Page 4 | To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

DottyLottieLou · 11/12/2025 02:18

HamptonPlace · 10/12/2025 17:53

yeah with a v ample income for not the SE living in a new build seems very odd. Always seems a bit how would you say ... umm .. common (?) to have a house with no character and a new car...

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🤣🤣🤣

DottyLottieLou · 11/12/2025 02:14

Did you notice everyone was "just normal people", "lucky them" etc, until they knew it was you. Then it was " ew, new build", " you don't save enough", " you don't earn much", " bad things are round the corner". Welcome to mumsnet 🤣

Phoenixfire1988 · 11/12/2025 00:36

Whats the question ? How others live isn't my concern tbh some people have more than me and I have alot more than others 🤷‍♀️

Ceelee29 · 10/12/2025 21:56

my first thoughts:
just another normal family

what are we meant to think??

Christmastimeandwine · 10/12/2025 19:45

gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

I would say normal mid class family! I’m really intrigued on how you afford to save £2k a month! I have similar house price, similar house hold earnings (+£35k more p/a) and we can barley save £1k a month, own my car outright (7 years old) and partners company car x

Penisbeakeralltheclassics · 10/12/2025 19:29

Drinkingontheterrace · 10/12/2025 19:20

In what world is saving 2k a month not ample?

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I think she was being sarcastic

Drinkingontheterrace · 10/12/2025 19:20

DoubleHardBastard · 09/12/2025 18:54

Kindly, I'd hardly say 2k savings a month is ample. Are you able to retrain to earn more? Take in ironing? Odd jobs? Dog walking? Anything to get those savings pumped up into a more acceptable and actual ample amount.

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In what world is saving 2k a month not ample?

LifeSurvior · 10/12/2025 18:55

gemful · 09/12/2025 12:35

Honestly I don’t brag, I don’t feel any of it is worth bragging about. My sister and friends will visit and have said things. My sister especially, she asks a lot of questions. I have argued with her on this. 😭 she asked me what I earn and nearly had a heart attack. I earn 62k. She said she assumed I was on half that. I try not to talk about money tbh.

For someone who tries to not talk about money you are doing amazingly well talking about your money😂

Look I get it OP, everyone needs a bit of validation they are doing alright in life but you do come across a bit Hyecinth Bucket ifynwim.
You shouldn't care what other people think or how your household looks/ comes across to other people.
To start a thread basically asking what random strangers think of your income/lifestyle is a bit strange to me.

KilkennyCats · 10/12/2025 18:54

SleeplessInWherever · 10/12/2025 18:15

I think was checking if it’s reasonable for her neighbours and family members to make snide comments about the nice things she has. Which it isn’t!

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Why go on to explain her finances in such forensic detail, then?
The neighbours don’t know about them and nobody on here cares.

Sarah2368 · 10/12/2025 18:37

My thoughts are how on earth do you know so much about this family? ( or is it yours) Who knows what hairdryer someone owns? I probably wouldn’t notice someone had a brand new car unless they told me! I don’t really value expensive possessions. I do have a designer purse, but only because it was £30 ish in a sale.

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gemful · 10/12/2025 18:32

HamptonPlace · 10/12/2025 17:53

yeah with a v ample income for not the SE living in a new build seems very odd. Always seems a bit how would you say ... umm .. common (?) to have a house with no character and a new car...

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Yeah I don’t like the old character houses…maybe I am common 😂 but i suppose new builds are there for those of us who don’t. Wouldn’t it be boring if we all liked the same things?!

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SleeplessInWherever · 10/12/2025 18:15

KilkennyCats · 10/12/2025 17:48

If you were that happy, op, you wouldn’t be on here looking for validation / applause, or whatever it is you wanted from this thread 🤷🏻‍♀️
What exactly did you want, I still can’t work it out?

I think was checking if it’s reasonable for her neighbours and family members to make snide comments about the nice things she has. Which it isn’t!

HamptonPlace · 10/12/2025 17:53

gemful · 09/12/2025 16:57

Because it’s a good new build! Very reputable company tbh. I was also fed up of draughty Victorian houses that required heating day in and day out! This is the first house we have lived in that’s warm and without an ounce of damp. That is worth spades to me.

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yeah with a v ample income for not the SE living in a new build seems very odd. Always seems a bit how would you say ... umm .. common (?) to have a house with no character and a new car...

Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 17:51

gemful · 10/12/2025 17:46

Well paid at the time…for his age. He has never been interested in management etc. he took a sort of side step I suppose. Look it really doesn’t matter, both of us are happy with where we work, the flexibility and work/life balance is worth its weight in gold for us.

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Good! Being happy with your work is the most important thing. As I say upthread, I think you’re doing well. Own house, good pension, savings, bounced back from a teen pregnancy, husband & kids, holidays etc. Ignore your sister / neighbour, they seem really uninformed anyway.

KilkennyCats · 10/12/2025 17:48

If you were that happy, op, you wouldn’t be on here looking for validation / applause, or whatever it is you wanted from this thread 🤷🏻‍♀️
What exactly did you want, I still can’t work it out?

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gemful · 10/12/2025 17:46

Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 17:36

Walked into a “very well paid” graduate job but only progressed to £70k in 15 years? What happened? I’m the same age, my first graduate job wasn’t exactly in the very well paid category and I reached £70k within 5 years. All my peers did.

Well paid at the time…for his age. He has never been interested in management etc. he took a sort of side step I suppose. Look it really doesn’t matter, both of us are happy with where we work, the flexibility and work/life balance is worth its weight in gold for us.

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DropHopStop · 10/12/2025 17:41

In response to your original Q:

Honestly, I think the set up is nothing remarkable on paper, it sounds "average", however many working people struggle to afford these things so I get why people might be curious.

I wouldn't think a lottery win, I would think either large income or family help. My DH would say "credit cards".

My point of reference would be myself: I have a good income but don't think I could afford your lifestyle.

Reading your updates: Good for you. You've clearly worked and saved hard. Bought a house at the right time. Enjoy it.

Thatsalineallright · 10/12/2025 17:41

DoubleHardBastard · 10/12/2025 11:29

It's clear we have different definitions of doing very well.

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Clearly. By my definition, saving over 20 percent of your take home pay every month while also overpaying on the mortgage, raising kids, and paying pensions is doing very well.

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gemful · 10/12/2025 17:39

Veryxonfused · 10/12/2025 17:20

What did the neighbour actually say that prompted this extremely goady and detailed apost? 😂 I’m in a very similar position to you (but I’m assuming from how long you’ve been working that I’m a few years younger) so not saying this out of jealousy but this thread has made me cringe

It’s in the thread 😂😂😬😬

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Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 17:36

Walked into a “very well paid” graduate job but only progressed to £70k in 15 years? What happened? I’m the same age, my first graduate job wasn’t exactly in the very well paid category and I reached £70k within 5 years. All my peers did.

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gemful · 10/12/2025 17:31

Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 16:55

I’ve just caught up on the OP’s posts and I’m so confused by it all lol. I’m invested now though 😂 and want to know how she got on the property ladder 13 years ago aged 21 when she was fresh out of uni with a newborn. Inheritance?

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My dh is a year older than me, he walked into a graduate role that was very well paid at the time. We had both worked throughout uni. Didn’t live away from home. We had a good deposit and the house was cheap as it was a doer upper and rural. We extended it a little and refurbished it where we could and made a great profit on it. Right place…right time.

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Veryxonfused · 10/12/2025 17:20

What did the neighbour actually say that prompted this extremely goady and detailed apost? 😂 I’m in a very similar position to you (but I’m assuming from how long you’ve been working that I’m a few years younger) so not saying this out of jealousy but this thread has made me cringe

TMMC1 · 10/12/2025 17:04

That you have some misplaced jealousy.

EarthlingsAhoy · 10/12/2025 16:57

Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 16:55

I’ve just caught up on the OP’s posts and I’m so confused by it all lol. I’m invested now though 😂 and want to know how she got on the property ladder 13 years ago aged 21 when she was fresh out of uni with a newborn. Inheritance?

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Magic wand?

Crushed23 · 10/12/2025 16:55

EarthlingsAhoy · 10/12/2025 16:52

@Crushed23 agreed. My dc has Maths/Economics degree and their graduate starting salary is £70k. They did work hard to get this though and certainly wouldn't have achieved it if pregnant!

I’ve just caught up on the OP’s posts and I’m so confused by it all lol. I’m invested now though 😂 and want to know how she got on the property ladder 13 years ago aged 21 when she was fresh out of uni with a newborn. Inheritance?