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School absence rules are super powering the spread of flu

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Pavementworrier · 09/12/2025 19:17

And people will die unnecessarily as a result and it's really annoying

Why the hell can't there be a rule that kids with flu or suspected flu (at least during peak flu season) don't have absences counted??

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TigerRag · 10/12/2025 11:10

ClaudiaWankleman · 10/12/2025 10:51

Children deserve to be able to access education when they are mildly to moderately unwell.

Even if their mild or moderate illness causes serious illness for others?

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 10/12/2025 11:05

Rocknrollstar · 10/12/2025 11:01

If you are walking around you don’t have flu. Too many people say they have flu when they have another virus.

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Anononony · 10/12/2025 11:04

Our school is actually really good, my 5 year old is currently off after being sent home on Friday (he was fine in the morning). He probably could go back in now, his temperature is well controlled with calpol and he's mostly back to normal, but school sent out an email saying to please keep kids at home if they have any temperature or are feeling unwell since it's so close to Christmas.

I've never seen attendance awards or rewards at our school either

Coffeeishot · 10/12/2025 11:04

Underthemagnificentbeechtree · 09/12/2025 19:26

The reason that flu is so contagious is because some people aren’t that ill with it and walk around spreading it.

Yes this. The myth of you have to be flat out with flu is probably one of the reasons it spreads.

angelos02 · 10/12/2025 11:03

Rocknrollstar · 10/12/2025 11:01

If you are walking around you don’t have flu. Too many people say they have flu when they have another virus.

Absolutely this. I think people use the word 'flu' when it is just a bad cold. I've never had flu. Sounds horrific.

Periperi2025 · 10/12/2025 11:02

Ballondor · 09/12/2025 19:22

If a kid has proper flu, they aren’t going to school, rule or no rule, because they won’t have the energy to get out the front door.

Edited

I ended up in hospital with flu last winter (confirmed influenza A), i had 24 hours where i was 'alright' on a couple of paracetamols and strepsils, so dismissed it as a cold and went and did the Aldi shop as normal, and went to an appointment as scheduled and infected her, and she was the same (mild symptoms 2 days after exposure and 24 hours of being able to function normally), who knows how many people we infected between us.

Rocknrollstar · 10/12/2025 11:01

Underthemagnificentbeechtree · 09/12/2025 19:26

The reason that flu is so contagious is because some people aren’t that ill with it and walk around spreading it.

If you are walking around you don’t have flu. Too many people say they have flu when they have another virus.

OhDonuts · 10/12/2025 11:00

ClaudiaWankleman · 10/12/2025 10:51

Children deserve to be able to access education when they are mildly to moderately unwell.

They also deserve to be able to rest at home if they feel too unwell to be in school, but a lot of schools don’t agree. To me it’s counterproductive. Putting pressure on children to be in school when they are unwell (we are talking flu in this thread, not a sniffle), just means the whole schools attendance drops. And yes, they have the flu jabs, but my child’s school have only just rolled them out (too late for the flu outbreak).

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 10/12/2025 10:59

Sartre · 10/12/2025 10:56

If this is true then aside from going into a full blown lockdown again, what do you suggest? If people are asymptomatic or just have a runny nose with zero other symptoms, they’re obviously going to be spreading it around unwittingly. It can’t really be avoided. Just have the vaccine if you’re eligible.

Nothing. I don't suggest anything. I was just pointing out that it's a total myth that flu always leaves you in bed unable to move because I'm sick of seeing it. It's just not true.

For what it's worth, I agree, people need to go about their daily lives if they are well enough to do so, and getting the vaccine will help.

DS has gone in today with a mild cough and runny nose. He would be horrified at being kept off when he's otherwise fine. I have no idea which of the 100s of viruses he is infected with so I'm not going to worry about it.

Terrribletwos · 10/12/2025 10:58

gogomomo2 · 10/12/2025 07:55

If they have proper flu they won’t be in school, it leaves you exhausted.

Not true. Some people with flu can be asymptomatic, others have mild symptoms and others quite awful symptoms. It varies wildly

Sartre · 10/12/2025 10:56

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 10/12/2025 10:54

Wrong!

You can be infected by flu and have no symptoms at all or be only mildly ill.

I can't believe this myth still exists after all that Covid debacle.

If this is true then aside from going into a full blown lockdown again, what do you suggest? If people are asymptomatic or just have a runny nose with zero other symptoms, they’re obviously going to be spreading it around unwittingly. It can’t really be avoided. Just have the vaccine if you’re eligible.

Pavementworrier · 10/12/2025 10:54

Where I come from it's very normal to take kids out of school a bit early or during term for holidays because holidays are education too. Nothing falls over.

