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To think that the success of male comedians online playing eccentric female characters is a true sign of misogyny?

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 10:55

I can think of loads of male comedians who've made it big by acting out characters who are funny, eccentric middle aged women

Its all the rage on tiktok, men just donning a wig and acting like their mums

Cant think of many female comedians doing the same thing and getting success from it 🤔

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Needmorelego · 10/12/2025 12:50

MirrorMirror1247 · 10/12/2025 12:23

I can't get worked up about it. Men have been portraying female characters for hundreds of years, definitely since Shakespeare's time. Since La Voix's appearance on Strictly, I've learned a lot about Chris and his background, he's done drama courses, is a trained make up artist and is a really good vocalist. La Voix is just a character he's created. Drag doesn't strike me as misogynist at all, it's just performers portraying a character.

La Voix is apparently going to be playing Miss Hannigan in the stage version Annie next year.
Me and my daughter saw Annie last year. Miss Hannigan was originally going to be played by Paul O'Grady but sadly he passed away. We had a female actress instead - she was from Strictly I think. I can't remember her name right now.
Her performance was ok but it's become traditional for Miss Hannigan to be played by a man and it just makes it funny and silly because it's so over the top. That's the whole point.
Hopefully we can get tickets for the La Voix version.
We also saw Oliver this year. Depending on which group you saw some of the orphans were played by girls. But their characters were boys.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:49

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 12:31

Oh, so you didn't actually see any successful comedians getting sponsorship deals because of their misogyny?

You just saw some random people doing impressions of women on Tiktok and made up a thread about them becoming successful comedians and getting sponsorship deals?

Its an ongoing theme that irks me!

I dont want to name and shame particular comedians tbh, but its all over tiktok

Yeah there are some women who play eccentric women, but its very often men, who's male characters dont get the same popularity

Season 6 Ugh GIF by Parks and Recreation
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CustardySergeant · 10/12/2025 12:47

RedTagAlan · 10/12/2025 12:37

Kathy Burke as Perry with Harry Enfield as Kevin.

My DD turned 13 and I tried to show her the vid of Kevin becoming a teenager. She refused to watch :-)

Why did she refuse to watch?

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:46

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:23

But you don't mind it when women (like the ones I've given multiple examples of and you now claim to know despite saying before you didn't see content the other way round) play daft men and "make it big"?
I don't think you every really know what you're upset about tbh.

They dont punch down. They play a range of characters

I'm speaking about men who get big for playing women, usually their mothers

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pastabest · 10/12/2025 12:45

I don't necessarily disagree with you OP but I think it's an 'of its time thing' and tiktok etc will move on to something else as it's a fairly saturated market now.

There are women doing it too and someone of them very successfully.

RedTagAlan · 10/12/2025 12:37

grannycake · 10/12/2025 11:04

French & Saunders did a couple of sketches where there were men

Kathy Burke as Perry with Harry Enfield as Kevin.

My DD turned 13 and I tried to show her the vid of Kevin becoming a teenager. She refused to watch :-)

PermanentTemporary · 10/12/2025 12:36

Just to say that Melissa McCarthy’s Sean Spicer was the best thing on Saturday Night Live during the Trump first term.

British female comedians have taken some time to catch up, there were so many who only ever got to be the token woman in a male comedy series, or who didn’t seem to go there in terms of playing men even with their own series. SNL women are a lot further ahead.

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 12:31

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:05

Okay I will go onto tiktok and see - i'm sure there are loads of comedians playing the opposite sex but the ones I see is always men doing women

Maybe its just me seeing this but I just do get irritated with men playing women 😭

Oh, so you didn't actually see any successful comedians getting sponsorship deals because of their misogyny?

You just saw some random people doing impressions of women on Tiktok and made up a thread about them becoming successful comedians and getting sponsorship deals?

Dollymylove · 10/12/2025 12:25

Its called drag. Its been around for centuries. Have you never heard of it?

And as other PPs have said:
Cissies and Ada 😀 absolute unbeatable genius 🥰😍

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:23

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:20

I love both of them, they have various skits which I love. There are also successful male comedians who play men and a range of characters

Just irks me when I see the ones who play daft women to make it big

But you don't mind it when women (like the ones I've given multiple examples of and you now claim to know despite saying before you didn't see content the other way round) play daft men and "make it big"?
I don't think you every really know what you're upset about tbh.

MirrorMirror1247 · 10/12/2025 12:23

I can't get worked up about it. Men have been portraying female characters for hundreds of years, definitely since Shakespeare's time. Since La Voix's appearance on Strictly, I've learned a lot about Chris and his background, he's done drama courses, is a trained make up artist and is a really good vocalist. La Voix is just a character he's created. Drag doesn't strike me as misogynist at all, it's just performers portraying a character.

LoserWinner · 10/12/2025 12:22

noidea69 · 10/12/2025 11:32

Oh come on, the amount of tiktokers & instagram influencers who do little sketches pretend to be their husbands is unreal.

Half my instagram feed is women pretending to be the father of their kids and acting out the whole leaving socks/towels on the floor thing.

You must be watching them if they keep coming up on your feed - that’s how the algorithm works. I suggest you choose more edifying content more regularly.

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:21

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:13

Weird to define "success" as sponsorship deals on tik tok. There are lots of actual female comedians on the actual telly and touring big venues who do this well. You might be spending too much time on tiktok getting upset.

But if you're judging success by social media alone, check out Laura Ramoso who I mentioned above (plays her Italian dad) she has 1.4 million tiktok followers.

Imogen Andrews (British) has 1/2 million tiktok followers and sometimes plays a man including a recurring male character who is bad at sex.

