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Tree fairy

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MsGinaLinetti · 11/12/2025 07:33

Every year I float the idea of a Christmas fairy to top the tree. DH and DCs all claim that a star is the ornament that should be used. We have both. AIBU to think that a fairy is THE CORRECT tree topper?

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ChocolateCinderToffee · 11/12/2025 11:31

We had a fairy when I was growing up. Our neighbour had a blown glass ‘steeple’ that actually looked like something off the Kremlin. I’m in Team Star.

scrivette · 11/12/2025 11:30

An angel on top of my main tree and stars on the top of the others. For many years I had my own Barbie in a home made dress sitting on the top until a friend gave me her Angel. I am still on the hunt for the perfect Angel though (20 years and going!)

Sartre · 11/12/2025 11:28

Well, we have a gingerbread man wearing a party hat this year. We’ve had pompom stars and even Percy Pig one year. Really doesn’t matter, it isn’t that deep.

SeaAndStars · 11/12/2025 11:28

My neighbour has an orange plastic version of the Angel of the North on top of her tree. It's fabulous.

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 11:27

Star.
Only because if i was an angel on top of a tree I wouldn't want a branch up my skirt.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 11/12/2025 11:27

I’m only a poor little fairy
Stuck up at the top of the tree
They turned on the lights
And bang went my tights
And off fell my legs 1, 2, 3

sorry, as you were

SeaAndStars · 11/12/2025 11:26

Fairy.
You can have a star up in your house all year round, but what other time of year do you get the opportunity to put a doll in a net skirt, wand and a tinsel hat out on display.

Sunflower3000 · 11/12/2025 11:22

I’d prefer a star, but they’re all too heavy to actually sit on the top of a real tree without some serious jiggery pokery, so this year we’ve got an angel that is still bit wonky but unlikely to fall off. Fairy… hmm, not really, unless it’s quite an angelic fairy

LivingDeadGirlUK · 11/12/2025 11:19

Do people really have fairies on their trees? What do fairies have to do with Christmas? Surely you mean an angel?

Tdcp · 11/12/2025 11:15

We don't have a tree topper. I used to put dds Shepard puppet up there that she made when she was about 4 but it's falling to pieces a little bit. Atm there some handmade yarn wreath thing that she's made balanced on the top of the tree 😂

sprigatito · 11/12/2025 11:10

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 10:48

Which is not Christmas.

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Neither is the tree 😆

Surely even the most hardcore of Christians know that most of our cultural Christmas traditions are older/pagan in origin? Christianity in the West succeeded as a planned takeover. Christian ideas were superimposed over existing traditions and practices. There’s no evidence at all that Jesus was born in the middle of winter.

ArcticGrass · 11/12/2025 11:09

Growing up we had a toy stuffed rabbit - obviously with some tinsel on, we weren't savages. I've no idea but think there may have been some Easter/Christmas confusion.

Now we have a toy santa, no particular reason - he just ended up on the top and it's stayed that way....

Tammygirl12 · 11/12/2025 11:06

Star of Bethlehem. Like the Christmas story - nativity

XWKD · 11/12/2025 11:02

WarrenTofficier · 11/12/2025 07:56

I'm probably not very helpful as we have a polar bear at the top of ours.

Polar bears are always the right answer regardless of the question. ❤️

RaraRachael · 11/12/2025 11:01

We used to have a start but I got a lovely angel a few years ago and she's much nicer.

Never heard of a tree fairy.

honeylulu · 11/12/2025 11:01

Star! My sister and I really wanted a fairy when we were little but our parents were very religious so that was never happening.

Now I'm grown up i think a star is classic and tasteful.

Wolowl · 11/12/2025 11:00

We've got a lovely snowflake star, it's gorgeous. I also have an angel but she's a bit too big for the tree so I've not used her since we got the snowflake star.
We always had an angel on the tree growing up, she's still there at my parents house now.
I think there's no definite answer as everyone will have a different preference.

randomchap · 11/12/2025 10:55

ErrolTheDragon · 11/12/2025 08:26

YABU but so are your family - as the posts on this thread prove, you should top your tree with whatever you like. Christmas, Yule, Saturnalia - midwinter festivals on or near the winter solstice have been ubiquitous over millennia in the northern hemisphere, and can blend and evolve happily together.

No Hogfather for you?

randomchap · 11/12/2025 10:53

We have The Hogfather

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 11/12/2025 10:50

We have a dove.
DM has a fairy - we think she is at least 100 years old.

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 10:48

MagdaLenor · 11/12/2025 10:36

No, but they are linked to older midwinter traditions.

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Which is not Christmas.

SparklyStrictly25 · 11/12/2025 10:41

Star or an angel (not a fairy!).

ArabellaSaurus · 11/12/2025 10:39

Generally we have a mouse. There may be room for more than one, or perhaps a rotating topper so that everyone gets a shot?

inmyera · 11/12/2025 10:39

We always had a snowman on the top of ours, until a couple of years ago and we now have a dove.

MagdaLenor · 11/12/2025 10:36

FuzzyPuffling · 11/12/2025 10:31

Fairies are not messengers of God.

No, but they are linked to older midwinter traditions.