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To think that the success of male comedians online playing eccentric female characters is a true sign of misogyny?

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 10:55

I can think of loads of male comedians who've made it big by acting out characters who are funny, eccentric middle aged women

Its all the rage on tiktok, men just donning a wig and acting like their mums

Cant think of many female comedians doing the same thing and getting success from it 🤔

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 17:00

AnneofBohemia · 10/12/2025 11:47

I think it depends, some of them are very affectionate portrayals and you can tell that the men doing it actually like women. Others not so much

This, you often CAN tell when a man likes women

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 16:58

CreativeGreen · 10/12/2025 12:12

Seems like a lot of people are going 'whatever are you talking about, in the 90s French and Saunders had that one where they were men and also there's Kathy Burke', OP - but I know what you mean. There are a lot of men doing 'girl who lost her vape', 'mum when you come home for Christmas' stuff on Instgram and TikTok, and I agree that it all positions women, and especially often older women, seem to be the butt of the jokes more than men do.

And women do it too - 'Your Boomer Mom' etc - but I haven't seen versions where women do 'Your Stupid Old Dad' type reels.

So I agree, basically.

Thank you!

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 16:56

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 13:15

How is your thread title correct?

You said "To think that the success of male comedians online playing eccentric female characters is a true sign of misogyny? "

But you can't name any successful ones?

And you didn't initially say 'oh I won't name them' you said 'oh there's loads I'll go and look on Tiktok' then came back with nothing.

So..there are no successful comedians online because of their misogyny.

Otherwise you'd be able to point them out as they were presumably the ones you started a thread about.

Or, like I said, in the sea of shit if 34 million uploads on Tiktok a day, you saw shit you don't like and made a thread about it claiming success through misogyny which you can't back up.

Omggg god forbid a woman complain

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ExtraOnions · 10/12/2025 16:29

Ballondor · 10/12/2025 16:24

Unrelated, but Richard Frank’s teacher skits, recounting the plot of Shakespeare plays with “straight up Gen Z vibes” are brilliant.

The ones of the “Panto Director” are great

.. he plays a variety of characters, that are really funny, hence why he makes money

Ballondor · 10/12/2025 16:24

Whatafustercluck · 10/12/2025 14:41

Richard Franks does a stressed out mum character which is scarily accurate (although obviously massively hammed up) which i think is brilliant. I've lost count of the number of times I've collected my kids from school and spun around and half-shouted at them "Tell me about the gecko!" And his back to school skit is very funny too. I'd never thought of it as misogynistic though, just one of his characters (another one being a male pantomime director) and sympathetic to the struggles of mums.

Kathy Burke and Jennifer Saunders have both played male characters, as has Catherine Tate.

Unrelated, but Richard Frank’s teacher skits, recounting the plot of Shakespeare plays with “straight up Gen Z vibes” are brilliant.

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 10/12/2025 16:21

MirrorMirror1247 · 10/12/2025 12:23

I can't get worked up about it. Men have been portraying female characters for hundreds of years, definitely since Shakespeare's time. Since La Voix's appearance on Strictly, I've learned a lot about Chris and his background, he's done drama courses, is a trained make up artist and is a really good vocalist. La Voix is just a character he's created. Drag doesn't strike me as misogynist at all, it's just performers portraying a character.

I found it extremely irritating how the BBC and others reported that 'The Vivienne' had died, when she too was just a character. It also seemed phenomenally disrespectful to James Williams and his family, who were all obviously referring to him as James and using male pronouns.

It would have been perfectly fair for them say "James Williams, best known for the character The Vivienne, has died"... but the way they did it was awful.

When Barry Humphries died, I don't recall seeing any headlines saying "Dame Edna has died".

Whatafustercluck · 10/12/2025 14:41

Richard Franks does a stressed out mum character which is scarily accurate (although obviously massively hammed up) which i think is brilliant. I've lost count of the number of times I've collected my kids from school and spun around and half-shouted at them "Tell me about the gecko!" And his back to school skit is very funny too. I'd never thought of it as misogynistic though, just one of his characters (another one being a male pantomime director) and sympathetic to the struggles of mums.

Kathy Burke and Jennifer Saunders have both played male characters, as has Catherine Tate.

vkfkd · 10/12/2025 14:12

WalkDontWalk · 10/12/2025 11:57

When women dress up to mimic women - Aherne doing Mrs Merton, for instance. a young woman playing a menopausal woman as a comic stereotype - is that punching sideways?

