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I can’t believe I’m asking this!

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flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 21:37

I asked my partner for some more ideas for stocking fillers for our 8 & 9 year olds. He mentioned new toothbrushes. I said oh actually I was thinking of getting them electric ones so we just change the heads. He said no and that he has stabbed hhimselfin the face by his eye when the head has came off the toothbrush of his electric one. I was bewildered and said how on earth does that even happen?! He’s the processed to say I’m argumentative and if I buy the kids one and they stab themselves in the eye when the head comes off it’s all my fault. In my 36 years of life and using one. That has never happened. Am I right in thinking WTF?!

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Discoprincess6 · 11/12/2025 00:11

Aw I’ve just read all your updates. So sorry for laughing. It’s not funny now. He’s a tool. I’d buy the electric toothbrush, wait til he’s asleep then get the toothbrush and switch it on right by his face. It will be first thing he sees when he wakes up. That will teach him to stop being abusive. Rise above it. Don’t let him ruin Christmas. Maybe in new year have a think about leaving him. Idiot. Xxx

Abracadabrador · 11/12/2025 00:06

Free yourself of your boyfriend, as the best stocking filler ever.
Your kids will thrive not having some male in their home who thinks women are 'cunts'.

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flowerbiithc · 11/12/2025 00:05

He can be like this quite often. I get called that on a regular basis. I only have ever called it him in a retaliation once. I hate the word. I’m trying to make steps to leave but that’s obviously another story! But honestly you have all have me a proper good laugh so I’m feeling better!! Apart from the amount of my inhaler I’ve had to take from laughing so hard with an awful chest infection 🤣🤦‍♀️. But still laughter is good medicine 🥰

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Ballondor · 11/12/2025 00:03

I’ve never stabbed myself or anyone else with a toothbrush, except for that incident when I was in a Bolivian prison, and that couldn’t be helped really.

Snowontheroof · 11/12/2025 00:00

Weirdly electric toothbrushes give me mouth ulcers. So if you buy them and your children complain don't assume it's imaginary 😁.

MO0N · 10/12/2025 23:55

If my OH accused me of being argumentative he would sharply be told that I am merely standing up for myself and that it is essential to do so when one is married to a 'mr bossy-boots' like him!

Idiot11 · 10/12/2025 23:55

Ah I missed that he called you that. Sorry op. Its never acceptable for him to be verbally abusive in that way. Is that 'normal' language between you? Only asking as you've used it upthread or was it the aggression with which it was said? You're not there to be anyone's verbal punch bag and while it's normal to disagree about how to approach parenting decisions, this is a really unhealthy way to navigate that. Is this regular behaviour from him? Are you safe?

Mudflaps · 10/12/2025 23:41

If my husband called me a cunt I'd shove the electric toothbrush (turned on,of course) so far up his arse that it hitting his eye would be the least of his worries. He's a nasty piece of work and it can't be easy living with him so I sincerely hope things improve for you. Get the kids their toothbrushes and let them prove that they have their mothers intelligence.

Copperoliverbear · 10/12/2025 23:38

Oral b on boots have great deals at the moment, mines coming Friday.
ignore him.

Tryingatleast · 10/12/2025 23:30

Does he mean trying to get the head off the toothbrush and yanking it so it hits you in the eye? (Never done it!)

Discoprincess6 · 10/12/2025 23:28

Omg this made me giggle!!! Had crap day, thanks!!!

P00kyW00ky · 10/12/2025 23:22

Your hubby is an idiot!

AllTheChaos · 10/12/2025 23:16

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 23:00

all your comments are making me actually laugh out loud. But behind the scenes I’ve been upset as he’s been abusive about it.

Now the problem becomes clear - and it is all him. How utterly rotten for you to have to spend Christmas with him

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AngelicKaty · 10/12/2025 23:12

Redpeach · 10/12/2025 23:07

But for young kids? Its like buying nail clippers

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OP's already explained they're "stocking-fillers", not their main presents. And they're nothing like nail clippers - she's setting them up with good dental hygiene habits that will last their entire lives and keep them generally healthier too.
@flowerbiithc It's a brilliant idea OP! 😊

PennywisePoundFoolish · 10/12/2025 23:11

If he wasn't being horrible and abusive, I'd suggest buying your husband an electric toothbrush and some safety googles.

AiryFairyLights · 10/12/2025 23:09

Redpeach · 10/12/2025 23:07

But for young kids? Its like buying nail clippers

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No it’s not! My kids loved getting their first electric toothbrushes!! I wish I’d got one when I was younger - mind you they probably were the size of the old Motorola brick phones ……maybe THAT’S how it happened @flowerbiithc

Redpeach · 10/12/2025 23:07

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 22:46

It’s a part of a stocking filler. I like to do useful things instead of all mindless crap

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But for young kids? Its like buying nail clippers

AiryFairyLights · 10/12/2025 23:07

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 23:00

all your comments are making me actually laugh out loud. But behind the scenes I’ve been upset as he’s been abusive about it.

And whilst I’ve been chuckling, then I read this and think you should buy him an electric toothbrush for Christmas!!! If he wants an argumentative c&&& then give him one!
He’s an arsehole and being nasty cos he knows how stupid he sounds. I’m sorry he’s upset you but I hope we’ve all given you a giggle ❤️

Christmas2025 · 10/12/2025 23:06

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 23:00

all your comments are making me actually laugh out loud. But behind the scenes I’ve been upset as he’s been abusive about it.

Abusive people will take any opportunity to be controlling. Hope you're ok OP. Perhaps next year you can give yourselves the gift of a peaceful home without him in it.

AngelicKaty · 10/12/2025 23:04

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 22:58

No idea. When I asked him how it happened he called me an argumentative cunt. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Wow - that's beyond nasty - what a truly terrible thing to say to someone he's supposed to love. I hope he's deeply ashamed of himself and has apologised by now
It seems like you're the only adult in your home OP. 🤗

AiryFairyLights · 10/12/2025 23:02

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 21:39

Also if you can stab yourself in the eye whilst brushing your teeth. Your doing something wrong!!

Your first three posts have me chuckling away here - what an absolute drama lama 😂😂😂
Seriously you just need to say “I’ve been thinking about the toothbrush saga and you’re right - whilst I can’t imagine any child of mine somehow stabbing themselves in the eye with a toothbrush that’s lost its head, they are 50% your dna so it’s probably best not to risk it”!
😂😂😂

AngelicKaty · 10/12/2025 23:00

flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 22:46

It’s a part of a stocking filler. I like to do useful things instead of all mindless crap

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Good for you! 😃 Honestly OP, YANBU and your DP is hilariously over-reacting. Buy the electric toothbrushes - and maybe a pair of safety goggles for each of your DP and DC, you know, just in case ... 😂😂😂

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flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 23:00

all your comments are making me actually laugh out loud. But behind the scenes I’ve been upset as he’s been abusive about it.

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flowerbiithc · 10/12/2025 22:58

Blackbookofsmiles1 · 10/12/2025 22:50

….I think we need a diagram.

How did he manage it?

No idea. When I asked him how it happened he called me an argumentative cunt. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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