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To think that the success of male comedians online playing eccentric female characters is a true sign of misogyny?

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 10:55

I can think of loads of male comedians who've made it big by acting out characters who are funny, eccentric middle aged women

Its all the rage on tiktok, men just donning a wig and acting like their mums

Cant think of many female comedians doing the same thing and getting success from it 🤔

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Randomcrackedegg · 10/12/2025 12:02

Why do some people try to see misogyny in everything, or have to find something to be offended about? It's people trying to be funny, don't watch it if you don't like it. I don't watch tiktok but have seen some on YouTube. Men and women acting as both males and females. Most of it's shit but the odd one is genius. I love living with siblings and a couple of others. As already said, it's not a new thing.

Maddy70 · 10/12/2025 12:01

Kathy Burke as Perry
Dawn french and jenifer Saunders
Hilary swank as Brandon Teena

KimberleyClark · 10/12/2025 12:01

Katy Wix (another v good young female comedian) dressed up as a man in the pilot of Fried, v funny ep.

She was fabulous Fergie in The Windsors.

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 11:59

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

Mocking men is like mocking the wealthy - it doesn't have the same effect as it's not punching down

That's a false equivalence that makes no sense.

You're saying mocking men is okay because they're men?

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 11:58

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:18

I dont know 😭

I just think theres so many guys on tiktok pretending to be women, and so many comedians who do it too

And it irks me. Would they be as well recieved were they playing men?

I love French and saunders and Kathy burke yes, but I cant think of anyone younger

Must be your algorithm, do you think you're "rage watching" these clips and being recommended more and more? I can't think of any comedians I've seen playing their mums. I follow a young Italian/German comedian who portrays both her parents (dad with a bald cap) - Laura Ramoso. She's very good.

Katy Wix (another v good young female comedian) dressed up as a man in the pilot of Fried, v funny ep.

Ellie White and Natasia Demetriou in their sketch show (Ellie and Tash) play male chefs - brothers who only make tomato sauce iirc

The female cast members of the Goes Wrong Show (probably the most popular live non-stands up comedy around atm) play men all the time.

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 11:57

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

Are they successful though? With sponsorship deals?

There's one bald guy who pretends to be a mum. Funny tbh but I cant think of a woman whos had that success 😬

You need to actually say who you're talking about.

What online comedians with sponsorship deals?

You started out saying the online success of comedians but didn't actually name any apart from Mrs Brown's boys which is a TV show that is mostly panned.

Then vague things about men online getting sponsorship deals.

Who?

WalkDontWalk · 10/12/2025 11:57

vkfkd · 10/12/2025 11:42

Totally agree - it is not subversive; we live in a patriarchy and so it is punching down for men to be dressing up and mimicking women

When women dress up to mimic women - Aherne doing Mrs Merton, for instance. a young woman playing a menopausal woman as a comic stereotype - is that punching sideways?

KimberleyClark · 10/12/2025 11:56

There were a number of 'issues' (shall we say) with Dick Emery - and his stuff has not aged at all well - but at least, when he played female characters, they were multi-dimensional (not just a minor 'sexy foil' to the main male characters, like with Benny Hill) and distinctive from each other - rather than just all the exact same 'generic woman'.

True of Stanley Baxter too. Their female characters were exquisitely observed and acted. SB’s portrayal of the Queen (though he called her the Duchess of something) was brilliant.

Milkbloo · 10/12/2025 11:51

I cant comprehend at all the cognitive dissonance in our culture that is shocked by the black & white minstrels but condones drag.

it nauseates me.

the disrespect toward women is so ingrained, I despair.

Nitgel · 10/12/2025 11:51

The boy with the towel on his head is funny.

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 10/12/2025 11:49

Kathy Burke and Harry Enfield played Kevin & Perry (2 teenage boys) as well as the Lovely Wobbly Randy Old Ladies - so a bit of a mixture.

I don't know if Barry Humphries' character Les Patterson was much less popular than Dame Edna because of the actual character or because a man playing a male character inherently wasn't considered as funny?

There were a number of 'issues' (shall we say) with Dick Emery - and his stuff has not aged at all well - but at least, when he played female characters, they were multi-dimensional (not just a minor 'sexy foil' to the main male characters, like with Benny Hill) and distinctive from each other - rather than just all the exact same 'generic woman'.

