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How to manage if I get this flu?

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Redonionsalad · 10/12/2025 20:50

I’m a single parent, no support nearby.
I keep reading with this new flu strain people can’t get out of bed for a week or more.

I’m in panic mode as how on earth will I look after my DC (5 and 7) if I do catch it?!

OP posts:
Dillydollydingdong · 11/12/2025 16:14

I've got it but it's on its way out after 2 weeks. The main symptoms were sneezing, coughing and total tiredness. I nap every afternoon ATM. The doctor prescribed antibiotics. Good luck.

TappaMcFeety · 11/12/2025 16:07

Really good suggestions already on this thread. I live alone and this flu doing the rounds made me stop and think how I would cope if I got it. So I’ve stocked up on toilet roll, milk, cat food, easy meals in the freezer, some sweet crap for quick easy calories in the cupboards and of course painkillers.

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 11/12/2025 16:07

I can’t believe all of these replies feeding into this posters health anxieties.

Op you will just cope. I know it doesn’t seem like that way now but when you are in these situations you just do. I had flu when I was pregnant with my daughter and I also had a toddler and a husband that did night shifts.I just coped and got on with it. Im now a solo parent who has migraines that if I didn’t have kids I would be bed ridden for several days per month with them. I’m not though as I just have to get on. I’d try and ignore most of these posts there going to make your worries worse not better.

Eyeshadow · 11/12/2025 16:01

I thought there was a mix match in the vaccine which is why it’s not as effective as the strain is slightly different to what they predicted.

I think a lot of people never worried about flu (myself included) unless they were older or immunocompromised.
But since covid and seeing how quickly that spread and the illness and damaged it caused, I feel people are a lot more careful.

I still don’t think it’s anything to worry about though and there are much worse illnesses you can get.

Try and stay healthy, be sensible, try and put away £50 or so for emergencies but don’t let it stop you living your life.

KitsyWitsy · 11/12/2025 15:45

I had my jab yesterday. Wish it didn’t take so long to work. I’m very concerned this year.

I got that first defence too!

thetallfairy · 11/12/2025 15:31

Vaccine booked in for today

Just realised it takes 10-14 days for it to work

I'm wearing masks in the meantime

PinkKimono · 11/12/2025 15:31

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 14:49

It feels like they’re pushing for a lockdown again.

Who is "they"?

PinkKimono · 11/12/2025 15:30

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 13:34

I’ve never seen so many people panic over the yearly flu.

I think it is a particulary nasty strain this year. It is a mutated strain and so not as much immunity to it. Whole schools have been closed because of it.

Bologneselove · 11/12/2025 15:22

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:36

I have to agree with you.
The flu as been around for centuries.
Its how we deal with it that have changed.
I may get quoted for saying this but society has become soft.
And can't cope with things that have been happening for decades.

Absolutely agree. It’s easier than ever now as you can order anything to be delivered. Then make do.

KarmenPQZ · 11/12/2025 15:03

Set your kids up for some age appropriate independence. Getting breakfast or making a basic sandwich themselves, brushing their teeth getting dressed etc.

Get a support network, presumably your kids are in school and you live somewhere with neighbours. Support goes both ways so be willing to help others and store favours.

dont empty your food cupboards unless you’re genuinely living hand to mouth… have food in at all times.

why panic about flu. You could fall over and break your leg etc. don’t give in to unreasonable hype but generally be prepared with some basic measures.

PumpkinHedgehog · 11/12/2025 15:02

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:36

I have to agree with you.
The flu as been around for centuries.
Its how we deal with it that have changed.
I may get quoted for saying this but society has become soft.
And can't cope with things that have been happening for decades.

People used to die of flu - in clinically vulnerable groups they still do.

The vaccine is £15 in Asda.

OP, stock up on Beechams for yourself and ibuprofen for the children, easy meals, let school know if you do get the flu.

PumpkinHedgehog · 11/12/2025 14:58

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:52

Yeah I heard.
Absolutely ridiculous tbh.
The world's gone mad.
Know one seems to cope anymore with normal things.
Im starting to be embarrassed to be British.

Flu activity in the UK is unusually high just now, and hospital cases are at record-high levels for this time of year. I haven’t heard anything about lockdowns.

