9 year old drinking from a bottle

Yeah but has the kid had tooth decay?

She's doing a lot better now thankyou and I'm pleased to hear the little boy is doing well. I remember one of the drs explaining to me how common it was for children under a lot of stress and with trauma will often regress developmentally and needs will be different to that of other children. It really is heartbreaking.

Mind your business and stop being messy

You dont know her reasons - a lot of autistic children want their milk this way, and it may be the only way the child gets calcium

Is it an out and out baby bottle, or does it just look like one? Ds6 still has a bottle of milk at bedtime and in the morning (it contains his weight gain powder, and like pp, he's had a hard start with lots of surgery etc), but the spout is actually a soft sippee thing. He also brushes after milk of course.

It's a comfort thing, and unless he's wearing day time nappies and otherwise is well cared for and engaged in development appropriate activities, I dont see the issue. He'll stop when he's ready.

I remember one of my best friends in primary school used to have a bottle of milk after school in primary school. I did think it was a bit unusual which is why the memory has stayed with me. She probably is autistic, though not diagnosed and I guess it helped her relax after a long day at school. It hasn't stunted her growth (emotionally). Her teeth seem OK. She went on to graduate in Physics from Oxford university, has a very successful career, a wonderful home and lively family. We're still good friends.

From a dental point of view the biggest concern would be if the child is having the bottle at bed time abd not brushing their teen afterwards.

Well I have a 7 year old and am MIL to my 30 year old son-in-law. It’s quite possible 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've seen this before, that bottles are actively bad past a certain age. Even assuming otherwise normal diet. Why is a bottle bad but a fruit shoot okay with the coating the teeth thing? And someone said even water is bad - should I not be drinking from a sports cap? (Water)

At least it’s not……..bitty

I'm sorry to hear that and I think that sort of comfort can be really important. I hope she's doing well now with her health.

This little boy is doing brilliantly now all things considered but he definitely needs/ does lots of things that you'd normally associate with a much younger child. Poor wee thing didn't get enough comfort and cuddles as an infant, it's heartbreaking.

If nothing else, I imagine if other children became aware of this, they would make his life a misery.

Aww thats really sad 😔 one of mine was a really unwell child spent years in and out of hospital lots of surgeries. She had a dummy a lot longer then she should of but it was a real comfort for her

I know a child of around this age who still has a bottle of milk and cuddles before bed. He was adopted and had some very traumatic early childhood experiences so I assume it helps him cope with that.

Does the child have SEN needs? I just couldn't imagine a 9 year old without SEN standing for that. For example my profoundly autistic DD would go for it if it was on offer but my NT SD would flat out refuse.

If you read the OP she said she knows it's harmful (to teeth) presumably but also 'just wrong'.

She's making a judgement there.

Your mil has a 9 year old?

Is the 9 year old verbal? What does s/he say about it? Is is occasional or usual? How often does this 9 year old drink milk?

It's not great and you can gently discuss it

Bored OP, couldn’t sleep? Nothing much on?

Not my problem.

I’d misread whose child it was, now edited.

I would say it’s very odd and very bad for the teeth too. Why would you even do that? Is there any SEN going on cos it sounds like a sensory need.

Presumably, because it's not her job to allow or disallow anything, as it's not her child.

Does this mean your husband has a 9 year old sister?

Water from a baby bottle at 9 years old is also not fine, it’s not just about teeth

Have you never said anything about it? Has your husband? Weird on all sides

It very much is, according to our dentist. Sucking from a bottle rather than drinking from a cup means that the liquid coats the teeth far more, so it is increasing the risk of tooth decay. Water is fine, but not anything else.

Buy him a fun age appropriate drinks bottle for Christmas with his favourite character on something he will want all his drinks in