I don't watch MBB, as I like comedy; but isn't the very title of the show misogynistic in plain sight when Mrs Brown also has a daughter - or am I missing something?

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:48

CagneyNYPD1 · 10/12/2025 11:24

I get exactly what you mean @mumofoneAloneandwell

I see a number of these men on various social media platforms. Some with badly applied make up, messy hair styles, exaggerated mannerisms. Pretending to be a woman having some sort of moan/rant/meltdown. Lots of the Mums Be Like or That One Woman in the school office. Or the grotesque caricature of the Chav style woman, low income, lots of kids and Botox.

It’s not funny, nuanced nor clever. It’s misogyny wrapped up in lazy humour. They are not endearing in the style of Kathy Burke’s Perry. They are a piss take and women are the butt of the joke.

Oh and I agree with the PP about Mrs Brown’s Boys…makes me want to heave.

100% agree

and re the low income 'chav' stereotype played out on tiktok! Ridiculous and cheap humour

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AnneofBohemia · 10/12/2025 11:47

I think it depends, some of them are very affectionate portrayals and you can tell that the men doing it actually like women. Others not so much

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:47

BIossomtoes · 10/12/2025 11:26

Nice attempt @mumofoneAloneandwell. As if there weren’t already enough of these threads.

Bashing men? 😭

Its just making a genuine point!

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 11:45

And it's not when women do it to mock men?

Mocking men is like mocking the wealthy - it doesn't have the same effect as it's not punching down

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

noidea69 · 10/12/2025 11:32

Oh come on, the amount of tiktokers & instagram influencers who do little sketches pretend to be their husbands is unreal.

Half my instagram feed is women pretending to be the father of their kids and acting out the whole leaving socks/towels on the floor thing.

Are they successful though? With sponsorship deals?

There's one bald guy who pretends to be a mum. Funny tbh but I cant think of a woman whos had that success 😬

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ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 11:45

vkfkd · 10/12/2025 11:42

Totally agree - it is not subversive; we live in a patriarchy and so it is punching down for men to be dressing up and mimicking women

And it's not when women do it to mock men?

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:45

vkfkd · 10/12/2025 11:29

It drives me mad too - i hate it when the online comedians put a dishcloth on their head to show they're being "Mom". Don't have TikTok but it's the same on Youtube Shorts and Instagram / Instagram reels.

David Walliams I am not sure how anyone could find his shows amusing - I still can't quite believe Come Fly With Me was commissioned, with him and Matt Lucas doing blackface, asianface, as well as playing females. One character was a Thai bride iirc?!

This is it! The dishcloth of doom!

Walliams and lucas are awful people sorry 😭

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Ballondor · 10/12/2025 11:42

XWKD · 10/12/2025 10:59

I used to love Cissie and Ada.

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Cissie and Ada just remind me of my formidable Northern grandmothers - absolutely love them. So well observed. It’s a privilege to be old enough to remember when women like that were commonplace.

vkfkd · 10/12/2025 11:42

cordeliaflynne · 10/12/2025 11:34

I think you are right. Just getting a laugh out of misogyny. I know that everyone will have favourite examples that they enjoy and can point at examples of female comedians playing men for laughs but taken collectively it is the dominant group dressing up and imitating a stereotype of the less dominant group and it is offensive.

Totally agree - it is not subversive; we live in a patriarchy and so it is punching down for men to be dressing up and mimicking women

KimberleyClark · 10/12/2025 11:42

MeouwKing · 10/12/2025 11:29

Alistair Sims in St Trinians; brilliant, it's been going on for years

And Alec Guinness in Kind Hearts and Coronets.

cordeliaflynne · 10/12/2025 11:34

I think you are right. Just getting a laugh out of misogyny. I know that everyone will have favourite examples that they enjoy and can point at examples of female comedians playing men for laughs but taken collectively it is the dominant group dressing up and imitating a stereotype of the less dominant group and it is offensive.

TonTonMacoute · 10/12/2025 11:33

Mrs Brown's Boys is beyond awful.

I like Sooshimango on Instagram. They do dress up as their dads too tbf.

noidea69 · 10/12/2025 11:32

Oh come on, the amount of tiktokers & instagram influencers who do little sketches pretend to be their husbands is unreal.

Half my instagram feed is women pretending to be the father of their kids and acting out the whole leaving socks/towels on the floor thing.