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To ask you honestly what are your first thoughts on seeing this?

644 replies

gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

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Theslummymummy · 09/12/2025 16:00

My first thoughts are why do you care what people think of this

PinkMagpie · 09/12/2025 15:59

beefthief · 09/12/2025 11:46

This seems entirely normal unless you're going to drip feed that it's actually Fred and Rose West

This has really made me laugh 🤣

Penisbeakeralltheclassics · 09/12/2025 15:57

gemful · 09/12/2025 14:24

The neighbour said “new car!? Is one new car not enough?” I laughed (nervously) and said “ah well I can’t let him have all the fun!” She then said…it’s a bit overkill no?…or did you win the lotto?head tilt…

Really?! Bloody hell, I’d have said fuck off!

Moggies3 · 09/12/2025 15:57

And the point of the question is?...

EarthlingsAhoy · 09/12/2025 15:55

gemful · 09/12/2025 15:07

We bought our first house about 13 years ago and we made a good enough profit on that. We used 120k as a deposit between savings and the money made. We kept savings back also. We traded in our older cars when buying the new ones. I spent 25k on mine cash wise.

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Toyota Corolla is a fairly normal car and not showy, so don't what the neighbour is on about.
I'm guessing you do have quite a large mortgage and ltv though based on that deposit, which personally would concern me more. I think I'd have been paying more of the mortgage off than buying a brand new car, but it's each to their own.

Howdiditenduplikeit · 09/12/2025 15:55

I’d say they were status driven - I’d think they were possibly the first generation in their family to earn well so like to show that off.

good for them.

Left · 09/12/2025 15:53

OHHHH SORRY!!!!

Missed the updates and context, I’m a muppet 😬 🙈

LovingLimePeer · 09/12/2025 15:52

I had 3 thoughts.
Family are either:

  1. Wealthy (earning >200k as a household)
  2. Not very good with money and probably don't have much of a pension.
  3. Or drug dealing

But I'm really judgemental and so tight that I wouldn't even buy a new car if I was a billionaire!

RainbowBagels · 09/12/2025 15:52

Does you sister look down on you? You wotk full time in a professional job. Its not hard to guess you have a good income. It sounds like she thinks you wouldn't be able to earn that much. Do you work in the public sector? Lots of people think teachers/ civil servants etc dont earn that much but that is a full time middle management salary where I am.

Redpeach · 09/12/2025 15:52

gemful · 09/12/2025 12:35

Honestly I don’t brag, I don’t feel any of it is worth bragging about. My sister and friends will visit and have said things. My sister especially, she asks a lot of questions. I have argued with her on this. 😭 she asked me what I earn and nearly had a heart attack. I earn 62k. She said she assumed I was on half that. I try not to talk about money tbh.

Apart from on the internet

Left · 09/12/2025 15:51

gemful · 09/12/2025 11:44

NC’d for this

A couple. 2 dc (no childcare)
A brand new, new build house. Mortgaged.
Two brand new cars.
They don’t dress designer but the present well.
She has a few designer handbags.
gadgets are always good brands, latest I phones, shark hairdryers, robot hoover.
very organised and tidy home, both work full time in good jobs.
They do family outings every few weekends but not every weekend.
Honesty, what are your first thoughts?!

Inconsistent use of grammar, full stops not always used and capitals not always at the start of sentences. Some minor spelling errors. Probably isn’t a writer.

Jamesblonde2 · 09/12/2025 15:51

Average family, why?
Probably up to their eyes in debt mind you, so many seem to be who have bags and new cars.
Loads if fake bags of course.
They holiday in Turkey and Dubai don’t they?

adaywithy · 09/12/2025 15:50

nothing

Ohnobackagain · 09/12/2025 15:48

My first thought was ‘good luck to them’ @gemful

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gemful · 09/12/2025 15:48

DoubleHardBastard · 09/12/2025 15:38

You're earning 130k as a couple and they think you've won the lottery? Are they rich, OP?

When they gave you the head tilt, you should have said "maybe" followed by a tinkly laugh and your very own head tilt.

Seriously though, I'd be saving more and spending less. It's not a very large joint income and hard times can fall on anyone at anytime.

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We have ample savings. We save over 2k per month. Pensions are good etc.

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TheMorgenmuffel · 09/12/2025 15:47

Nothing you describe would cause me to have any thoughts at all. Nothing about it would get my attention.
I don't mean that in a bad way 😁 its just unremarkable for want of a better word.
Your neighbour is weird though.

Rosealea · 09/12/2025 15:39

I honestly don't think anything.

DoubleHardBastard · 09/12/2025 15:38

gemful · 09/12/2025 14:24

The neighbour said “new car!? Is one new car not enough?” I laughed (nervously) and said “ah well I can’t let him have all the fun!” She then said…it’s a bit overkill no?…or did you win the lotto?head tilt…

You're earning 130k as a couple and they think you've won the lottery? Are they rich, OP?

When they gave you the head tilt, you should have said "maybe" followed by a tinkly laugh and your very own head tilt.

Seriously though, I'd be saving more and spending less. It's not a very large joint income and hard times can fall on anyone at anytime.

PeachySmile2 · 09/12/2025 15:38

Are you jealous?

Wishingitwaswinter · 09/12/2025 15:38

Sounds like Just an average family

Bikergran · 09/12/2025 15:23

Why should I think anything? If they were unemployed I might wonder where the money was coming from, but other than that why should anybody give a toss about their income and how they spend it?

tillythemoo · 09/12/2025 15:21

Being a bit more negative Nancy here, I assume the cars are on finance and they did a help to buy scheme. They have family help which allows them to spend a bit more than others, plus maybe her/his mum does the cleaning for them.

PrestonHood121 · 09/12/2025 15:20

Normal working family with a mum who likes her nice handbags and styling tools?

SchrodingersKoala · 09/12/2025 15:17

How is their house so tidy and organised with ft jobs, does she clearout regularly and have a cleaner 🤔 asking for a friend?

Just sounds like a normal working family with 2 decent jobs that can afford to probably finance themselves to the hilt (so long as no one loses their job!!)! I know a lot of people who have a v similar lifestyle.

Unless your point in the post was the no childcare part?

HonoraBridge · 09/12/2025 15:11

I don’t really have any particular thoughts. What are you expecting?