To refuse to be a witness against colleague??

According to the OP's original post, she flashed her boobs, not her bra.

Sounds you have low standards for acceptable behaviour.

That's still not okay.

Seriously?? A woman flashed her bra. Get an actual grip!

When my DS was at uni a girl slapped his bum in a nightclub. He told the bouncer, they found her, forced her to apologise and kicked her out of the club.

All the OP saw was her flashing her bra ffs. Anything else was subsequent gossip!

At a drunken party? Yes seen it several times. Everyone laughed and that was it. Why all the fucking drama?

All the OP saw was her flashing her bra ffs. Anything else was subsequent gossip!

Op has been asked for a witness statement (a statement of fact).
She hasn’t been asked for her opinions on the matter because they’re utterly irrelevant.

If a man pulled down his trousers to flash his boxers would that be okay?

This woman was clearly predatory. She sexually
assaulted somebody.

Seriously?? A woman flashed her bra. Get an actual grip!

This has to be one of the worse threads I’ve ever read on here.

You lied and let a sexual abuser get away with it.

You're disgusting, almost as bad as the person who sexually assaulted her colleague.

Serve her right if she does, frankly. She needs a wake up call.

But clearly someone was upset since a complaint was lodged.

You might not mind being groped but you don't speak for everyone.

People have a right to be safe from unwanted sexual touches at work. I never thought that was a controversial statement but this thread has shown me otherwise.

Depressing.

All I can say is oh my God, poor Jenny. I was a blackout drunk in the past and had some morifying things happen. She has my sympathy. I had to give up wine completely as it turned me into a completely different person. Hope she doesn’t get sacked.

Christmas party, a few nights ago. At a hotel, as it was timed with a big sales meeting, so everyone staying over, 200 ish people, free bar as well as a formal dinner.
Drinking very much encouraged. Staff ages ranged from early 20s to the senior staff in their 50s. Everyone VERY merry.
One colleague, let’s call her Jenny, got a bit carried away, throwing shapes on the dance floor, too touchy feely with men and women apparently then groped one older male colleagues testicles at which point friends grabbed hold of her and steered her off up stairs to her room.
She escaped. Came back down - paralytic at this point - and flashed her boobs at a senior male colleague! In the side bar area so fewer people around me being one of them. Another colleague and I intervened and friends got her again and put her to bed, this time someone stayed with her.

Now I’m being asked to come and tell what I saw to her line manager. I’m in training for an event at the moment so it’s common knowledge that I wasn’t drinking and was sober.

I really don’t want to. She’s lovely, usually quiet and sensible, the company got her poleaxed and now want to carpet her. I’m not a bloody snitch plus - why can’t the guy she flashed at say what happened. Why do I need to be involved???

I’ve been working away since the party so have no idea what is being said in office other than the OMG, Jenny! What was she doing??? Messages. But trust me, there’s plenty of stories from that night… so she’s in good company.

YABU - snitch on her. A man doing that would be in so much trouble.

YANBU - deny seeing anything. If the company ply everyone with that much booze there’s bound to be uncouth behaviour and they probably have enough witnesses already.

Sadly I'm not surprised. This blasé attitude is becoming more and more prevalent, and it's horrifying.

I can't believe sexual assault is being brushed off as, among other things, a silly stunt.

Some absolute wrong 'uns on this thread.

I can't believe sexual assault is being brushed off as, among other things, a silly stunt.

Some absolute wrong 'uns on this thread.

@Thatsalineallright.

I have seen plenty of other women's bras and even boobs at Christmas parties. I have been lightly groped by very drunk people on 3 occasions that I can remember and do you know what - I still don't consider myself a "victim". I realised these people were very drunk and behaving totally out of character. They were all beyond apologetic and mortified when they sobered up and discovered what they had done.

None of this was ideal behaviour but I consider it pretty harmless in the context and in the grand scheme of things. Not everything in life (or Christmas parties) has to be over dramatised. Presumably the OP takes a similar view, hence her decision. Not everyone is offended by everything.

Other opinions are available 😉

@Thatsalineallright.

I have seen plenty of other women's bras and even boobs at Christmas parties. I have been lightly groped by very drunk people on 3 occasions that I can remember and do you know what - I still don't consider myself a "victim". I realised these people were very drunk and behaving totally out of character. They were all beyond apologetic and mortified when they sobered up and discovered what they had done.

None of this was ideal behaviour but I consider it pretty harmless in the context and in the grand scheme of things. Not everything in life (or Christmas parties) has to be over dramatised. Presumably the OP takes a similar view, hence her decision. Not everyone is offended by everything.

Other opinions are available 😉