Haha! Good question! I suppose so because every women goes through the menopause if they live long enough (bar some medical conditions and surgeries e.g. I have a friend who will never go through it due to surgery she's had).

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 14:08

Xiaoxiong · 10/12/2025 13:40

I was just thinking of lots of female comedians I see on Insta Reels/Tiktok that play men, hilariously - glad to see you got to Laura Ramoso before I did. Tatty Macleod does brilliant send-ups of French & British men, and there's a woman named Kate Waterfall Hill who plays a bad boss character that in theory could be either sex, but has very male-coded dickhead behaviours.

I do think that the algorithm feeds you what you watch more of. I have almost entirely female comedians in my feed playing characters of both sexes, because I mostly save and like videos of female comedians so I get fed more and more of them.

My feed is also full of home cooking, how to play electric bass, funny videos of stressed mums at christmas, millenials managing gen Z, and a whole category of videos making fun of the Dutch (I am not Dutch).

Ah yes I like Tatty Macleod too! Will check out Kate Waterfall Hill as well. Sounds like we have similar tastes (minus the random anti-Dutch content!)

Citylady88 · 10/12/2025 14:05

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 11:08

So a role that previously belonged to a woman has been given to a man to pretend to be a woman!?!

Cancel the show immediately imo 😭

Brendan O Carroll wrote the books & is now portraying the lead character himself. It's his intellectual property. The film with Angelica Houston was just based on his books but not involving him. I hate the show but him playing his own creation isn't the reason.

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 14:04

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 10/12/2025 13:59

Was looking for films to watch with the kids and saw 'White Girls' and, never watched it, but how can that be ok? ... it's so offensive.

I think drag is as offensive as 'black face' used to be considered ... but I am just a woman so I should shut up really...

Yes it's offensive.

And 21 years old.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 10/12/2025 13:59

Was looking for films to watch with the kids and saw 'White Girls' and, never watched it, but how can that be ok? ... it's so offensive.

I think drag is as offensive as 'black face' used to be considered ... but I am just a woman so I should shut up really...

BauhausOfEliott · 10/12/2025 13:45

Loads of women do exactly this online. You're colossally overthinking this.

Xiaoxiong · 10/12/2025 13:40

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:21

Also there's a woman called Veronika Mirgova- also v big on tik tok and insta - who does male characters, like a characature of a "chavvy"/road man young man. I don't find her that funny but it sounds like similar to what you're watching but rules reversed

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I was just thinking of lots of female comedians I see on Insta Reels/Tiktok that play men, hilariously - glad to see you got to Laura Ramoso before I did. Tatty Macleod does brilliant send-ups of French & British men, and there's a woman named Kate Waterfall Hill who plays a bad boss character that in theory could be either sex, but has very male-coded dickhead behaviours.

I do think that the algorithm feeds you what you watch more of. I have almost entirely female comedians in my feed playing characters of both sexes, because I mostly save and like videos of female comedians so I get fed more and more of them.

My feed is also full of home cooking, how to play electric bass, funny videos of stressed mums at christmas, millenials managing gen Z, and a whole category of videos making fun of the Dutch (I am not Dutch).

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 13:15

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 13:07

No, my thread title is correct

Anyone complaining on aibu is a complaint based on their personal experience

I dont really want to be naming men on my main mn username, but theyre all over tiktok (if you happen to see them, fair enough)

They do pop up for me as I like to laugh, but I feel annoyed seeing men playing women, and then when you see them being themselves, it doesnt work well.

I just would like to see more women play those characters i guess

How is your thread title correct?

You said "To think that the success of male comedians online playing eccentric female characters is a true sign of misogyny? "

But you can't name any successful ones?

And you didn't initially say 'oh I won't name them' you said 'oh there's loads I'll go and look on Tiktok' then came back with nothing.

So..there are no successful comedians online because of their misogyny.

Otherwise you'd be able to point them out as they were presumably the ones you started a thread about.

Or, like I said, in the sea of shit if 34 million uploads on Tiktok a day, you saw shit you don't like and made a thread about it claiming success through misogyny which you can't back up.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 13:07

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 13:03

So the answer is no then.

