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AIBU to ask you to help me create an amazing life for myself?

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Lycheeloverr · 09/12/2025 19:28

I want to try something new as I’m definitely in a rut and feel a bit down and want to live a more exciting and fulfilling life. Can you design one for me?

I’ll tell you a bit about myself. I’m 36 years old, I live in London, own my own flat and have a dog. Single and no family or extended family. I am very close to my ex boyfriend who I’ve known since I was 15 so understands a lot about my life and is my real source of emotional support but that’s it really. Have a small handful of friends. Don’t have many hobbies. Two stone overweight. Spend most evenings doomscrolling.

what can I do to enjoy a better life?

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BreadstickBurglar · 09/12/2025 20:02

How would you like things to feel different? Do you work?

What place makes you feel most at home?

Bleachedlevis · 09/12/2025 20:00

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taralovey · 09/12/2025 19:55

Living in London there must be loads of new things to try.
What about picking a different activity one a week, fortnight, or monthly until you find something you like? Something like line dancing, aqua aerobics, pilates, a craft class maybe jewellery class or where I live there are lots of paint and sip nights. Take yourself to the bingo.
Or travel if you've got pet care, pick a destination and explore. Even a solo touring holiday.

I think the key is to try something new away from your normal.

I've been trying to do it this year, luckily I have a friend who goes along with it 😂

Wordsmithery · 09/12/2025 19:36

Figure out what feeds your soul. It might be seeing people, or being creative, or learning new things, or playing a sport or music, or something else. Then see how to build this into your life. It might be a case of trying lots of new things until you find something that resonates.
Also, think about your job. If it's fulfilling, then fine. If not, explore other possibilities. Work is where we spend most of our day so you don't want to settle for less if you can help it.

CrossChecking · 09/12/2025 19:35

You could try one new thing every 2 weeks/month whatever suits. Take a class, try a sport etc. You will meet new people and might find a passion.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/12/2025 19:33

Following as I need advice too 😄

But just to say that youre not alone! There's loads of us out there not in touch with birth families 🙂

Do you travel? Could you learn Spanish? Do you go to bars to hear live music? What makes you feel things? For me, someone with an amazing voice can touch my soul (cringe 🙈)

Anyway - best of luck. I love tiktok for seeing how women our age are doing their lives, some women are really open about it xx

CraftyNavySeal · 09/12/2025 19:32

I’m similar to you.

I’ve decided to start volunteering so I can help others instead of thinking of myself all the time! Have just applied to something and waiting to hear back.

I also joined a nice gym this year that’s really friendly with socials etc