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Feeling really awful about myself and my son.

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Hope54321 · 10/12/2025 13:30

Hello guys,

Hope you’re all having a wonderful day. I am currently struggling with my self esteem and confidence because I am a sufferer of chronic bad breath since about 8 years old. My eldest son was born with bad breath. Doctors are so confused and just throw the usual “it’s acid reflux”. Dentists say we have lovely teeth and a clean mouth. We still stink so bad. My bad breath is at a point where I can no longer mask it with chewing gum. I floss, brush and use mouthwash before I leave the house and I still get reactions from people.

I feel guilty that I passed this horrible disease onto my son. He is only 4 yeas old, he should be enjoying his life. He also has eczema, severe allergies, asthma and autism. Poor kid has a lot going on.

I just can’t take it anymore. The doctors have no idea and I don’t have tonsil stones. I’m really struggling with the bad breath, especially because now my son is suffering. He is repeating what the kids have said to him. After school he kept repeating “you’re stinky”. It breaks my heart to watch him go through what I went through as a kid. I really worry about his future.

People avoid talking to me at his school because of this disease. I’m not sure how much longer I can go on for like this. Thank you for reading. I can’t speak about this to anyone in real life so thanks for reading.

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Ophy83 · 11/12/2025 22:50

Are you both mouth breathers? If so retraining yourself to nose breathe might help.

As temporary solutions- have you tried chewing gum or regular mouthwash?

Frenchtoastie · 11/12/2025 22:49

Have you tried plaque disclosing tablets to ensure your flossing and brushing is perfect?
try use interdental brushes as well as floss

tessellated2 · 11/12/2025 22:47

Tonsil stones?

Hope54321 · 11/12/2025 22:43

Malbucket · 11/12/2025 22:06

Guess you have already tried chewing cloves? Lots of overlapping benefits I have only just discovered!

Yes, I have tried cloves, they don’t get rid of the bad breath.

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WilfredsPies · 11/12/2025 22:42

Absolutely no advice but I just wanted to give you a virtual hug. It’s hard enough when you’ve got something like this yourself, but it’s heartbreaking when you’ve see your baby going through it too. I hope they find a cause soon 💐

Wearealldoingourbest · 11/12/2025 22:41

Oh gosh that sounds so distressing - and it sounds like you've investigated really thoroughly. A thought - undiagnosed coeliac disease caused gross breath for my DD (not quite poo smelling though)? Another option if you haven't already tried it is Fenugreek (the spice) great for GI issues and smell.

TryingAgainAgainAgain · 11/12/2025 22:41

You have tried a lot, OP. It must be so frustrating. But when you say you've tried probiotics including some for the oral biome, which ones? As it needs to be the right strains, in the right concentration.

Loloj · 11/12/2025 22:33

This sounds really tough to live with OP but by the sounds of it your GP is not being very helpful or understanding. There will be an underlying medical reason and it seems a possible genetic link considering your son is displaying the same symptoms. Keep pushing your GP and insist to be referred to a specialist.

FlockOfSausages · 11/12/2025 22:31

Have you tried zylatol? It’s a game changer.

Dliplop · 11/12/2025 22:21

If you ever find out, let us know! DS is waiting for ENT

chrissycn11 · 11/12/2025 22:14

Google Dr Ellie Phillips and look at her mouth care system and all the reviews she gets. The improvement in oral heath is enormous.

Namechangerage · 11/12/2025 22:10

Hope54321 · 10/12/2025 14:48

Hi there, yes I was thinking maybe it is due to a mebolic condition. I don’t believe it’s due to acid reflux because my other family members have acid reflux and they smell normal.

Could you go private?

Malbucket · 11/12/2025 22:06

Guess you have already tried chewing cloves? Lots of overlapping benefits I have only just discovered!

BringBackCatsEyes · 11/12/2025 22:04

Hope54321 · 10/12/2025 14:46

The doctor has given me omeprazole so far, it’s made no difference in terms of my breath and has also caused diarrhea. Every time I bring up my son, they’re not intere and say children always change.

one doctor said if it’s due to genetics, there’s nothing that can be done about it.

Have you explored the genetic possibility?

Halloweeeeeeeeen · 11/12/2025 22:02

Genetic imbalance of the thyroid gland?

scott2609 · 11/12/2025 21:44

I appreciate you’ve probably tried this or similar and I imagine it won’t work, but I thought there was no harm in recommending it. My son (slightly younger than yours) has gone through periods of having really bad breath, despite his teeth being brushed thoroughly twice a day, and taking daily probiotics. This unflavoured mouthwash has completely got rid of it:

https://www.boots.com/ultradex-daily-oral-rinse-500ml-10143628?traffic=paid.shopping&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19971248798&gbraid=0AAAAA-AdmwQNE70yBzuwS76In1K2-8A9u&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItc3yo8C2kQMVcotQBh3HXQgrEAQYASABEgKeXfD_BwE

BlueberryOats · 11/12/2025 21:44

Have you tried zinc lozenges?

Hope54321 · 11/12/2025 21:40

Imonmyway · 11/12/2025 21:32

Have you been tested for haemocromatosis?

No I haven’t, first time I’ve heard of it.

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Hope54321 · 11/12/2025 21:39

OneGreySeal · 11/12/2025 21:25

Op try fermented products for your gut. I reckon that’s the issue.

I noticed fermented food make my reflux and smell worse.

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Hope54321 · 11/12/2025 21:38

PonkyPonky · 11/12/2025 21:36

DS has this. I started giving him Kefir every day and it has massively improved so I think in his case, it’s gut health related. Have you tried that?

I haven’t tried kefir, but I have tried probiotics for the gut and for the oral microbiome.

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Hope54321 · 11/12/2025 21:37

PatchworkOwl · 11/12/2025 21:14

Maybe SIBO, OP? Do you have any other symptoms?

I did do a test for sibo, the result was negative for sibo.

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PonkyPonky · 11/12/2025 21:36

DS has this. I started giving him Kefir every day and it has massively improved so I think in his case, it’s gut health related. Have you tried that?

Imonmyway · 11/12/2025 21:32

Have you been tested for haemocromatosis?

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