You started a thread complaining about mem becoming successful through misogyny but couldn't actually identify any

What you meant was "I see men doing this online and I don't like it" which is fine.

But not at all the same as the premise of your thread.

Saying "I see stuff online I don't like" is pretty much the experience of everyone on line since it's saturated with complete shit.

I see lots of racist shit online. It doesn't mean those people are successful or getting sponsorship deals or any of the other things you claimed in your posts and then backtracked from.

You should change your thread title to 'I'm annoyed by things online'.

Tiktok uploads 34 million videos per day. Most of it is shit.

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No, my thread title is correct

Anyone complaining on aibu is a complaint based on their personal experience

I dont really want to be naming men on my main mn username, but theyre all over tiktok (if you happen to see them, fair enough)

They do pop up for me as I like to laugh, but I feel annoyed seeing men playing women, and then when you see them being themselves, it doesnt work well.

I just would like to see more women play those characters i guess

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RamsaySnowsSausage · 10/12/2025 13:07

I do get what you're saying OP and know the type of sketches you mean- where they put clothes pegs on their fingers, tea towel on their head and rip the piss. That feels immature and just a bit hateful- ooh aren't women stupid, vapid and vain or, God forbid, old 🤮.

But also agree with a pp that it's not a set rule and done with skill, humour, even affection, it isn't at all offensive. Paloma Diamond is an international treasure!!

ThatVividReader · 10/12/2025 13:03

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:49

Its an ongoing theme that irks me!

I dont want to name and shame particular comedians tbh, but its all over tiktok

Yeah there are some women who play eccentric women, but its very often men, who's male characters dont get the same popularity

So the answer is no then.

You started a thread complaining about mem becoming successful through misogyny but couldn't actually identify any

What you meant was "I see men doing this online and I don't like it" which is fine.

But not at all the same as the premise of your thread.

Saying "I see stuff online I don't like" is pretty much the experience of everyone on line since it's saturated with complete shit.

I see lots of racist shit online. It doesn't mean those people are successful or getting sponsorship deals or any of the other things you claimed in your posts and then backtracked from.

You should change your thread title to 'I'm annoyed by things online'.

Tiktok uploads 34 million videos per day. Most of it is shit.

RedTagAlan · 10/12/2025 13:02

CustardySergeant · 10/12/2025 12:47

Why did she refuse to watch?

Because she had just become a teen.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:59

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:58

Btw do you realise that what is "all over tik tok" is completely dependant on what you choose to click on and watch?
My tiktok is all aston villa highlights, good comedy because that's what i watch. Oh and heatless curl tutorials lol

Okay frodobiggins

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FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:58

Btw do you realise that what is "all over tik tok" is completely dependant on what you choose to click on and watch?
My tiktok is all aston villa highlights, good comedy because that's what i watch. Oh and heatless curl tutorials lol

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:56

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:53

The examples I gave include 3 different women playing an annoying and oafish Italian dad, an idiotic bloke whose only characteristic is that he's bad at sex and a chavvy road man who can barely speak. Yeah not punching down at all.

I'm going to assume you've never actually seen these cos despite claiming to know about and "love" these female comedians you also claimed above never to have seen women playing men on tik tok or on tv since French and Saunders 😂

I have seen them and love them

But it's not the same

There's a huge trend of men playing women for views and it irks me

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BigSkies2022 · 10/12/2025 12:56

I like Jay Nedaj: his female characters are rude, irrepressible and completely in control of their world, even the illiterate ones. But if you don’t enjoy what you’re watching, don’t watch it. Read a book, watch a film, try something else.

FrodoBiggins · 10/12/2025 12:53

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/12/2025 12:46

They dont punch down. They play a range of characters

I'm speaking about men who get big for playing women, usually their mothers

The examples I gave include 3 different women playing an annoying and oafish Italian dad, an idiotic bloke whose only characteristic is that he's bad at sex and a chavvy road man who can barely speak. Yeah not punching down at all.

I'm going to assume you've never actually seen these cos despite claiming to know about and "love" these female comedians you also claimed above never to have seen women playing men on tik tok or on tv since French and Saunders 😂

Needmorelego · 10/12/2025 12:51

CustardySergeant · 10/12/2025 12:47

Why did she refuse to watch?

Too true to life maybe 😂😂