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Sartre · 10/12/2025 10:54

Look, if a child has flu they shouldn’t be able to attend school. I’ve only had it once to my knowledge and I was a child, I couldn’t move for at least a week. It knocks you out entirely, you have a raging fever and become so exhausted you’re unable to move.

All kids should have the flu spray anyway, as should vulnerable adults. Just use common sense and don’t send them in if they have a fever but if it’s just a runny nose and bit of a cough when they’re otherwise fine, of course they should come in.

LittleAlexHornesPocket · 10/12/2025 10:54

gogomomo2 · 10/12/2025 07:55

If they have proper flu they won’t be in school, it leaves you exhausted.

Wrong!

You can be infected by flu and have no symptoms at all or be only mildly ill.

I can't believe this myth still exists after all that Covid debacle.

Pavementworrier · 10/12/2025 10:54

NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 10/12/2025 10:42

It seems @Pavementworrier isn't bothered enough to return to the thread but it's a totally daft idea to suggest that children can be off whenever they like with "suspected" flu. Thats free rein for term time holidays with no repercussions or fines, what a gift to have all siblings off at the same time

I think punishing children for being sick is insane and arguably illegal in terms of the equality act. But I'm sure you're onto something... Somewhere

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ClaudiaWankleman · 10/12/2025 10:51

Children deserve to be able to access education when they are mildly to moderately unwell.

OhDonuts · 10/12/2025 10:47

The joke about attendance is during covid entire classes were sent home for a week if one child coughed, they also sent them home when the teachers were on strike. But dare to be unwell now? No fucking way, they have to be in.

NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 10/12/2025 10:42

It seems @Pavementworrier isn't bothered enough to return to the thread but it's a totally daft idea to suggest that children can be off whenever they like with "suspected" flu. Thats free rein for term time holidays with no repercussions or fines, what a gift to have all siblings off at the same time

AngelsWithSilverWings · 10/12/2025 10:35

@PaisleyGilmourStreet I can assure you my daughter's absence from school or college has always been necessary. The drug infusions and regular hospital consultations are required to keep her alive. The drugs stop her body attacking itself but they also mean she is permanently immunosuppressed so picks up bugs all the time but soldiers on.

Please consider yourself lucky that you have no understanding of what that is like to deal with. She will have to deal with this for the rest of her life unless a cure is found.

firstofallimadelight · 10/12/2025 10:29

Ballondor · 09/12/2025 19:22

If a kid has proper flu, they aren’t going to school, rule or no rule, because they won’t have the energy to get out the front door.

Edited

That’s a myth

AngelsWithSilverWings · 10/12/2025 10:28

My daughter's attendance is already too low this year purely due to hospital appts in London ( we live in Essex) and then she had a couple of days in hospital and a day to recover after an operation. Now she has to have a day off every two weeks for the next few months for a drug infusion.

She has never actually had a day off of college due to being unwell.

Today she has a heavy cold and is feeling rotten but has gone in because she is worried about her attendance.

Luckily college are a lot more relaxed about it all than her school were - they threatened us with a referral to social services after she had 16 hospital appts in three months. I pointed out to the school that I'd have had social services knocking on my door if I'd sent her to school instead of taking her to her hospital appts!

Spudthespanner · 10/12/2025 10:28

In Scotland, if you’re ill you’re off. None of this attendance bullshit.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/12/2025 10:25

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 10/12/2025 09:59

I agree in a way (ie in the infection control sense).
The arbitrary approach to school attendance is frustrating (my own daughter is rarely off, she's been off school ill just one day since summer. I think probably most pupil absence is unnecessary tbh). I've no idea how much this attendance obsession is applied to teachers? Because teacher attendance is my biggest frustration. My daughter's English teacher has been off sick for several weeks, and it's affected her confidence with her upcoming English prelim.

what do you suppose all these parents are letting kids have unnecessary time off for op?

SleepingStandingUp · 10/12/2025 10:23

PaisleyGilmourStreet · 10/12/2025 09:59

I agree in a way (ie in the infection control sense).
The arbitrary approach to school attendance is frustrating (my own daughter is rarely off, she's been off school ill just one day since summer. I think probably most pupil absence is unnecessary tbh). I've no idea how much this attendance obsession is applied to teachers? Because teacher attendance is my biggest frustration. My daughter's English teacher has been off sick for several weeks, and it's affected her confidence with her upcoming English prelim.

omg the bitchy. imagine becoming a teacher knowing you are susceptible to bring ill like the rest of society. only those impervious to contagions should dedicate their lives to putting your kids needs ahead of their own health and wellbeing.

molifly · 10/12/2025 10:21

What about work places not supporting parents to have time off work ill children? I think that's half the battle. I know when my kids are ill I'm not worried about them having a day off school if they need it, I'm worried about works response if I need a day off.

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