 09:52

We’ve had both at various times but the last few have been angels (not fairy - it’s presumably Angel Gabriel who is as important as the star in the story).

Anxietybummer · 11/12/2025 09:38

Fairy (Angel) is correct. It’s the Angel that told Mary she was going to have a baby 🤣

datgyalb · 11/12/2025 09:37

I’ve got the M&S bear clinging on the top 🤣

Blarn · 11/12/2025 09:36

We have a star but would like the fairy my parents have.

We always had a fairy, even though it's obviously and angel as its Christmas. I wonder if referring to them as fairies is a regional thing or a 'of a certain time' thing?

RoamingToaster · 11/12/2025 09:25

I recently bought my first tree topper and went for a little cute red and green fairy but I'm starting to wish I'd gone for a star. The fairy draws your eyes attention too much and a star I think goes more cohesively together. Either is fine but think of how it will look altogether.

BauhausOfEliott · 11/12/2025 09:24

Ours is a fairy and I love her. She’s been around since my mum and dad had their first Christmas tree. She’s very mid-century kitsch and my favourite thing about the tree.

DappledThings · 11/12/2025 09:22

We have an angel. A star would be fine. Not a fairy.

Wintersgirl · 11/12/2025 09:19

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 07:36

Star is correct. Like the Star of Bethehem over the stable where Jesus was born.
Or an angel. Fairies have nothing to do with Christmas- they are probably a misreading of angels.

Just came here to say the same!

Radiator981 · 11/12/2025 09:18

We have an angel and a star - we alternate each year

Magnificentkitteh · 11/12/2025 09:12

NoMoreHotHols · 11/12/2025 08:03

None of those. I have something similar to this as it reminds me of the toppers we used back home (not UK). (Photo may be pending)

This year we’ve chosen Santa on top. It’s a hollow felt one we had since my kids were little.

I like this

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