Expand your comedy horizons beyond your FYP 😂

Also there's a woman called Veronika Mirgova- also v big on tik tok and insta - who does male characters, like a characature of a "chavvy"/road man young man. I don't find her that funny but it sounds like similar to what you're watching but rules reversed

Augustandeverythingafter1 · 10/12/2025 12:20

Do you mean the "middle class white woman" parodies? Some make me smirk but most are just stupid and unoriginal.

What really pisses me off though (and I didnt know whether to post this tbh) is the "white women be like..." skits by black men. Generally they are mildly offensive eg how all white women look ridiculous wearing wigs haha look at how none of them cut the lace cotrectly, arent white women stupid. If I were to post something about all black women doing x, I would quite rightly be hung drawn and quartered.

Yes, black women experience racism every day (wtf are dark skin plasters more expensive than pink ones?) but it doesnt make it acceptable for others to experience racism even to a lesser degree.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:20

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:13

Weird to define "success" as sponsorship deals on tik tok. There are lots of actual female comedians on the actual telly and touring big venues who do this well. You might be spending too much time on tiktok getting upset.

But if you're judging success by social media alone, check out Laura Ramoso who I mentioned above (plays her Italian dad) she has 1.4 million tiktok followers.

Imogen Andrews (British) has 1/2 million tiktok followers and sometimes plays a man including a recurring male character who is bad at sex.

Expand your comedy horizons beyond your FYP 😂

I love both of them, they have various skits which I love. There are also successful male comedians who play men and a range of characters

Just irks me when I see the ones who play daft women to make it big

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BobbyBrewstersMagicTorch · 10/12/2025 12:15

Any drag actually too

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:13

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

Are they successful though? With sponsorship deals?

There's one bald guy who pretends to be a mum. Funny tbh but I cant think of a woman whos had that success 😬

Weird to define "success" as sponsorship deals on tik tok. There are lots of actual female comedians on the actual telly and touring big venues who do this well. You might be spending too much time on tiktok getting upset.

But if you're judging success by social media alone, check out Laura Ramoso who I mentioned above (plays her Italian dad) she has 1.4 million tiktok followers.

Imogen Andrews (British) has 1/2 million tiktok followers and sometimes plays a man including a recurring male character who is bad at sex.

Expand your comedy horizons beyond your FYP 😂

CreativeGreen · 10/12/2025 12:12

Seems like a lot of people are going 'whatever are you talking about, in the 90s French and Saunders had that one where they were men and also there's Kathy Burke', OP - but I know what you mean. There are a lot of men doing 'girl who lost her vape', 'mum when you come home for Christmas' stuff on Instgram and TikTok, and I agree that it all positions women, and especially often older women, seem to be the butt of the jokes more than men do.

And women do it too - 'Your Boomer Mom' etc - but I haven't seen versions where women do 'Your Stupid Old Dad' type reels.

So I agree, basically.

noidea69 · 10/12/2025 12:12

they arent playing women really, they are taking the piss out of women.

You might not like it that they are shining a light on some of the daft things women do, but these things go both ways and plenty out there doing exactly same by women taking taking piss out of men.

noidea69 · 10/12/2025 12:10

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:46

Are they successful though? With sponsorship deals?

There's one bald guy who pretends to be a mum. Funny tbh but I cant think of a woman whos had that success 😬

That not so smug now women, cant remember her name does them a fair bit.

Abolsutely loads of women do this little skits on insta & tiktok which are them dressing up as and taking the piss out of their husbands. No idea how many of them have sponsorships etc maybe they just arent as funny/successful

Eightdayz · 10/12/2025 12:07

So by that logic, Kathy Burke playing a teenage boy is classed as misandry then?

Give your head a wobble and froth over something else pls.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:05

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 11:57

You need to actually say who you're talking about.

What online comedians with sponsorship deals?

You started out saying the online success of comedians but didn't actually name any apart from Mrs Brown's boys which is a TV show that is mostly panned.

Then vague things about men online getting sponsorship deals.

Who?

Okay I will go onto tiktok and see - i'm sure there are loads of comedians playing the opposite sex but the ones I see is always men doing women

Maybe its just me seeing this but I just do get irritated with men playing women 😭

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gotthatfeeling · 10/12/2025 12:05

Randomcrackedegg · 10/12/2025 12:02

Why do some people try to see misogyny in everything, or have to find something to be offended about? It's people trying to be funny, don't watch it if you don't like it. I don't watch tiktok but have seen some on YouTube. Men and women acting as both males and females. Most of it's shit but the odd one is genius. I love living with siblings and a couple of others. As already said, it's not a new thing.

You don’t need to TRY to see misogyny in everything it IS in everything because it’s everywhere.
You can choose to ignore it if you want to pretend it’s not.

SorrelForbes · 10/12/2025 12:04

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 10/12/2025 11:19

The one that pissed me right of was Madame in Ballet Shoes at The National being played by a man. He was very good but there is a dearth of parts available for middle aged women. What does it actually add it being played by a bloke?

I was infuriated by this and it was one of the things (probably the main one) that took away some of the pleasure of watching the show. The entire book is about women, strong women making their way in the world despite the absent man in their life. I'm still cross about it a year later!

gotthatfeeling · 10/12/2025 12:03

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:01

I dont know any women who have done as well as the men do

Why can't a woman play Mrs browns boys!? Might make it the tiniest bit funny then 😒

It was meant to be played by a woman. It was only that in rehearsal Brendan played Mrs Brown as they hadn’t cast a woman yet and they couldn’t find anyone who played it as well so he did it.