I don’t even really know what to say here, DD (10) is going to Germany to visit the German market and, I dunno, do festive things with ExHB (her DF), his GF of about 18 months and her DS.
Not only am I still beating myself up because is he actually a nice guy now and was I the problem (I left what I’d describe as an abusive, toxic marriage)? She’s having 2 days off school and he’d NEVER have been ok with that when we were married. Is he really a new man and I was the reason he was so angry when we were together? But surely I don’t WANT him to be horrible and abusive to new GF to justify my divorce?
DD’s been understandably buzzing with excitement and telling me it might snow etc. and I just feel so weird about it all.
I don’t miss ExHB, I DEFINITELY don’t want to go to Germany with him or regret leaving him. But I feel sad that I won’t ever be able to do things like that with DD. A weekend in December would mean no abroad holiday in the summer (which I did super cheap as it was) and next year is looking doubtful. And taking a child abroad on your own as a single parent is no small task. I was knackered, and lonely all at the same time.
It’s a weird feeling of missing her and feeling like they’re a family and I’m a mess and she has more fun when she’s not with me.