Page 6 | To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

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gemful · 10/12/2025 13:37

Delatron · 10/12/2025 13:24

Initially I wouldn’t think anything as it’s none of my business.

As you have given out further info I would silently think two brand new cars are not the best way to spend your money if as a couple you’re not loaded. Cars depreciate so much.

But it’s your money to spend as you wish.

As a couple we are on more and have one quite old car…

You would have been better off not spending lots on new cars and diverting money on to pensions/savings based on your earnings.

We pay quite a bit into our pensions 17% between us and employer. All bonuses go into our pensions. We have ample savings leftover .

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mondaytosunday · 10/12/2025 13:28

Other than the fact I don’t know a single soul who has two new cars (whether very wealthy or not) sounds like your bog standard family.
I’ve only twice bought a new car, my very first and my last, bought just before the lock down in 2020 so got 20% cash discount. I’m now trying to think of anyone I know who actually owns two cars even. One family but her car is her son’s old car which was second hand when he bought it!

Delatron · 10/12/2025 13:24

Initially I wouldn’t think anything as it’s none of my business.

As you have given out further info I would silently think two brand new cars are not the best way to spend your money if as a couple you’re not loaded. Cars depreciate so much.

But it’s your money to spend as you wish.

As a couple we are on more and have one quite old car…

You would have been better off not spending lots on new cars and diverting money on to pensions/savings based on your earnings.

cha04 · 10/12/2025 13:23

gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

My first thought is you’re a jealous stalker

magicalmadmadamim · 10/12/2025 13:15

Sounds like new money but that is all.

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gemful · 10/12/2025 13:14

Casperroonie · 10/12/2025 12:35

My first thought was that you need to get a job or a hobby and mind your own business tbh. Oh, and to be happy for other people.

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And now that you have RTFT?

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gemful · 10/12/2025 13:13

333FionaG · 10/12/2025 12:33

Up to their eyeballs in credit card debt.

RTFT

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LittleMissyHappyMe · 10/12/2025 13:10

my first thought was ‘I don’t understand what I’m supposed to have an thoughts on’
So I it again & then only thing that stood out was hairdryerS (plural)
why more than 1 hairdryer?

Memeyoulater · 10/12/2025 12:52

normal going on for PRE children people

Umidontknow · 10/12/2025 12:48

I'm wondering why you care?

budgiegirl · 10/12/2025 12:48

TBH I thought…like most of you…we are an average family

To be fair, Mumsnet seems to have a very skewed view of what is 'average'. Depending where you are in the country, you are most likely in the top 10% of earners, and certainly way above the median household income.

Nothing wrong with that at all, and good for you, but it's definitely not 'average'.

But it's not anyone else's business, and I've no idea why your neighbour thinks its her place to comment on what you spend your money on.

MumAgainAt41 · 10/12/2025 12:45

I don’t understand why you’re asking about people’s thoughts on them?

Casperroonie · 10/12/2025 12:35

gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

My first thought was that you need to get a job or a hobby and mind your own business tbh. Oh, and to be happy for other people.

Menonut · 10/12/2025 12:34

I’ve just learnt not to talk about money. We had friends that flashed about in designer clothes, top of the range cars etc but it was all on credit and they rented their house. If they lost their jobs they’d be left with literally nothing, but to an outsider they looked totally successful.

333FionaG · 10/12/2025 12:33

Up to their eyeballs in credit card debt.

FloralHighNotes · 10/12/2025 11:51

Why should we think anything? They sound like a very ordinary family.

surreygirly · 10/12/2025 11:38

I don't have any thoughts
I am not interested
I live my own life

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:30

gemful · 09/12/2025 18:55

I could take on an evening role I suppose…

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Absolutely. Anything would help!

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:29

Thatsalineallright · 09/12/2025 19:55

Really? If the 2k a month is invested and assuming an average 5% return, that'll be worth 1.6 million in 30 years time.

Considering that they're also paying down the mortgage and so building equity there, along with the fact that they'll be able to save more as their incomes go up or when their children are independent, I'd say they're doing very well.

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It's clear we have different definitions of doing very well.

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:28

Yourlifeinyourhands · 09/12/2025 20:48

2k savings a month isn’t a lot?
Are you mad? Some people can’t save a penny! I think 25k a year is pretty good!!

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Yes, well, some people clearly don't aspire to be better or have better.

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:27

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 09/12/2025 21:32

I can't tell if @DoubleHardBastard is serious ... but obviously get a really nice iron if you're taking in laundry.

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Absolutely! The fancier the better. Obviously that's a fair amount of upfront cost but soon you'll be earning plenty to cover that 😊

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:26

Wednesday101 · 09/12/2025 22:41

Is this a joke?! I save £100 / month!

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I think you need to think about taking on extra work. £100 a month is a measly amount, what if something terrible were to happen??

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:26

Lyraloo · 09/12/2025 22:56

Don’t be silly, you have absolutely no need to take on further work, ignore the idiot that suggested that, they are clearly trying to be clever and pretend they have more money then you!

I have no reason to pretend and I'm clearly not an idiot when I know what is ample and what is not 🤔

Catladywithoutacat · 10/12/2025 11:24

They could have inherited money or be influencers I would mind my business though good for them

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gemful · 10/12/2025 07:03

BobblyBobbleHat · 10/12/2025 02:20

I don't mind some newbuilds, though I prefer older homes, many aren't draughty, damp or cold and they tend to be far more homely. I'd wonder why you went for a semi 5 bed rather than a 4 bed detached, as I would always prioritise detached, but I wouldnt think much else. I'd perhaps wonder if you thought expensive brands necessarily meant quality, that's if I could be really fussed to think about it.
Ultimately, I think just ignore your neighbour and family, they can think what they like, if you and your family are happy thats what matters.

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We wanted to be more central having already lived rurally in a detached house, we found the time in the car and the maintenance on the gardens to be not our thing, it was fine when the dc were young but to be honest, I just couldn’t justify being a personal taxi and spending over an hour of my day in the car now my kids can’t walk to their clubs and to School so it’s extremely handy and works better for our family life right now.

yes, and yes, in my experience older houses are generally damp and draughty I’m aware that they’re not all like that I . But it’s just not what I need or want right now.

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