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To renege on providing free childcare for SC

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Chipmusk · 09/12/2025 22:17

I have SC 8, 9 and 10. We have them for half their school holidays so 6.5w a year (plus during term time).

In the past, DP and I have juggled our working patterns to minimise putting SC in paid childcare. We each get 4 weeks holiday and we did a week abroad all together, so I was doing 2.5 weeks a year of childcare by myself, leaving me .5 to myself (sometimes a few days more depending on bank holidays).

Circumstances have changed and I don’t want to do it anymore. AIBU?

OP posts:
DayOfSummer · 09/12/2025 22:22

Step-children? You are being very generous but YANBU to stop if you can no longer help. Can you reduce support rather than stop completely? Give plenty of notice if you can.

NuffSaidSam · 09/12/2025 22:20

No, YANBU.

Just give them a good amount of notice. Don't spring it on them tomorrow that you can't have them for the Christmas holiday, for example.

PruthePrune · 09/12/2025 22:19

If your circumstaces have changed then they have changed, life happens.

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