PumpkinHedgehog · 11/12/2025 14:54

ThomasinaHardy · 11/12/2025 10:29

I would like to get the flu jab but I've heard that it can make you poorly.

Is that nonsense?

I’ve had the flu jab several times with no side-effects, but all my Covid jabs made me feel dreadful. I’d rather have a mild version from the vaccine than full-on flu or Covid.

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:52

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 14:49

It feels like they’re pushing for a lockdown again.

Yeah I heard.
Absolutely ridiculous tbh.
The world's gone mad.
Know one seems to cope anymore with normal things.
Im starting to be embarrassed to be British.

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 14:49

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:36

I have to agree with you.
The flu as been around for centuries.
Its how we deal with it that have changed.
I may get quoted for saying this but society has become soft.
And can't cope with things that have been happening for decades.

It feels like they’re pushing for a lockdown again.

PumpkinHedgehog · 11/12/2025 14:44

Betty1625 · 10/12/2025 21:23

People i work with had jabs but still caught it and were quite poorly with it.
Same with my kids.
Jabs do not guarantee no infection

I can confirm this - had the flu jab weeks ago and am in bed most of the time.

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:36

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 13:34

I’ve never seen so many people panic over the yearly flu.

I have to agree with you.
The flu as been around for centuries.
Its how we deal with it that have changed.
I may get quoted for saying this but society has become soft.
And can't cope with things that have been happening for decades.

Timebudda · 11/12/2025 14:33

My must have in house at all times when I get ill.

Lemons.
Limes.
Jar of honey.
Vics.
Oxo and black pepper.
Cup a soups.
Cough sweets.
Sleep.

As soon as I'm feeling some what ok sweat it out with house work then back to bed.

Tell myself keep moving get better or die.
So far got through 3 extremely bad flu virus.
And few colds over the past nearly 40 years.

TheTaupeScroller · 11/12/2025 13:44

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 13:34

I’ve never seen so many people panic over the yearly flu.

they did before Covid, but now we're forgetting about Covid, the flu threat is back 😂

Tryingatleast · 11/12/2025 13:38

You’ll get through it op, just have things that make life easier, medecines, food prepared, antibacterial cleaning wipes and aerosol sprays, colouring stuff and play dough and be ready for them to watch over average screen time. It’s all anyone can do x

Eyeshadow · 11/12/2025 13:36

Your kids are old enough that they don’t need constant supervision.

I always had a credit card for emergencies.

Save up money so you can get takeaway and food delivery if needed.
Perhaps write a list of things you’ll need to buy if you get ill but can’t think straight - bread, milk, ready meals, cereal, paracetamol, toilet roll etc

Buy some bread and freeze it and a couple of tins of beans.

Worst comes to worst your kids will live off sandwiches and cereal for a couple of days, the house will be a mess and they’ll have loads of screen time but they won’t mind any of it.

You can just lie on the sofa and doze all day.
Just remember to keep your fluids up and have paracetamol and ibuprofen every 2 hours.

coldabdtired · 11/12/2025 13:34

I’ve never seen so many people panic over the yearly flu.

TortillaRapping · 11/12/2025 13:33

P00kyW00ky · 10/12/2025 21:00

You will not be able to parent children with this flu. It's deadly. My sister her hubby and 3 year old couldn't get out of bed

Thankfully it’s not usually deadly and some people manage to do the bare minimum if they really have to.

UtterlyOtterly · 11/12/2025 13:26

Stock up on easy child friendly foods. There was a bad flu season in the 60s, my parents were very ill and my strongest memory is of my brother and I sitting on the kitchen floor and crying because there was no food.

We did not have a phone but somehow a neighbour realised and brought us food.

When my DC were small I took a child from DS's class to and from school for a week when his mum was injured. People are usually happy to help.

MrsMillyFluff · 11/12/2025 13:12

Don't worry too much, when my dd were little, I was seriously ill (I didn't know at the time and wasn't rushed to hospital for a few days) I managed even though I was very ill, the children helped me out by bringing things from the fridge etc, they lived on sandwiches for a few days, but never starved. You'll get by because you'd have to. ❤️x